talk me down please

meritaten

oh melly - can the nurses increase her dosage - she shouldn't be in pain?


Keep calm hunny - !!!!! knows just which button to press doesn't she?
double whammy there if she said it in front of MIL. MIL does NOT need to worry her cat wont be cared for while she is dying.
but, you, OH and MIL all know that cat will be cared for and cherished. that's the important thing.


my god - she was kicking off about ONE lousy bracelet? miss greedypants eh?

mellymoo74

Yep one bracelet, she has had 3 carrier bags full of gold but this bracelet was the one thing she really wanted.

I know lack of sleep I think is why I'm this angry plus shows you what she's like I think.

Her pain is really bad nurse was adjusting the pump, she also hasn't been at all lucid since the early hours. Told OH she will know he's there so just sit with her giving her hugs. It will matter to him later.

He been laughing at me, say what you like about me threaten a cat and I have to leave really quickly I apparently was vibrating.

meritaten

lol melly - you are a super person who gets up there to defend the defenceless! a cat or even a woman you dislike - MIL knows this now.


I don't think it will be long now hunny...............and yes I think even when they are doped up or unconscious they are perfectly aware of loved ones being there - and can hear what is said.

mellymoo74

I will try and get a pic of him. He won't leave MIL which is the other way I know not long.

OH is worried about him going back there I have told him not too I will pop over let the new tenants (when they move in) know and give them my number so I can go and get him when he does.

I think he was a proper brawler in his day judging by the scars, he's a lovely old thing.

meritaten

he sounds like a lovely cat - and cats can be perfectly aware of whats going on - he may settle in well with you. he obviously loves MIL. despite what some people think cats can be very attached to humans. my own Barnes (you know Barnes) hardly left my side when I was very poorly last December - he would even forgo his 'garden time'. He used to belong to my son - and has never tried to go back, even though he had tremendous affection for son and his wife and kids. as you know he LOVES it when the kids are here!

mellymoo74

He was a full on stray poor thing

CRANKY40

Has MIL got the sponge lollies? They look like bits of sponge hair roller on sticks but when the person can't drink and their lips and mouth are dry you can dip them in water and just moisten their mouth. My gran had bowel cancer so she couldn't eat or drink either and they were very handy.

mellymoo74

No cranky she hasn't will raise that with the nurses tomorrow.
I got some ice chips (just pounded some ice cubes in a bag with a rolling pin) into her today.

OH is distraught so he's decided to have tonight off, he only had 4 hours sleep so is knackered.

meritaten

I bet he is knackered melly - its emotionally and physically tiring.
I assume someone is staying with her though?
it can feel as if this time is going to last forever and that is very draining. it DOESNT - but, its a highly emotionally 'charged' time and time seems to slow down. I remember how we thought FIL would linger on forever - and when he did die. it was a SHOCK! especially as the rest of the family were taking a break and there was only me with him.
looking back - I am sure it was BECAUSE everybody else had left. he was always comfortable with me and knew nothing fazed me. and some in the family would have 'reacted badly'.

mellymoo74

Aunt (who wouldn't leave) is with her. She tried to guilt OH he suggested that she get SIL to help her if she's not happy, and we will be there first thing (nurse gets there about 7.30am)

He's planning on going to bed. We both know he won't sleep but I he needs a break.

I think that it's immanent so he rwally should be there can see why he needs the rest though