My 15 year old daughter has been killed by a lorry

System

I'm so very sorry to hear about the tragic loss of your daughter, Martha, sadly I lost my own little boy very suddenly too.
The shock is almost unimaginable and, as others have mentioned, although support is out there, it doesn't always gel with you.
We did go to several different groups plus counselling, but tbh it didn't help as much as we hoped, sorry.
What I did find out the hard way (we had previously had two still born babies ) was that you can't support someone else when you are bent double with your own burden. Nor is it always the people that you think will be a good support that prove to be. We did, however, find love and support in the strangest places...
I also recommend the Lindsay Nicholson book and One step at a time by Betty Madill.
You are now in the club no-one wants to be in, the bereaved parents group.
Feel free to pm me if you want to 'talk'
Linda xx

Stephb1986_2

I'm so so sorry for your loss Gravity. I'm not sure if god actually exists if he does why take such a young girls life? Why not take someone who is older and have had their life. It's so so cruel.

Although you can't see Martha you can still talk to her I'm sure she will be listening where ever she is.

Take care of yourself

Steph xx

jumpingjackd

How very sad and tragic loss for you and all the family Gravity, thoughts and prayers go out to you

daisiegg

Like others, I have nothing useful to add but needed to post to say I am so, so sorry for your loss.

I am a teacher and over the last couple of years we have lost two teenage girls from our school community to tragic accidents (one road accident and one train). The most recent was not long ago and she was 13. Speaking simply as someone who only taught her an hour a week, I know I still tear up when I think of her. I literally cannot begin to imagine what it must be like to be closer to the situation, let alone to suffer the loss as a mother. I really hope you can find strength from somewhere and that you and your family who loved Martha can support each other through this horrendous time.

System

Without going into too many details. Losing our daughter was the final crack that blew my first marriage apart.

Remember that we all grieve in different ways.

angelil

So very sorry for the loss of your daughter Martha.

I do think it is lovely that people here have remembered to use her name. I follow a blog called The Spohrs Are Multiplying, which is written by a husband and wife team who lost their first daughter Madeline. One of the things they mention is how important it is to them that people continue to use her name and let them know that they still remember her existence.

It may be helpful for you to read their blog. They are five years down the line, and their blog may simultaneously reassure you that it is possible to both move on and still never forget.

geoffky

Dark days indeed but eventually the sun will shine just not as bright..
My sister was killed at 18 by a drunk driver.

s11fyx

So very sorry for your loss.

Valli

An unbearable loss. My heart goes out to you.

MrsAtobe

My heart goes out to you, Gravity. As someone who has lost a loved one (although not a child) in an accident, I can empathise with the grief you are going through, but never experienced it to the extent that you must be. I sincerely hope that you find the help and support that you need.