Wayn

victory

Tink2 wrote: »

My OH got a email tonight from a random girl saying she wanted to meet up with people who had similar interests, we looked at the site it came from and it was wayn, the email had his full name so I told him to try logging in and there was a profile with his name, date if birth age and location (no photos)

There were also messages and he had 11 friends (some females)

He thinks it's one of a few things either his mate who travels (it's a travel/catch up/social media type site) signed him up (possible bit why wasn't he in the friends list) or they've phished his email (possible but why would it have all his details and a password he would have had to put in) or he signed up ages ago and forgot (the account said registered since 2006 October)


The problem I have is the females in his friends list and this message from the girlbecause of various things he's done over the 13 years we've been together my trust for him is 0 (I don't need a lecture about trust and relationships please)

So my questions are has anyone had experience of this site? Have you had account created without knowing? Or is he trying to make a mug of me again (if he is he's gone!)

I had never heard of wayn so googled it, you have to register, log in and use a password as with all these sites, so your OH would have done that back in 2006, this has more to do with trust though than whether you believe him and trust him.

If he registered in 2006 and you feel uneasy about it is he letting you see his usage of wayn since then? Does he say he uses it often/ not at all?

If you have 0 trust issues whatever he says or does you will find fault with and have great difficulty to believe and have faith in.

Do you want to be in a relationship that is so emotionally difficult for you?

System

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I signed up for WAYN years ago. I never use it but occasionally I get a message saying I have "similar interests to someone planning to visit my city" and "would I like to meet up with them". Like FBaby, it seems more hassle to go and deregister than just delete the email haha!

HBS x

Same here. I joined up years ago just to have a nose around but got emails for years afterwards. I'm not sure whether I deregistered or blocked the emails but I don't get them any more.

aileth

I joined up to WAYN years ago to spy on ex-school friends. I still get odd emails about 'wanting to meet up' and all this crap which could look dodgy I suppose, I can't even remember my password to be honest.

I'm not sure how the friends list works, but I have a feeling that if you accept an invite link from a member of a 'group' (in my case my old school) then you're 'friends' with that group, could it be the same thing? I'm probably totally wrong about that, but I do have a vague recollection of being auto-added to the group as I'm constantly getting faux emails from members of the group.

Tropez

WAYN is not a dating site - it was launched at the boom period of social networking and designed to become a social network for people who enjoy travelling with the idea that they could meet up with new people when on vacation.

It failed.

It used cheap tactics to recruit large numbers of people (such as going through Hotmail, Gmail, Yahoo Mail etc. contact lists and sending them all invitations), repeatedly, whether they signed up or not. It was basically spam. If you did sign up, which many people did because their friends were apparently inviting them to do so, you generally got bored of it pretty quickly because a social network site based around holidays isn't exactly something you're likely to use much, right?

Anyway, anyone who has ever been invited or ever had an account gets emails from them from time to time with people wanting to meet up, allegedly, and conveniently, if you're male, they're usually cute young women with bubbly personalities.

It doesn't mean anything that your OH got an email from this website. The person who wants "to meet him" probably doesn't even exist, or is on the payroll of the company desperately trying to support their failed endeavour.

As for his friend's list, that doesn't mean anything either. The service used to auto-find friends for you to get you started based on some abstract criteria you filled in.

miss_independent

A family holiday was ruined a couple of years ago thanks to WAYN lol. My dad had asked me to go into his email account to retrieve something or other and the first email I saw was from a woman saying she had seen his profile on WAYN and that she lived nearby and would like to meet up "for friendship or sex". I managed to log into his account (he has one standard password for everything) and saw there were about 26 women, requesting to be his friend and most of the messages they sent made references to no strings attached sex. Like OP, my Dad's "account" had his name, location and date of birth but no profile pic.

Now my Dad is not that great with technology. He struggles to do the smallest things so I was interested to know how and why he had signed up for this site. For a few days I said nothing but felt sick thinking he was having casual sex with random women he met on the internet (he is still married to my mum). Eventually I asked him about it but there was a big hullaballoo as he started shouting and then my mum found out and went crazy - it was a nightmare.

