Attending wedding

Pollycat

Faith177 wrote: »

I might start doing that Pollycat that's a very good idea thanks

I just avoid her now she is obviously never going to change her attitude towards me and my husband.

Such a shame that she's forcing her viewpoint onto other people.

Hope your relationship with her son isn't suffering because of her unwillingness to see any other side than hers.

Faith177

Pollycat wrote: »

Such a shame that she's forcing her viewpoint onto other people.

Hope your relationship with her son isn't suffering because of her unwillingness to see any other side than hers.

It hasn't so far he is quite switched on but he knows when it's best not to push a point.

He was gutted he couldn't come to the wedding but she had put her foot down and wouldn't budge.

Even if she was so against it I wish she had let her husband (OH's cousin) and the boys come as I've always got on well with them

Jackie132

It is not mentioned anywhere that you can't marry in the church if you are not religious. You can tie the knot anywhere in the church, in temple, and even if you are not religious then they can adopt any religion as well.

jaylee3

Faith177 wrote: »

We had it the other way with our wedding

My OH's cousins wife is a born again Christian. We were having a humanist ceremony as neither of us are religious and we didn't feel right having a church wedding when so many people know our feelings on religion.

The cousins wife refused our invite for the whole family including her 21 year old who we are close too as in her opinion as our wedding was not being held in the church of her Lord and therefore would not be witness by God himself we were not truly married.

We were really hurt by this reaction and the fact she rang me to tell me directly how she felt about our "sham" of a marriage. Even now a year on she refuses to acknowledge my married name and still sends cards to me in my maiden name.

I am happy for people to have their own views but I felt that her actions were a little hypocritical as it's not a very Christian attitude to have plus this all came from a woman who still hasn't had her 3 year old Christened.

I wish she had just said they couldn't have made it because of the distance than made me feel my marriage was somewhat not worthy

This woman doesn't sound like a very typical Christian. She just sounds like a bloody fruitloop.

I know many Christians who are nice people, and who would not have a problem with people getting married in a registry office. What does your OH's cousin think of this? You say that his wife is a born again Christian, but what about him? Does he have a say in it?

Brighton_belle

jaylee3 wrote: »

This woman doesn't sound like a very typical Christian. She just sounds like a bloody fruitloop.

I know many Christians who are nice people, and who would not have a problem with people getting married in a registry office.

^^^ This. I was going to say exactly the same thing.

Faith177

jaylee3 wrote: »

This woman doesn't sound like a very typical Christian. She just sounds like a bloody fruitloop.

I know many Christians who are nice people, and who would not have a problem with people getting married in a registry office. What does your OH's cousin think of this? You say that his wife is a born again Christian, but what about him? Does he have a say in it?

She wears the trousers big time he just keeps quite and let's her get on with it.

He is a padre with the cadets so is a little religious but she is a whole new level.

From what I gather from the rest of the family is they just ignore her when she's on a rant

Pollycat

Faith177 wrote: »

She wears the trousers big time he just keeps quite and let's her get on with it.

He is a padre with the cadets so is a little religious but she is a whole new level.

From what I gather from the rest of the family is they just ignore her when she's on a rant

Faith
Maybe it's time they started sticking up for themselves instead of taking the easy way out.

There's no way on earth that my Mother would have prevented me (at the age of 21) from attending a wedding of someone close to me just because she didn't believe it was a 'proper' wedding because it wasn't in a church.