Tired of being the chauffeur

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Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

He'll appreciate that a lot more than you realise. After all, who wants to be in a situation where they feel restricted in what they can do on their time off? Or criticised?

I'm not picking on you, I know it can be hard when somebody else is almost always busy just when you've actually got some free time. But it's also hard if you feel like somebody isn't around for most of the time and then, when they are around, they're tetchy and make you feel guilty about having a life outside the house.

You don't want to become a grumpy mother figure, you don't want to become the person who drags down his mood or the person whose imminent return makes his heart sink because he's come to associate you with being told off, nagged or restricted. Because then he'll start to avoid you, which will cause more friction, and before you know it, things have degenerated so much that you're in real trouble.

Oh there are a lot of assumptions there, quite a leap in my opinion.

I think the least the OP can expect is her OH to tidy up after himself, do his own washing and ironing, change the bed et al. I would be pretty !!!!!! if I hadn't seen my husband for a month and came home to a messy house. I might moan about giving him lifts and more but bl00dy hell that doesn't turn me into a grumpy mother figure dragging my man down :eek: Sometimes women can get tired of being taken for granted and carrying a man like a hump on their back.

Women don't nag, they sometimes have to remind a man, more than once, that he has failed to do something but that's his fault for not doing it earlier

duchy

This wedding is in the Midlands and you live in Surrey ? So not exactly a marathon drive,

You have a car and instead of driving you're going to inflict a coach journey on you both ???

I think I agree with the others who say the relationship is the problem not the driving-Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face !!

Buttonmoons

Blimey do some people need 200 hours of driving lessons :eek: I think they say 40 with an instructor and 20 with someone else.

I took about 40 in total (passed last year) but it was £30 an hour so very expensive, then you factor in the theory test and practical test. It does all add up!

I actually only learned to drive because I hated relying on public transport, sometimes needing 3 buses to get where we needed to go. Buses were once an hour then after 5pm every 2 hours where I grew up - DIRE! Especially since half the time they never showed up.

I hate hate HATED asking my BF for a lift anywhere, the kicker for me was when my DD was really ill, her father was on a date so wouldn't answer the phone and the taxi's were chock a block as it was a Sat evening, I had to wait 40 minutes for a taxi to take us to the G docs.

Started lessons the week after. Now I'm kinda like the OP - but with my mum and sister, they ring me all the time for a lift, and they live 10miles away, which isn't much but its right through the center of town when traffic is a nightmare - always.
"can you pick me up this" "I need to go to the supermarket" "Oh can you take me to xyz appointment" My sister doesn't know the value of money and seems to think I'll pick her up and drop her off wherever she wants. I had a screaming rage at her last week when she phoned me at 3am to give her a lift home from town as she didn't wanna pay for a taxi - Eh well, I'm not getting out of bed at 3am to do that GRRRR