talk me down please

elsien

I'm sorry Melly, for the both of you.
Might it be worth turning the phones off tonight to give you both a bit of peace - there's nothing anyone can do now, if the funeral directors have arranged to come to fetch her. Any other arrangements can wait till you've both rested and you don't need any more hassle from anyone right now.

mellymoo74

As soon as I get him back in Elsien h's having tramadol on tip of the codeine he will then sleep.

meritaten

SIL is facing the exact same thing melly - this must have scared her sh*tless. It would me! to think that you would be just left without adequate pain relief!

mellymoo74

That's why I gave her a hug, she may not have been able to look at me but she lost her mum so

elsien

Melly, you need to rest as well if you can. Don't be the middleman tonight, all that can wait.

meritaten

re 'maximum dose of morphine'. you may find this interesting melly.


https://www.hospiceworld.org/book/morphine.htm

mellymoo74

I'm in full on tiger mode Elsien can't help it. My beautiful boy is broken and I can't fix him.

elsien

No, I know. It's horrible watching someone grieve, wanting to take it all away and you can't. Just look after yourself as best you can - the adrenaline will wear off at some point and you don't want to crash.

mellymoo74

!!!!!! they could and should have loaded her up. She was in a ridiculous amount of pain so much she was moaning whilst in the bloody coma.

My dad wasn't in that much pain once they got the pump on him. It should never have worn off

elsien

mellymoo74 wrote: »

!!!!!! they could and should have loaded her up. She was in a ridiculous amount of pain so much she was moaning whilst in the bloody coma.

That can happen anyway, sometimes the reflexes kick in. That doesn't excuse the nurses not doing their bit, but it may not have been as bad for her as it looked to you watching. Perhaps that'll keep SIL off your back for a bit if she's on a mission to hold people accountable?