talk me down please

mellymoo74

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

Melly -he will be blaming himself, however irrational that will be. If he does blame you it will only because he's vocalising that blame.

I didn't mean I wasn't expecting it. I was. He's hurt and angry and I'm the nearest thing he can shout at.
I'm worried about him

wannabe_sybil

Sending hugs and prayers.

Bank holidays aren't always a blessing. I think you need to make sure you have the support you need now. You are holding OH up, and he will collapse later.

Do you have a contact with MacMillan?

Post here often, I think it helps. x

mellymoo74

wannabe_sybil wrote: »

Sending hugs and prayers.

Bank holidays aren't always a blessing. I think you need to make sure you have the support you need now. You are holding OH up, and he will collapse later.

Do you have a contact with MacMillan?

Post here often, I think it helps. x

Been using the helpline. He will collapse it's already started I need to not lose my rag when he gets horrid (which he will he's in a great deal of emotional pain)
Getting this place as clean ad I can with 12 tonnes of someone else's furniture all over it.

Mojisola

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Been using the helpline. He will collapse it's already started I need to not lose my rag when he gets horrid (which he will he's in a great deal of emotional pain)
Getting this place as clean ad I can with 12 tonnes of someone else's furniture all over it.

Could you rent a storage unit for a couple of months and put the spare furniture there?

Being cluttered at home is causing stress that you really don't need at the moment.

mellymoo74

Mojisola wrote: »

Could you rent a storage unit for a couple of months and put the spare furniture there?

Being cluttered at home is causing stress that you really don't need at the moment.

In gong to see if one of my friends will help me move it to a place at work now. Clutter isn't helping and I rwally don't want him to make a decision he may well regret

mellymoo74

He's upset he wants to come home have a shower and something to eat.
Wish me luck.

mellymoo74

And I'm in limbo. Can't go the shop in case he comes back, can't call him to see if he's coming back just sitting and waiting

mellymoo74

He's been back an hour and a half, eaten something, cried and is now showering before going back.

SIL actually included him in the decision to up MIL morphine to hasten the end.

I have reminded him that the last words were 'I love you mum' and 'I love you too son'

mellymoo74

He's headed back. He didn't want to go

Before he came back the doc got him a SIL together to decide whetherto up the morphine to finish her off, they went ahead OH feels guilty even though he had no choice

meritaten

mellymoo74 wrote: »

He's been back an hour and a half, eaten something, cried and is now showering before going back.

SIL actually included him in the decision to up MIL morphine to hasten the end.

I have reminded him that the last words were 'I love you mum' and 'I love you too son'

oh melly - those words were what I was hoping for, for his sake. He can carry those in his heart and know that despite her behaviour she did love him.