talk me down please

mandragora_2

Allocate a different ring tone to her number than the standard one that all others come in on, then you won't have to even go to the phone to know it's her ringing - and makes it easier for you to decide if you're going to pick up or not. You will never change her behaviour, but you can moderate the impact you let it have on your life.

mellymoo74

Luckily it's the land line and she's the only person who calls that so have turned the volume off.
As I resemble an extra from the walking dead I am gonna have a shower and cuddle the dogs who have forgotten what I look like.

Mojisola

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Nope, they back up MIL so OH gets flack from all sides. His sister is the golden child who can do no wrong his cousins all amounted to something where as he is just a waste of space etc.

I discovered today that she tells him he should never have been born at least he is getting all of this out just need to deal with it.

TBeckett100 wrote: »

Time to make it up with MIL. It's no fun taking a day off work to go to a funeral only to find she's left all the money to the dogs home.

No amount of money is worth putting up with being treated like that!

mellymoo74

Tbecket 100 I have reported your post. I know your a troll and I don't usually mind but as I have caring responsibility for a OH with the crumbly bones arthritis, a nasty MIL, a SIL who is a chip off the old block and 3 kids as well as working full time sort of lost my sense of humour.

found your comment really offensive in part because I made sure I got nothing from my father because it wouldn't bring him back and I cared for him at the end and I didn't want anyone to be able to accuse me of only doing it for money.

purpleshoes_2

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Tbecket 100 I have reported your post. I know your a troll and I don't usually mind but as I have caring responsibility for a OH with the crumbly bones arthritis, a nasty MIL, a SIL who is a chip off the old block and 3 kids as well as working full time sort of lost my sense of humour.

found your comment really offensive in part because I made sure I got nothing from my father because it wouldn't bring him back and I cared for him at the end and I didn't want anyone to be able to accuse me of only doing it for money.

Has made several troll posts in the last few weeks, but there's a line you don't cross, common decency if that's possible.

mellymoo74

Exactly. I haven't got enough energy to put up with idiots at the minute so even though I tried not to engage I couldn't help it.

TBeckett100

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Tbecket 100 I have reported your post. I know your a troll and I don't usually mind but as I have caring responsibility for a OH with the crumbly bones arthritis, a nasty MIL, a SIL who is a chip off the old block and 3 kids as well as working full time sort of lost my sense of humour.

found your comment really offensive in part because I made sure I got nothing from my father because it wouldn't bring him back and I cared for him at the end and I didn't want anyone to be able to accuse me of only doing it for money.

Older people can be fickle when preparing wills. A missed Christmas card is often a very common reason why people get written out

Of course people don't do it for the money but don't turn it down out of principle. Principles don't repay mortgages. Goodwill or a good will does

mellymoo74

It won't be a problem again have used the ignore function.
I am so tired too hyped to sleep though. Other than counting sheep and the clench and unclench trick anyone any suggestions?

TBeckett100

You could try counting dogs with golden bones jumping over your mortgage debt

I'm surprised that someone terminally ill is still picking arguments and causing discord at what must be a tough time for all involved.

mellymoo74

Still awake, averaging 4 hours sleep at the moment and I am exhausted some sleep would rule