Brother wants us to babysit niece but dictates where we can take her

shegirl

shop-to-drop wrote: »

Really! Why would she be chuffed to be asked?

Because a lot of grandparents love it and would be over the moon to have that time with their grandchild,especially a baby!

FatVonD

shop-to-drop wrote: »

Really! Why would she be chuffed to be asked?

You mean you wouldn't?

I would be chuffed to look after my grandchildren for the night (if I had any) and I know my inlaws have always been delighted to have theirs.

shop-to-drop

We will have to agree to disagree. The child is staying with gran for the parents sake not to honour granny.

POPPYOSCAR

shop-to-drop wrote: »

We will have to agree to disagree. The child is staying with gran for the parents sake not to honour granny.

Well this is one granny who is honoured to look after her grandchildren and looks forward to it.

We are having ours next month while their parents go to a wedding(no children) and we cannot wait!!

shop-to-drop

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Well this is one granny who is honoured to look after her grandchildren and looks forward to it.

We are having ours next month while their parents go to a wedding(no children) and we cannot wait!!

That's exactly it though this granny has older grandchildren too who not only are not able to stay at Granny's because of the new grandchild but now granny can't spend much of the Easter weekend with them now either. I feel sorry for older grandchildren, their family has been very flexible in trying to accommodate the others plans but they seem to want to monopolise granny away from the other grandchildren. It's all so unnecessary and sad as there are plenty of ways that granny could spend the special day with the older grandchildren and still babysit the little one but the parents of the baby are being totally unreasonable. How anyone thinks that their shopping should take priority I will never understand.

balletshoes

shop-to-drop wrote: »

That's exactly it though this granny has older grandchildren too who not only are not able to stay at Granny's because of the new grandchild but now granny can't spend much of the Easter weekend with them now either. I feel sorry for older grandchildren, their family has been very flexible in trying to accommodate the others plans but they seem to want to monopolise granny away from the other grandchildren. It's all so unnecessary and sad
as there are plenty of ways that granny could spend the special day with the older grandchildren and still babysit the little one
but the parents of the baby are being totally unreasonable. How anyone thinks that their shopping should take priority I will never understand.

The OP has already said other ways of spending the day all together with baby and granny would be fine with her brother - just not the beach trip. So OP, her kids, Granny and baby could still do something together.

POPPYOSCAR

shop-to-drop wrote: »

That's exactly it though this granny has older grandchildren too who not only are not able to stay at Granny's because of the new grandchild but now granny can't spend much of the Easter weekend with them now either. I feel sorry for older grandchildren, their family has been very flexible in trying to accommodate the others plans but they seem to want to monopolise granny away from the other grandchildren. It's all so unnecessary and sad as there are plenty of ways that granny could spend the special day with the older grandchildren and still babysit the little one but the parents of the baby are being totally unreasonable. How anyone thinks that their shopping should take priority I will never understand.

Yes there are.

But it is not the parents of the baby that are being unreasonable IMO.

I understand they want to take the opportunity to go shopping without the baby, as arranged, nothing wrong with that.

shewhoguards

OP needs to butt out. She's got no idea of the relationship between her mother, brother and S-I-L and no business inserting herself in there.

Could it be a situation where brother is taking advantage and mum doesn't really want to babysit? Sure. It could equally be a situation where mum has begged every month of baby's life to be allowed to babysit, they finally give in and then this happens. Not all grandparents don't want to babysit, and some babysitting is more a result of parents reluctantly giving in to allow grandparent bonding. (Or it might even be "baby is causing marriage crisis, I have talked wife into reluctantly accepting babysitter while we go bond") Which is it? That's not something we, or OP, can say.

burnoutbabe

why can't the OP and family visit gran at her house, and go to a local park for a bit? trips to visit my relatives when young (and now) always seemed to be spent sitting around a house and having tea.

So everyone still spends the time together, just not at a beach.

jumpingjackd

Some very contensious replies on here and I do feel some very "precious" responders need to get a grip on reality