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Wayn

My OH got a email tonight from a random girl saying she wanted to meet up with people who had similar interests, we looked at the site it came from and it was wayn, the email had his full name so I told him to try logging in and there was a profile with his name, date if birth age and location (no photos)

There were also messages and he had 11 friends (some females)

He thinks it's one of a few things either his mate who travels (it's a travel/catch up/social media type site) signed him up (possible bit why wasn't he in the friends list) or they've phished his email (possible but why would it have all his details and a password he would have had to put in) or he signed up ages ago and forgot (the account said registered since 2006 October)

The problem I have is the females in his friends list and this message from the girlbecause of various things he's done over the 13 years we've been together my trust for him is 0 (I don't need a lecture about trust and relationships please)

So my questions are has anyone had experience of this site? Have you had account created without knowing? Or is he trying to make a mug of me again (if he is he's gone!)
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  • specialboy
    specialboy Posts: 1,436 Forumite
    How did you log in without a password?
  • bagpussbear
    bagpussbear Posts: 847 Forumite
    As you have zero trust in him, given things he has done before, my first reaction would be that he himself has signed up to this website.

    If he has forgotten that he might have done it in the past, can you see from the account what date the account has been live from?

    I would have thought it tricky to create an account for someone else, although I've no experience of this site.

    Why don't you try creating one yourself so you can see what sort of questions, security questions etc it asks you so you can get a feel if it was easy enough for someone else to do it?
  • FBaby
    FBaby Posts: 18,374 Forumite
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    He was probably a member years ago and they send him pretend message to get him active again. I registered to one site years ago, was never much active on it, and forgot about it. Then suddenly I started getting emails informing me that I had received a message. I ignored it then had another a couple of weeks ago. I now receive such emails once in a while and I don't believe there are real messages but made up ones by the actual site. Everytime I tell myself I need to go on the site to de-register but each time I can't be bothered. I delete the emails and that's it. Thankfully, no trust issues at all in marriage so no worries about that.
  • peachyprice
    peachyprice Posts: 22,346 Forumite
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    FBaby wrote: »
    He was probably a member years ago and they send him pretend message to get him active again. I registered to one site years ago, was never much active on it, and forgot about it.

    May well be, but the account was opened in 2006, he was with OP in 2006. Not a very good excuse for having it ;)
    Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear
  • Ive never heard if it but googled it. It looks harmless enough to me. Its not like pof is it? More like FB. That in itself wouldnt make me suspicious but only you know what your OH is like. Dont jump to conclusions.
  • nonnatus
    nonnatus Posts: 1,458 Forumite
    I am also of the opinion that your OH set the Account up himself some time ago.
    My EX had a tendency to "completely forget" doing things like signing himself up to all sorts of sites involving women. He made me think it was ME that was going mad!!
    Following our divorce, he is now re-married (I feel only pity for her...) and we are able to chat very amicably for the kids sake. He has since admitted that he joined many sites (dating, mating and local interest to name a few) during our marriage out of "curiosity and boredom".


    I can laugh now. Not then.


    Trust YOURSELF Tink. If he's as innocent as he makes out to be, he won't mind answering ANY of your questions will he.....?


    (Good Luck)
  • DKLS
    DKLS Posts: 13,461 Forumite
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    Why be with someone who you don't trust?, I couldn't live like that.
  • paulineb_2
    paulineb_2 Posts: 6,489 Forumite
    I also think you'd need a password to log into the site.
  • heartbreak_star
    heartbreak_star Posts: 8,287 Forumite
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    I signed up for WAYN years ago. I never use it but occasionally I get a message saying I have "similar interests to someone planning to visit my city" and "would I like to meet up with them". Like FBaby, it seems more hassle to go and deregister than just delete the email haha!

    HBS x
    "I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another."

    "It's easy to know what you're against, quite another to know what you're for."

    #Bremainer
  • StuC75
    StuC75 Posts: 2,065 Forumite
    Always thought Wayn (Where Are you Now) was some form early social media site along lines of Friends Reunited.. Where these sites had various spin offs into dating sites which used that core information \ account details - bit like some of the facebook apps?.. Some of these early sites are not in the UK so have differing standards in terms of data protection and how friends can be added on these \ networks of people - so have many fake\ bot\ scamming type profiles that create these kind of messages.. I mean seriously how real does that opening line sound?

    It may be linked to some past indiscretion (was there any time you gave seperated in the past?).. Heck the number of times I get supposed emails from Facebook that have something along the lines of this as content..
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