My 15 year old daughter has been killed by a lorry

Danni-R

Just wanted to send my love to you and your family at this time. I hope that you all can receive the help and support that you will need.

And I agree. Martha is a lovely name and think *Max*'s words are beautiful and describe her name perfectly.

GBNI

I'm so sorry for your loss xx

PenguinOfDeath

So sorry for your loss, sending you and your family kind thoughts x

hazyjo

So so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter. Didn't want to read and scarper. I can't even let myself imagine as the pain would be too intense. My aunt still struggles with having lost a son (my cousin) in his 30s.

I've had the name Martha in my head for a couple of weeks now. Weird. Used to work with (and live near) a lovely girl called that with a sister, Alice, and was wondering how they were all doing. 'tis a lovely name.

Jx

VJsmum

I am so sorry to hear of this.

My niece and nephew have derived great benefit from Winston's Wish after the death of their father.

They may be able to help your other children - and you too.

rainbowfairydust

What a beautiful name Martha is... I am so sorry i cant be of much help but i am so very sorry for your loss.:(:( You are all in my thoughts and prayers. xxx

cef66

Having read your thread last night I went to bed thinking of you and Martha and woke up this morning thinking of you both.

I told my 15 year old about Martha before he went out today as he was doing his typical teenager bored 'yes mum' as I was having the 'where was he going, what time he'd get there, be careful about this and that' conversation.

Martha sounds like a lovely person. I would like to hear more about her, when or if you feel you can share with us at some point.

(Max's words were lovely.)

Hope today is an OK one for you. X

vanessav

So, so sorry that you lost your daughter Martha. I have heard that there are some helpful and experienced posters on Mumsnet Talk -the bereavement topic thread (just search 'bereavement').

4Chickens

My closest friend lost her 14yo son in a car accident and she didn't know how to begin healing. It didn't help that I was 3000 miles away when it happened and couldn't get home for the funeral. I had no experience of such an all consuming loss but had to do my best to help. Here are some random things I said and suggested.

The first thing I told her was that she had been an exceptional mother and her son knew every day of his life that he was loved and cherished.
The second thing I told her was that he isn't gone in the absolute sense, he is in your heart, where he has always been and forever will be.
The third thing I suggested was that she bought a big book, preferably with a nice cover and binding to be her special book of memories but also a place she could go to to record her thoughts and feelings as time passed. When times got too difficult she could go back to this book for reassurance.
I also suggested that she should continue to buy birthday and Christmas cards and put them in the book until a time came that she no longer needed to. I doesn't matter how long that takes, there is no rush.
Gravitytolls, you had 15 years of loving and growing with Martha, take it slowly. I know it is a long road, my friends son died 12 years ago now but she took her time with some bumps along the way she is as 'normal' as someone could be under the circumstances.

All of the above probably sounds like wishy washy rubbish. But I seen it work for my friend and it may or may not work for you.
I will leave you for now, take care :grouphug:

DUKE

gravitytolls, I'm so very,very, sorry for the loss of your daughter Martha. Hopefully you will in time find peace from this terrible tragedy x

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