talk me down please

mellymoo74

We didn't go out too tired.
Rest of family lied to MIL so she was on her own last night meaning we will have several days of crap so thanks for that idiots.
Will go over to MIL later today OH needs.to sleep his back neck and shoulders are really bad at the moment and his mobility has taken a nose dive. I am worried if he doesn't rest up he will not even be able to drive.
I am going to see the docs tomorrow fairly sure I won't cope at current job need to not go back there I think 18 hour days not something I can do.

Gingernutty

You definitely need to take it more easily Mooloo.

Sorry to hear the rest of the family let you down.

Hope SIL and MIL agree to get more help in to offload your burden.

MissHope

Mellymoo, I am so sorry to read of all you and your OH have gone through. I don't have any advice but wanted you to know I am thinking of you.

mellymoo74

Thanks all.
MIL was as expected to be fair to her she's upset because she couldn't spend her daughters last new year with her so is being horrible to her son.
OH is lying down his neck, shoulders and spine are bad.
I am cleaning up then resting. Docs tomorrow I need sleep badly I also think I need some more time off.

mellymoo74

Ok. I collapsed today couldn't get up poor dogs OH can't manage proper.walks going to take them on a small one now and go back to bed.

purpleshoes_2

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Ok. I collapsed today couldn't get up poor dogs OH can't manage proper.walks going to take them on a small one now and go back to bed.

You need to get extra support on board, if you dont then you risk your health long term.

mellymoo74

I am resigning over the weekend and moving to part time today was awake up call.
At least my commute will be 10 mins and it will only be 3 days a week.

going to meet with Macmillion about SIL this week

meritaten

oh melly, please please have that chat with OH - and the macmillan nurses about 'pacing' yourselves and NOT trying to do too much. and be honest with them about your relationship with SIL and MIL. Do not try the 'everything is fine' approach - they really NEED to know the family dynamics so they can approach and treat her properly. hiding the cracks wont do anyone any favours.
REST hun! you and OH are worrying the hell out of me. I feel both of you are on the verge of physical/mental breakdown.
and the rest of the family are probably sensible enough to keep the hell away from MIL - they have her measure and don't want her messing up their lives if they can leave you and OH to carry the burden. Remains to be seen if they are coldhearted barstewards or just wise enough to keep their distance?

mellymoo74

meritaten wrote: »

oh melly, please please have that chat with OH - and the macmillan nurses about 'pacing' yourselves and NOT trying to do too much. and be honest with them about your relationship with SIL and MIL. Do not try the 'everything is fine' approach - they really NEED to know the family dynamics so they can approach and treat her properly. hiding the cracks wont do anyone any favours.
REST hun! you and OH are worrying the hell out of me. I feel both of you are on the verge of physical/mental breakdown.
and the rest of the family are probably sensible enough to keep the hell away from MIL - they have her measure and don't want her messing up their lives if they can leave you and OH to carry the burden. Remains to be seen if they are coldhearted barstewards or just wise enough to keep their distance?

If I can ever speak to them I will make sure their aware of how difficult they both are and how much worse SIL has made the whole thing.
OH and I had another row, he has taken MIL shopping I am locked in the living room with the dogs watching nanny mcphee

feel rank can't stand up for any length of time. Need to word.my resignation tonight

mellymoo74

Following on from yesterday OH took her shopping she fancied chippy so he took her and got her mini fish and chips he called her when he got in and she declared she had eaten a little of the fish and chips then thrown up so she must be dying.

SIL ' S is in her stomach as well as womb so I think MIL has decided her's is too