It turns out that an old friend who had moved abroad had asked him to sign up for WAYN to keep in touch and he had actually sat with him and registered him for the site. After about two months, he had his first sexy email come through and he asked someone he worked with to de-register him, they refused saying that he should just delete the emails. My mum actually called this colleague and they admitted this and said he had actually asked them twice. Given that he had not consented to be friends with any of these women and that his story added up, we believe that he was telling the truth. I helped him unsubscribe and its now all in the past.

It could be something or nothing OP.

Tink2

specialboy wrote: »

How did you log in without a password?

He had a password

bagpussbear wrote: »

As you have zero trust in him, given things he has done before, my first reaction would be that he himself has signed up to this website.

If he has forgotten that he might have done it in the past, can you see from the account what date the account has been live from?

I would have thought it tricky to create an account for someone else, although I've no experience of this site.

Why don't you try creating one yourself so you can see what sort of questions, security questions etc it asks you so you can get a feel if it was easy enough for someone else to do it?

October 2006 it was created

FBaby wrote: »

He was probably a member years ago and they send him pretend message to get him active again. I registered to one site years ago, was never much active on it, and forgot about it. Then suddenly I started getting emails informing me that I had received a message. I ignored it then had another a couple of weeks ago. I now receive such emails once in a while and I don't believe there are real messages but made up ones by the actual site. Everytime I tell myself I need to go on the site to de-register but each time I can't be bothered. I delete the emails and that's it. Thankfully, no trust issues at all in marriage so no worries about that.

Yeah this was one of the things he said as he said he can't remember having a email off them before

Tink2

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

Ive never heard if it but googled it. It looks harmless enough to me. Its not like pof is it? More like FB. That in itself wouldnt make me suspicious but only you know what your OH is like. Dont jump to conclusions.

He hates social media sites which is what is making me question him being signed up to one, he says they are pointless

Tropez wrote: »

WAYN is not a dating site - it was launched at the boom period of social networking and designed to become a social network for people who enjoy travelling with the idea that they could meet up with new people when on vacation.

It failed.

It used cheap tactics to recruit large numbers of people (such as going through Hotmail, Gmail, Yahoo Mail etc. contact lists and sending them all invitations), repeatedly, whether they signed up or not. It was basically spam. If you did sign up, which many people did because their friends were apparently inviting them to do so, you generally got bored of it pretty quickly because a social network site based around holidays isn't exactly something you're likely to use much, right?

Anyway, anyone who has ever been invited or ever had an account gets emails from them from time to time with people wanting to meet up, allegedly, and conveniently, if you're male, they're usually cute young women with bubbly personalities.

It doesn't mean anything that your OH got an email from this website. The person who wants "to meet him" probably doesn't even exist, or is on the payroll of the company desperately trying to support their failed endeavour.

As for his friend's list, that doesn't mean anything either. The service used to auto-find friends for you to get you started based on some abstract criteria you filled in.

I'm really hoping it is that or his traveller friend got him to sign up and they just forgot to add each other

paulineb_2

I signed up to WAYN a few years back. Never used it much but one thing I did get was loads of emails from them, like on an almost daily basis and in the end I deleted my account.

If he had a password, hes either signed up to the site himself or hes done it with someones knowledge and theyve told him the password. I do know a lot of sites now allow you to log in with your facebook account instead of doing the username and password combination, but to do that, he would have had to link his fb account.

How did he have a password if he wasnt the person who made the account?

Tink2

paulineb wrote: »

I signed up to WAYN a few years back. Never used it much but one thing I did get was loads of emails from them, like on an almost daily basis and in the end I deleted my account.

If he had a password, hes either signed up to the site himself or hes done it with someones knowledge and theyve told him the password. I do know a lot of sites now allow you to log in with your facebook account instead of doing the username and password combination, but to do that, he would have had to link his fb account.

How did he have a password if he wasnt the person who made the account?

That's exactly what I said, he said that they could have got it from his email but the passwords aren't exactly the same

I just think there too much of a coincidence that the password was the one he uses on almost every other thing he's signed up to for it to have been someone else who created the account or for the account to have been created without his knowledge

lazer

WAYN is not a dating site - i too signed up years ago - and they do send a lot of e-mails.

It had a bit of popularity amount travellers but fizzelled out quite quickly, I would say nothing to worry about