talk me down please

purpleshoes_2

I would advise going to your gp and asking them to give you something to help with your sleep pattern even in the short term. And make that phone call to work. One less thing to worry about when it's done.

Mojisola

mellymoo74 wrote: »

I am not far off collapse

And if you do get ill through exhaustion or have an accident because you're tired - who helps your MIL and SIL then?

Work it out and then see that those people - even if they are paid carers - can start helping them now so that you can stay well.

mellymoo74

When had cup of tea will take the work beating then back up to the hospital OH support no matter how much I may want to no nap today hopefully will sleep tonight then. Thanks all for listening to my self pitying whines

mellymoo74

Mojisola wrote: »

And if you do get ill through exhaustion or have an accident because you're tired - who helps your MIL and SIL then?

Work it out and then see that those people - even if they are paid carers - can start helping them now so that you can stay well.

I need to sit down with OH to work that out I was already caring for him before this all kicked off so no reserves

Mojisola

mellymoo74 wrote: »

When had cup of tea will take the work beating then back up to the hospital OH support no matter how much I may want to no nap today hopefully will sleep tonight then. Thanks all for listening to my self pitying whines

That's not what they are! You're in an impossible situation, trying to help everyone around you and no-one is thinking about you and the effect it's all having on you.

If no-one else will do it, you have to look after after yourself!

Look for every opportunity - when you take your OH to the hospital, can you let him go in while you put the seat back in the car and have a nap?

mellymoo74

Spoke to reception she's going to tell my boss as I can't deal with him at the min. Right dog walk, flask sarnies back up as an aside I am currently feeding 7 on my salary and oddly have no money left.
The docs were saying they were gonna prep her for surgery which she should have had last week but turned down.
OH is exhausted MIL is flapping, 14 year old is distraught all a bit much

mellymoo74

I love my OH he's just called and told me to try and get some rest now he will pick me up this aft. So on the couch being cuddled by dogs

mellymoo74

Have made a decision I am going to take the part time role I was offered at a place I contracted the people are nice and it's 3 days a week.
OH liked the idea and reckons we can cope.on the money I physically can't do all I am doing at the minute I look awful.

duchy

I think that is probably very sensible.
You can't run two fulltime jobs which is essentially what you are trying to do.

mellymoo74

It won't set the career back k much either which was my worry.
If I keep trying to do the 500 mile round trip high pressure role OH, MIL and now SIL and niece care I am going to collapse which will set it back.
Time to be a grown up and change the thing I can change.