Letter from School quoting Abusive Language

cte1111

whodathunkit wrote: »

And yet you believe that, given half a chance, she'd read a letter addressed to someone else.

It's got her name on it though!

meritaten

I fully agree with this headteacher sending the transcript. you may well have a perfectly lovely little girl - but, apparently some pupils are not. I would have been grateful for the 'heads-up' (sorry, couldn't resist the pun), and for a chance to talk to my child about other childrens behaviour and why it shouldn't be copied.

balletshoes

cte1111 wrote: »

It's got her name on it though!

its also addressed to the parent of - not to her.

don't you get letters addressed like that already through the post, ie appointment letters for check-ups from the dentist? We do, for my DD, she never opens them - because they are not addressed to her.

CH27

cte1111 wrote: »

The letter was addressed to "The Parent or Carer of Ellie Jones" (name changed). I presumed it was something to do with the imminent move to secondary school, or possibly a health check. It came in the post. I did think there was a danger that if Ellie Jones had been the first person to pick up the post, then she might have opened it herself.

Why would she open a letter than isn't addressed to her?

Tiddlywinks

cte1111 wrote: »

The letter was addressed to "The Parent or Carer of Ellie Jones" (name changed). I presumed it was something to do with the imminent move to secondary school, or possibly a health check. It came in the post. I did think there was a danger that if Ellie Jones had been the first person to pick up the post, then she might have opened it herself.

Goodness, you need to be explaining 'boundaries' because you should be able to trust that your daughter will not open your post!

GobbledyGook

cte1111 wrote: »

It's got her name on it though!

So you think the school shouldn't inform parents about a serious incident, giving them the full detail, because your soon to be secondary school child cannot be trusted or does not know that a letter addressed to 'the parent or carer of Ellie Jones' is not for her to open? [that's ignoring the fact that there is a 99.9% chance they'll have been clearly told 'give this letter to your parent']


What do you suggest the school should have done? Would you rather be completely unaware that this was going on?

lostinrates

It was important the school sent the transcript and NOT their interpretation of it.

Their interpretive paragraph such as OP gives would serve to be interpreted either as inflammatory by less concerned parents, or not showing the true picture by proactively protective parents wanting to know what they are parenting in the REAL face of.


By providing the REAL quotes and not interpreting them they cannot be a used of bias! exaggerating, overreacting or downplaying.

OP, the school are HELPING parents like you fight poor parenting. Support them, They want what you are trying to give your daughter.

sulphate

I could understand (maybe) if your child had been given the letter, but it came addressed to you.

If you are concerned that your child would open your post, that is an issue not relevant here.

GobbledyGook

So now you've added in that the letter was sent in the post as well.

Honestly schools cannot win. If they had not informed parents about an incident of this nature parents would, understandably, be up in arms.

They have taken the time to send letters, by post, to each parent and instead of concentrating on the fact that this is going on the issue is that your almost secondary school child may have opening a letter that was not addressed to her?

fashionlover10

I'm really surprised that those girls managed to have that conversation via Skype in the first place. The internet isn't a brand new gimmick that parents know nothing about. Surely they've heard of the dangers and should be monitoring their children online?
It's also shocking to think what sort of environment they might be living in to be able to hear about such explicit things.