talk me down please

mellymoo74

Madmel wrote: »

Not horrid at all! You have more than enough on your plate and if he's old enough to get his gf pg, he's old enough to sort out accommodation for them both/all. Best of luck with everything else x

That my argument OH is a worry wort so I am getting 'she lives with her nan, he's still at home. Neither one can cook what are they going to do when SIL dies'

I have suggested that they live with her nan I already have a 14 year old, OH, MIL and two dogs not having a 19 year old, 22 year old and baby as well.

Mojisola

mellymoo74 wrote: »

OH is a worry wort so I am getting 'she lives with her nan, he's still at home. Neither one can cook what are they going to do when SIL dies'

Look on the internet or buy a simple cookery book and start learning now.

mellymoo74

Not my problem think their going to have to grow up fast it might be the making of em. Even if it isn't it won't be owt to do with me no amount of guilt tripping from MIL and blumin OH for a change will work.
Fingers in ears and I am lalalaing

Mojisola

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Fingers in ears and I am lalalaing

It's called self-preservation! You're already over-stretched and know you can't take on anything more.

Madmel

I'm with you and Mojisola on this. Your priority now should be DS and OH (and dogs). Then, if you have anything left to give it's the nephews, MiL and SiL but I haven't worked out yet in which order. How far along is the girlfriend? If it's early days, you may find that SiL and MiL may no longer be around....

mellymoo74

So last night MIL collapsed again OH ran round stayed with her waiting for the ambulance, made sure the paramedics were aware of heart, cancer, blood pressure etc came back here ate something and we dashed back up the hospital got out of A&E at 11ish leaving MIL there. Went to hers sorted the cat etc out was gone 1 before I could sit down.
OH couldn't sleep finally passed out about 4 am. I called the hospital this morning to be told they wouldn't tell me anything I need to speak to next of kin SIL. She says they won't tell her anything and OH is angry in pain and scared.

mellymoo74

On this occasion the problem is SIL. She has told the hospital to only speak to her and started on OH because he didn't make it in to see MIL (too busy running people to and from hospital)
MIL told me to tell him not to worry and that she was worried about his back as be seemed to be in a lot of pain last night.

mellymoo74

We have not gone down OH has found walking even with sticks very difficult today, I have realigned his spine twice and topped him up on painkillers and banned him from going out.
Had a snotty text from SIL I have caused a family feud by telling her to wind her neck in advising her if she ever spoke to OH like that again she wouldn't need to go on in for the op as I would kill her and reminded her that she needs someone to take care of her child so !!!!ing me off is not a good idea

System

Sending you strength to deal with all your trials and tribulations!
There is nothing like dealing with the outlaws, is there?
Linda x

mellymoo74

Went in today MIL is really not well. Can't even keep water down got there and there were 5 pots full of sick and a full commode no nurse near her.

SIL spoke to aunt while we were there claimed that she spoke to hospital that morning and they told her there were people with MIL and she'd had a nice breakfast or spouted bull as it's otherwise known