Unwanted Guest.....

Cottage_Economy

RossyRed wrote: »

Started to feel better at the end of page 1. Not so sure now we're on page 2. Maybe 3 will be better

Why?

At the end of the day you give your father the power to hurt you. An injunction will only make him rub his hands together because he knows he has caused you trouble, and you took what was probably an idle boast seriously. He will know he still has the power to hurt you. It may even pique his interest in attending for a bit of sport.

Niki is right about the law, but I can tell you now that up and down the country in thousands of venues there are people primed by the bride and groom to act as bouncers for unwanted family members who have turned up on purpose to cause trouble.

I had no intention of being held to ransom on my wedding day by my sperm donor, so I spoke to my vicar, weighed up my options and planned accordingly. Weigh up your options and do what you have to do to make sure your day is a happy one.

Cottage_Economy

DKLS wrote: »

On what basis could he challenge the validity of the wedding?, surely if you have hired a venue such as a church you have the rights to use that facility and bar whomever you like.

I was half expecting my ex to turn up at my wedding, I did brief a could of friends who were on ex alert, but thankfully she didn't turn up.

Maybe because there is a point in a service I think where anyone who knows any impediment to the marriage must come forward and declare it etc etc?

RossyRed

Thanks again. My comment was slightly tongue in cheek.

Been through far more than this especially with my sister and the recent sneer campaign.

I'm trying to be calculated in my thoughts and the people an responses on here have helped immensely.

The one thing I can't do as mentioned is show him that he can effect my thoughts. However I do have to have some balance with the day in question.

Nicki

It's also about weighing up how big a **** (insert rude word of your choice) said relative might be. It's one thing to have someone create a small scene at a wedding (I've been at weddings where this has happened and life has gone on). I personally would be stressed and devastated if I got threatened with having my marriage annulled on the birth of my first child though. Or had inheritances challenged on the death of one spouse, or funeral arrangements or decisions about health care to be taken by next of kin for example. Sadly some people have no bottom to the depths they won't descend to to cause problems, so you sometimes need to close down opportunities.

CH27

RossyRed wrote: »

If my wedding is invalidated because my MIL to be punches him in the face then it's a small price to pay....

Make sure it's videoed so it can earn you some money on you've been framed

Nicki

RossyRed wrote: »

Thanks again. My comment was slightly tongue in cheek.

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Mine too

Though it might be fun to see the bride' smother resplendent in hat lay him out down the central aisle...

RossyRed

Well he tarnished my graduation, first house purchase, birth of first child, birth of second child, christening 1 and christening 2.

Lovely guy

RossyRed

I'm going to take stock and not worry for the foreseeable.

Can't tell OH as it will worry her but hard as never kept anything from her.

Nicki

Sounds an enormous whatever in that case.

Is there an option of having someone he wants to impress be at the wedding as someone else suggested? Someone he would not like to see his true colours?

GobbledyGook

What's the worst he can do?.......He can turn up, cause a bit of a kerfuffle whilst you wait on the police and then leave.

Worrying for months, changing you wedding plans and letting him dictate your day will show him that he is important because he can make you dance to his fiddle.

Going ahead with your wedding as you planned it, as you wanted, despite his current threats to turn up and going ahead with the rest of the ceremony and evening even if he does turn up shows him that he's not important. His threats are not important and he is nothing in your life.