Present dilemna for exes children

Starrystarrynight

Here's me thinking pester power was for kids! I'm shocked to read he dumped you, but still expects presents to be given. He needs to toughen up & be a parent instead of pandering.
Can you get refunds on the presents you've bought? If so, use the cash to treat yourself. You deserve it after being treated that way.

duchy

You say the little girl is money orientated but then go on to say DAD (who didn't even give you the courtesy on ending you relationship face to face btw) is pestering you for presents for them ! Gee I wonder who she learned her attitude from ?

I think a charity sounds like an excellent idea.

victory

Pestering you to post them when he finished with you via text message?:eek: I agree a donation to charity if they cannot be returned and help your sis if you can, always better to help the ones that need it and will so appreciate it:D

Georgiegirl256

juliebunny wrote: »

My own sister is broke and is hurt that I've spent money on his kids when she can hardly pay her bills and he's dumped me. I could take them back and give her the money instead.

Do this. In all likely hood, the presents would probably not be appreciated, and just be cast aside as they are not money. At least your sister wold be grateful.

meritaten

take yours back and get the money to help your sister out. and ask others if they really want you to pass on the gifts or perhaps donate them to charity or take them back themselves.
Its a shame, but having been dumped, you really shouldn't have any more contact with his kids.

themull1

Its nothing to do with your sister what you spend your money on, give the stuff to charity, give nowt to your sister, and move on, preferably with someone who has no kids!!

ooobedoo

Wow, I haven't logged into MSE for years, but on this I had to.

I am shocked with how polite you have been over it, maybe I am much more childish but my initial response to his text would have been
'are you seriously dumping me by text?' if so, please delete my number and never contact me again.

I would not even respond to his requests about the Easter gifts, take them back and get a refund and treat yourself to a massage or a nice facial.

PatientMummy

If he really wants the presents tell him he knows where they are, he can get them himself, don't post them to him, as for your own gifts, if you can't return them, sell them in ebay or guve them to charity.

If my 7 year old behaved like that, threw tantrums or turned the tears on for attention she'd soon learn not to bother as i would be ignoring her. And if she even thought to ask for money for her 8th birthday she would be one disappointed wee girl and will have a long wait.. 8 year olds don't need money, they dont get a choice much in what they wear or buy. if they get money given to them fine, but i still have an imput as to how they spend it! They are the child and we are the adult. Sounds to me that fella needs to grow a set and teach his daughter some manners and respect. NO CHILD should run their parents life and order them about like this spoilt madame does. She's in for a mighty big bump to reality when she grows up.

I understand she may be finding having to share daddy difficult, but she needs to learn and get used to it. her mother has obviously ignired her seeing as she is in a relationship, But then again if he's stupid enough to do it all then your well rid of him.

juliebunny

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Person_one

juliebunny wrote: »

Actually last night I sent him a link for a Relate book on how to help your children through divorce, how to move on, and how to handle new relationships. No message, just the link - I didn''t want to open up a channel of communication with him, but make it clear I thought he needed help.


I replied simply OK to his text message, seemed petty to just ignore it, but not interested in counselling him any more.

Actually, it was quite petty to send that link in the first place.

Rise above it, this is not your problem anymore!