Debt Bomb shell dropped on me

financialdisease

He is at home in tears, Step change never called during his slot although they txt to confirm he called them they said sorry can re book slot for Saturday. He told them he cant cope is feeling suicidal I don't know what to think or believe.

Standingtall

financialdisease wrote: »

He is at home in tears, Step change never called during his slot although they txt to confirm he called them they said sorry can re book slot for Saturday. He told them he cant cope is feeling suicidal I don't know what to think or believe.

Hi FD

I think you are doing marvellously but my instant reaction to this is how do you know that they did not call? Could he be fibbing?

ST

financialdisease

They just called the house but he isn't in, has gone to the pub :''(

God give me strength to get through this in one piece

financialdisease

Standingtall wrote: »

Hi FD

I think you are doing marvellously but my instant reaction to this is how do you know that they did not call? Could he be fibbing?

ST

I know

I am completely detached from life just now, coasting along in the calmest manner on the outside with my inside being wrecked by burt.

The oldest kid is starting to really notice, we are snapping at each other and I said something about wasting money she clocked onto it right away asking what I was on about I just said about dad wasting money we could have used for a car.

thesim

Why has he gone to the pub? Alcohol will not solve anything and spending money on alcohol won't solve anything either.

financialdisease

thesim wrote: »

Why has he gone to the pub? Alcohol will not solve anything and spending money on alcohol won't solve anything either.

Because he thinks its his right
Its his second home
he would rather be there than here
I would rather he was there than here

why didn't I notice any of this before? ?????

quidsy

So ars you saying he lied about them not calling earlier? And how much will he spend down the pub?

Hardly the actions if a suicidal man, more like one trying to put the guilt on you. Time to pack him a bag and send him to his mums?

-taff

financialdisease wrote: »

why didn't I notice any of this before? ?????

because he hid it, and because you were happy with the kids, you didn't need to notice.

If he was feeling suicidal. the application of a few pints of depression on top of that may make him solve his problem for you......[I'm being facetious BTW]

financialdisease

I don't 100% know if they did or didn't call I will never know so not gonna get hung up on it.

He has said he will get DAS or whatever sorted and look at his options for moving out, I am not going to do the dramatic chucking him out, he has to go and knows that so it will be aa planned and calm as possible to keep the disruption to the minimum and keep my tears for bed time so expect some middle of the night tearful posts! When things are organised and he is going I will tell my friend and family so hopefully have support irl as well as here ♥ thank you again ♥

Older_But_Not_Wiser

Really feel for you FD, but so glad you're finding a way through this and staying so strong.

Chin up and keep posting whatever time of the day or night
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