Wayn

Tink2

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Do you have males friends by any chance? I couldn't be with someone who tells me who I can and can't be friends with. You sound jealous and controlling.

No I don't and again I'm not telling him who I can and cant be friends with

Cloudydaze wrote: »

Conversely I'd actually be very suspicious of a guy who didn't have female friends. I would probably think they were a bit socially inept!!

Having friends of both sexes is very normal in my social circle. Life would be exceptionally dull without them.

There's nothing wrong with only having friends of the same sex, doesn't mean you are socially inept!

FBaby

So what would happen if he befriended a girl? Would you tell him that he can't, would you dump him? It sounds like a very odd requirement because it shouldn't something one controls, ie. you become friendly with someone you get along, you shouldn't feel that you can't take the friendship further because of your partner's insecurities.

Tink2

FBaby wrote: »

So what would happen if he befriended a girl? Would you tell him that he can't, would you dump him? It sounds like a very odd requirement because it shouldn't something one controls, ie. you become friendly with someone you get along, you shouldn't feel that you can't take the friendship further because of your partner's insecurities.

I would end it

Cloudydaze

Tink2 wrote: »

There's nothing wrong with only having friends of the same sex, doesn't mean you are socially inept!

Being able to have platonic relationships with the opposite sex makes for a far more rounded and socially competent person.

Tink2

Cloudydaze wrote: »

Being able to have platonic relationships with the opposite sex makes for a far more rounded and socially competent person.

Guess we will have to agree to disagree

ellay864

Tink2 wrote: »

I would end it

Are you for real? Having a friend of the opposite sex doesn't mean you want to jump their bones at the first opportunity.
What if he gets another job? Has to go away for work?
If my husband had that little faith in me I wouldn't hang around to be dumped, I'd be out to find somebody with a more normal approach to people having healthy friendships

Tink2

ellay864 wrote: »

Are you for real? Having a friend of the opposite sex doesn't mean you want to jump their bones at the first opportunity.
What if he gets another job? Has to go away for work?
If my husband had that little faith in me I wouldn't hang around to be dumped, I'd be out to find somebody with a more normal approach to people having healthy friendships

Well he's my carer so he won't get another job, we both work from home

RuthnJasper

Tink2 wrote: »

Guess we will have to agree to disagree

Tink2's relationship with her husband is her business and hers alone. Her choices are not the ones I would make personally, but that's no reason for me to question her or offer her advice on subjects for which she hasn't asked.

She was asking about her OH's WAYN a/c, in relation to previous and private circumstances between him and her.

I'm happy to be shouted at/reported/whatever - but I don't think it's fair here to be drifting off topic and taking a pop at the OP. She asked for advice; it was given and gratefully received. Other stuff probably isn't helping much.

Tink2

RuthnJasper wrote: »

Tink2's relationship with her husband is her business and hers alone. Her choices are not the ones I would make personally, but that's no reason for me to question her or offer her advice on subjects for which she hasn't asked.

She was asking about her OH's WAYN a/c, in relation to previous and private circumstances between him and her.

I'm happy to be shouted at/reported/whatever - but I don't think it's fair here to be drifting off topic and taking a pop at the OP. She asked for advice; it was given and gratefully received. Other stuff probably isn't helping much.

Thank you, I appreciate your post

FBaby

There is just overall feeling of insecurity in this marriage that is a little bit alarming. OP said there were issues in the past which led her to question such things as her husband getting a message from a site which isn't even a dating one.

He is his carer, not allowed to make friends with other female, it sounds like he doesn't have much of life away from OP. Nothing wrong with this alone as he might be very happy with the situation, but this combined with OP's insecurities makes me wonder whether the relationship is not so healthy and OP might be in a vulnerable situation.

I hope not and OP is just rebuilding her trust with her husband whatever happened in the past.