Letter from School quoting Abusive Language

CH27

cte1111 wrote: »

I gave my husband the letter without any comment, other than that I had received it today from the school. He was confused as to why we had been sent the explicit quotes. He thought it was inappropriate for the head to send us the transcript. He also said that there was a danger that some children could possibly read it, due to parents possibly leaving it lying around.

So he wasn't bothered that your daughter had been exposed to this stuff?
You both don't want to help the school to protect her?

fufu_banterwaite

cte1111 wrote: »

I'm not particularly delighted about being called a slumbering parent who has a child with no boundaries.

Oh for goodness sake stop whinging - you are sounding like a child now! That post said:

"I suspect the head thought it necessary to shock to wake up slumbering parents and make them take action."

It wasn't calling you a slumbering parent!

Why did you even bother posting this? You've made it quite clear what you think, you aren't listening to other people's views as no one agrees with you and now you are moaning like a petulant little child as no one agrees with you. What do you expect to get out of this thread?

You don't think you should have got the letter - we get your point, now just move on!

Top_Girl

I'd imagine the parents who would leave something like that around where their children could read it would also be less cautious of other influences on them.

You need to know the explicit nature of what is being discussed between your child's peers. Not least because she spends 6 hours a day, 5 days a week, 38 weeks a year in the same environment as these children. Them not being in the same classroom is fairly irrelevant as I can't imagine they don't mix in the playground and at dinnertime, which is when these things would be discussed on school premises.

You now know that there are children in your daughter's year who do discuss these matters and it opens the gateway for you to sit her down and have a good talk with her about the things that get discussed in the playground, with the bonus of you being forewarned of the potential graphic nature of some of the things she might have heard.

The head should be applauded for taking these measures to try and contain and control these behaviours.

Blackpool_Saver

I am a little concerned at how VERY sensitive you are. This letter is nothing compared with what lies ahead in secondary education. To be honest you need to face the facts that unless you GRADUALLY allow your child to be exposed to the real world, you will not be doing them any favours.
My childhood was far too sheltered and when my family were no longer able to shield me, reality was a very big shock.
Your child needs to learn that some people use vulgar and offensive language, it doesn't mean she/he should BUT, you don't want them to be bullied at school because they are the only child who has never heard bad/offensive language.

lostinrates

cte1111 wrote: »

I'm not particularly delighted about being called a slumbering parent who has a child with no boundaries. This isn't what I said in my posts, .

And this is why the school had to send a transcript.

You feel people have interpreted, and you have interpreted from what they have written.

If parents are to parent they need the information to make decisions about how appropriate their boundaries and rules are, not just about Internet but about school interactions and, dare I say it, differences of opinion.

Tiddlywinks

You can put you hands over your ears and walk blindfolded to avoid the nasties in the real world BUT how will that protect or prepare your daughter for the realities of interacting with school mates who may be less well 'parented' and so will use more adult language?

Like it or not you have been shown a factual account of events... would you rather live in blissful ignorance?

HPoirot

The point here is not about the school wanting to upset your sensibilities or posters here wanting to pick on you.

It is about the school alerting you as a parent and posters agreeing with the school's actions without you needing to take personal offence to it.

You seem to be all out to protect your own sensibilities at all costs - what about your daughter's sensibilities, who for all intents and purposes may well be reading and hearing these things from her classmates??

whodathunkit

cte1111 wrote: »

So being told to 'man / woman up' is a compliment rather than a slight? Evidently I have much to learn.

It's not an expression I'd use but I'm afraid that you are coming over as a bit of a woose on this - sorry.,

sulphate

It's the parents' responsibility NOT to leave something like that lying around if they are worried about their child finding it! Not the headteacher's.

meritaten

so why don't you ring and ask the head why she/he thought it necessary to include a full and very frank transcript? I strongly suspect it is because she wanted to shock parents. and make them aware of the language their 'little darlings' were using.
I am not unsympathetic. My old auntie would have reacted exactly as you did - good thing the internet wasn't around 40odd years ago. but, as others have pointed out - playground language can sound like a convention of particularly foul-mouthed sailors these days. Its everywhere - even in the 'Best' schools.
be grateful for the opportunity to raise this issue with your little girl, and why not ask her how SHE feels when she hears this language?