Letter from School quoting Abusive Language

fufu_banterwaite

cte1111 wrote: »

Ok I can only presume that people are looking for an argument. I'm not, I genuinely wanted to get other people's take on the situation.

I've just read through this and it comes across that you are looking for the argument!

You obviously aren't happy about this letter but from the replies on this thread you are very much in the minority. You've asked for people's views and seemed upset or shocked that they don't agree with you.

You also seem aghast that your daughter could accidentally read it. It doesn't take that much to hide it away somewhere that she won't find it.

As someone else said school's can't win. Your attitude is coming across as slightly pathetic actually I can see no reason to make any fuss over this whatsoever - well done to the school, I think it is a brave and applaudable initiative and it has certainly worked on you.

CH27

cte1111 wrote: »

Ok I can only presume that people are looking for an argument. I'm not, I genuinely wanted to get other people's take on the situation. As an experienced forum user, I'm aware that you will often hear opinions that differ from yours and expected that.

I do resent people implying that I somehow withheld information, that when I've mentioned a tiny possibility of something I'm saying that it happens every day and that I don't want to know what happens in my children's school.

I do want to know, I've said that repeatedly - a letter home to parents on the subject was a good idea.

I just don't want to read foul language. I'm aware that foul language and disgusting conversations take place, but never felt the need to join in when I was at school and have never wanted to do so as an adult. I personally don't feel that the headteacher should send me letters with that sort of language in. I am able to infer what the content would have been without it being explicitly forced on me.

As a parent you have to be aware.
You need to be aware of the vileness that is out there & what your children are exposed to now & will be exposed to in the future.

My son has told me things i'd rather not know but he needed to talk about them & it's my job to support him & when he was younger to protect him.

cte1111

I'm not particularly delighted about being called a slumbering parent who has a child with no boundaries. This isn't what I said in my posts, but people are choosing to jump on anything they can to have a go and be unpleasant.

I said pages back that I would take it on board that everyone thinks it's great to be sent sexually abusive language from a primary school. It surprises me but as everyone agrees I have to bear that in mind. I personally feel it was unnecessary and also introduces a very small risk of children reading this, that hadn't previously. Again no-one agrees, so I must be in the wrong.

ecgirl07

cte1111 wrote: »

Oh for heavens sake. Have you never accidentally opened a letter that is not addressed to you?

My daughter is hoping for a reply from a competition that she entered (I have warned her that it is very unlikely she will win as lots of people enter). If she saw post with her name on it, there is a very small chance that she might miss the parent bit and just see the Ellie bit. Very unlikely as I say but just about possible and in some households the year 5 child could be the first person home so pick up the post from the doormat.

She would not open my post. My son would not open my post. I actually open all the post (for myself, my husband or the occupier), unless it is obviously a birthday / Easter / other greetings card for one of the children.

The letter didn't say "Mr Albert and Mrs Jennifer Jones", it said "Parent or carer of Ellie Jones". If Ellie Jones was counting the days until she received something in the post, then there is a possibility that she could have missed the xxxxxxxxx and just saw the Ellie part.

If the kids are skyping that kind of chat to each there is a very high chance is they are using it in the playground, in the street etc. This means your child has probably already heard this kind of talk. I suspect she would be less shocked and surprised by it than you have been. Reading in a letter she was not meant to open will not be the first time she experiences it.

CH27

cte1111 wrote: »

I'm not particularly delighted about being called a slumbering parent who has a child with no boundaries. This isn't what I said in my posts, but people are choosing to jump on anything they can to have a go and be unpleasant.

I said pages back that I would take it on board that everyone thinks it's great to be sent sexually abusive language from a primary school. It surprises me but as everyone agrees I have to bear that in mind. I personally feel it was unnecessary and also introduces a very small risk of children reading this, that hadn't previously. Again no-one agrees, so I must be in the wrong.

What's your husband's view?

GobbledyGook

Point out one post where anyone said it was 'great' to get a letter like that?

The only person looking for an argument here is you, in my opinion. You are the one going on about right and wrong. It's not a right or wrong scenario - it's about opinions and on this occasion you are in the minority opinion.

Anyway, clearly you only want contributions from people who agree with you so I shall depart your thread.

balletshoes

cte1111 wrote: »

I'm not particularly delighted about being called a slumbering parent who has a child with no boundaries. This isn't what I said in my posts, but people are choosing to jump on anything they can to have a go and be unpleasant.

I said pages back that I would take it on board that everyone thinks it's great to be sent sexually abusive language from a primary school. It surprises me but as everyone agrees I have to bear that in mind. I personally feel it was unnecessary and also introduces a very small risk of children reading this, that hadn't previously. Again no-one agrees, so I must be in the wrong.

I suspect you are seeing slights on this thread where there may not necessarily be one - for example you say that someone called you a slumbering parent on this thread. No, they didn't. They mentioned slumbering parents because the letter was sent out to parents of the whole year, they didn't single you out as a slumbering parent. The same thing with your child having no boundaries - who posted that your child has no boundaries?

I say again - this letter was sent out to a whole year group of parents, not just you. If the generalities being discussed here don't apply to you or your child, then you know that, so why would you see a slight in that?

cte1111

I gave my husband the letter without any comment, other than that I had received it today from the school. He was confused as to why we had been sent the explicit quotes. He thought it was inappropriate for the head to send us the transcript. He also said that there was a danger that some children could possibly read it, due to parents possibly leaving it lying around.

cte1111

So being told to 'man / woman up' is a compliment rather than a slight? Evidently I have much to learn.

balletshoes

cte1111 wrote: »

So being told to 'man / woman up' is a compliment? Evidently I have much to learn.

its not really an insult either to be honest - but now I feel like i'm getting into a tit-for-tat with you and thats pointless .