talk me down please

duchy

Super Woman is sooooooo eighties anyway. Shirley Conran has a lot to answer for !!

mellymoo74

I shall take to wearing power suits and my underwear over my trousers lol.

I have two lip smacking snoring dogs surgically attached at the minute and the body resting feels good even if not asleep.

Hopefully get more of a feel for what is going to happen with SIL this week can plan then.

meritaten

melly - you can be as 'grumpy' as you like on here! we know its 'tiredness talking'.
I am glad you are recognising that there are limitations to HOW much you and OH are physically capable of doing. on top of that is the emotional abuse you are getting. its hard enough when the patient is appreciative - when they are like MIL (and SIL) then you are on a hiding to hell.
make adjustments - and if they whine and !!!!! about it - then 'whats changed?' - they will anyway so you may as well make life a little bit easier for yourselves.

mellymoo74

Thanks Meri.
Just got in SIL has again refused the op I have told her that as she has decided to ignore medical advice she will be able to organise care for the kids and get herself to hospital when she collapses again.
Oddly MIL agrees with me told me to go home cos I look knackered she will stay with SIL for a while and OH cam take her home later with the kids. (Who I think I may be getting )
Will try work again tomorrow but spoke to ex boss (now new boss) and I start in Jan 3 days a week so that will help.
luckily one weeks notice where I am now which is what I'm giving I need to cut the hours ASAP as I am fairly certain the care is ramping up.

mellymoo74

Right she's having another MRI tomorrow. The amount of weight lost is scary not seen her legs for ages the gown made how thin they are very clear. OH gone to get MIL and niece

meritaten

now you take the time to rest up - I have the feeling you are going to need it! good luck melly! and come here to 'grump' as much as you like!

mellymoo74

Thanks think I'm going to need it.
What do you do with 14 year old girls? She's here glued to her phone and grunting when spoken to.

mellymoo74

Still awake should have gone docs. Though not sure I will be able to sleep with niece here

mellymoo74

2 hours sleep. Niece is asleep so note left OH taking me to work exhausted

mellymoo74

Bit of a break through today though she broke my heart when she asked where she will live if her mum dies.

Tired, SIL is not doing to well they will let her out of hospital if there is someone to take care of her so muggins will pick her up Friday aft so she can at least attempt the christmas that seems to mean so much.

Niece is currently with her rabbits we are going to head back to the hospital so she can say night to her mum in the next 1/2 hour then it's my dog walk MIL settling niece settling and perhaps my first shower in 3 days