Attending wedding

mountainofdebt

We'll I haven't stepped inside a church since my FIL's funeral 8 years ago but I've observed Lent for the last 4 years.......does that make me a hypocrite? Or what about people who rave about Christmas but aren't practising Christians - are they hypocrites as we'll?

Mojisola

Soleil_lune wrote: »

Really??? How can they know for sure? Do they ask you for proof?

Some priests/vicars do ask to see your baptismal certificate before agreeing to marry you.

That sounds like a very judgemental Church.

Isn't being judgemental part of the job description for most religions?

Gloomendoom

DomRavioli wrote: »

You can marry in a church even if you don't attend that church, or any church. Its an easy way for them to make money, and yes, it is allowed.

If it's the C of E, it's not an easy way to make money, it's a legal obligation, christened or not.

Buzzybee90

Soleil_lune wrote: »

Really??? How can they know for sure? Do they ask you for proof?

That sounds like a very judgemental Church.

I'm not sure to be honest - I know you have to live in or have grown up in the parish too or it costs a lot more. I thought this was standard but it's so rural, there's about 2 weddings a year so I doubt anyone misses out.

Buick

Yes they can marry in a church. In fact I'd hazard a guess that the vast majority of people who marry in a church are not actually church-goers.

Stop being a guest-zilla. Either go or don't go, but where they get married is up to them.

Valli

WeAreGhosts wrote: »

a relative is getting married later in the year. she is getting married in a church, which i dont agree with. she is not religious, hasnt set foot in a church since school days and has not been christened. neither has her fiance. i didnt think this was allowed? or have rules changed?

anyway, im not religious at all and really dont want to go to a church wedding. i cant get to the evening do cos it is too far away. i suppose i am feeling guilty about thinking about not going.

I could understand your objections if you were a believer.

As it is this smacks of hypocrisy.

Soleil_lune

Mojisola wrote: »

Isn't being judgemental part of the job description for most religions?

That's a matter of opinion.

But I have never known a Church say you can't come in unless you have been Christened. Ever.

Buzzybee90

Soleil_lune wrote: »

That's a matter of opinion.

But I have never known a Church say you can't come in unless you have been Christened. Ever.

Maybe I'm wrong, this is what I'd always believed from our church - I will ask and check, ready to eat my words :rotfl: (married, not in)

paulineb_2

Guest zilla. Quality.

FBaby

I'm with you OP, I find it very hypocrite to marry in church when you don't care about it in other circumstances. Very much like those who suddenly find an interest in their local church when they realise they want their children to attend the local religious affiliated school.

However, that's them and I wouldn't consider not attending because of it. Family is family and you have to leave your opinion on the side for such celebration.