Help me understand....

victory

rach_k wrote: »

I don't think she should have asked for half of her entrance fee... I think you should have OFFERED before she had to do that. If it was a trip to a cake shop I would only offer to pay for my child as clearly they're all going to be doing something pretty nice and she could sit and have a tap water if she wanted. However, an adventure day that two boys want to go on? Well I don't know about her but I don't imagine that would be great fun for me! I wouldn't mind going but it's not something I'd choose to do and it doesn't sound like she wanted to go right from the start as she only said she'd go once she realised they needed an adult with them. Didn't you realise they needed an adult, if you booked it? If you don't want to pay for something you're not getting to do, offer to go yourself, either in place of her or as well as her. If you don't want to go, just pay it and consider it a good deal.[/QUOTE

I personally have never been in a situation other than this one when anyone has asked for half of accompanying adult payment, if I take child out for cake it would never cross my mind to ask for half petrol cost because I took them to cake shop or to pay my bus fare because I went on the bus with them, I would pay my bus fare, my petrol but would expect child to buy his own cake as my child would buy his..

victory

iammumtoone wrote: »

Is it something your OH would enjoy? I think its a good point about him going, the boys might enjoy it better, all boys together.

Could your OH go? or is it too late?

You could suggest that happens as it will save your friend even having to pay half, and in effect you will only be having to pay half for your OH (seeing as your are paying half for her now anyway).

I'm beginning to think either this yes or I go myself, at least that way either OH or I paid for something we are actually attending?

iammumtoone

I would never ask afterwards for anything if I offered in the first place.

However for something as expensive as a red letter day if it was something I wouldn't enjoy I *might* ask for something towards my ticket. BUT I would make this very clear from the start and if anyone else offered to go in my place with me having to pay half for them I would be happy with that.

iammumtoone

victory wrote: »

I'm beginning to think either this yes or I go myself, at least that way either OH or I paid for something we are actually attending?

If you do, I would be interested to hear what reaction you get, whether its one of relief that she doesn't have to go or a bit disappointed as she missed out on a half price ticket!

victory

iammumtoone wrote: »

I would never ask afterwards for anything if I offered in the first place.

However for something as expensive as a red letter day if it was something I wouldn't enjoy I *might* ask for something towards my ticket. BUT I would make this very clear from the start and if anyone else offered to go in my place with me having to pay half for them I would be happy with that.

The more I post/read the more it comes clearer, if the word fault is used if needed ,then I think not saying before booking tickets that you would like me to pay half of your ticket is a fault, there's a lot of things you could take a guess at what could happen but this was not one I would have thought of/ expected/ saw coming, it would have been a whole lot different otherwise

victory

iammumtoone wrote: »

If you do, I would be interested to hear what reaction you get, whether its one of relief that she doesn't have to go or a bit disappointed as she missed out on a half price ticket!

OH returned from work, told him, he's like ' why have we got to pay half? :rotfl::rotfl: I'll go, we shall see when he has a better think about it

Better_Days

OP I don't think you are paying half for nowt.

I think you are being asked to pay half to someone who is facilitating a super day out for your child.

Friend may not have gone about it in the right way, but I can see where she is coming from. It may be when she agreed to this her funds were a bit more flexible than they are now. It maybe that she has had similar arrangements with family/friends where she is given half and it didn't occur to her that you wouldn't.

Don't think it is worth jepordising your childs day out over this - probably been looking forward to it for ages.

victory

Better_Days wrote: »

OP I don't think you are paying half for nowt.

I think you are being asked to pay half to someone who is facilitating a super day out for your child.

Friend may not have gone about it in the right way, but I can see where she is coming from. It may be when she agreed to this her funds were a bit more flexible than they are now. It maybe that she has had similar arrangements with family/friends where she is given half and it didn't occur to her that you wouldn't.

Don't think it is worth jepordising your childs day out over this - probably been looking forward to it for ages.

Yes they have:D OH says it would have been a whole different scenario had we known we were paying half, like maybe we would have gone just the 3 of us. Or maybe OH and DS or take another friend who would have paid in full, we didn't know it was going to be like this so could have discussed either we agree or seek out alternative arrangements, that was then though this is what it is now

Georgiegirl256

Those red letter days can be quite pricey sometimes, so I can see where she is coming from, and it seems fair tbh. However, I don't think she has gone about it the right way, and should have mentioned it to you a lot sooner.

victory

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Those red letter days can be quite pricey sometimes, so I can see where she is coming from, and it seems fair tbh. However, I don't think she has gone about it the right way, and should have mentioned it to you a lot sooner.

Agreed, the price was discussed, nothing of what took place prior to the ticket purchase or the actual purchase was an unknown, it was all there plain to see, the only thing that was an unexpected change was being asked for half of her cost:D