Help me understand....

victory

FBaby wrote: »

Maybe because the good deal of the two is to be home? I can think of activities I would rather pay someone fully to go with my kids than me going!

If I stay home as agreed, she offered to take them last year, then I pay half for not going:rotfl::D

victory

I'm sorry for confusing everyone... Condensed version here...

DS and friend going day out, each parent pays for ticket, agreed

DS friends parent offers to take them as under 16 not allowed in unaccompanied, agreed

Train fare each parent pays for, agreed

Pocket money/ lunch/ up to each parent the amount, agreed ( probably be given the same for fairness so one child doesn't feel left out etc)

Tickets came out yesterday, I'm in charge of internet buying, bought agreed

Accompanying parent couldn't of wouldn't access internet asked me to buy ticket, agreed

Then after all tickets were purchased in my name on my card I get told I will be going halves with accompanying adult, no idea how that came about ...

poet123

I can see both sides. I wouldn't have asked for half the ticket but if it was somewhere where I either couldn't go, or didn't fancy going, I would be glad my child could go so I would have probably offered.

When you say she offered to go last year that is all well and good but is it place where as an adult you go on "sufferance" merely as a chaperone or one where you would choose to go and can take part in whatever? When people offer to do something at a later date they often don't think things through on the spot, it may only have been later when she thought about it that the ticket price was factored in.

What is the attraction/event?

*max*

So she was always going to the attraction herself? Not just accompanying them on the train?

If she knew all along and it wasn't a last minute thing due to finding out they can't go in without an adult so she has to buy herself a ticket too, then I agree she has a cheek to ask now. It should have been discussed at the time. But then, what can you do about it now? I'd pay up in the name of good relations, but I'd make sure to discuss all monies at the time of organising next time.

Your post really doesn't make it crystal clear that this was the case though - especially with mentionning the under 16 thing as if it came as a last minute surprise which means she has to buy an extra ticket for herself.

Edit: Ah right, now you've clarified. Yes, I agree that's cheeky to ask for it now without having given you an opportunity to discuss.

victory

poet123 wrote: »

I can see both sides. I wouldn't have asked for half the ticket but if it was somewhere where I either couldn't go, or didn't fancy going, I would be glad my child could go so I would have probably offered.

When you say she offered to go last year that is all well and good but is it place where as an adult you go on "sufferance" merely as a chaperone or one where you would choose to go and can take part in whatever? When people offer to do something at a later date they often don't think things through on the spot, it may only have been later when she thought about it that the ticket price was factored in.

What is the attraction/event?

Adventure day

poet123

So is it something you as an adult would choose to go to? Or is it teen centred?

victory

*max* wrote: »

So she was always going to the attraction herself? Not just accompanying them on the train?

If she knew all along and it wasn't a last minute thing due to finding out they can't go in without an adult so she has to buy herself a ticket too, then I agree she has a cheek to ask now. It should have been discussed at the time. But then, what can you do about it now? I'd pay up in the name of good relations, but I'd make sure to discuss all monies at the time of organising next time.

Your post really doesn't make it crystal clear that this was the case though - especially with mentionning the under 16 thing as if it came as a last minute surprise which means she has to buy an extra ticket for herself.

Sorry, no last minute surprises, it's one of those red letter special days, terms n conditions clear, last year and today, accompanying adult knew the day, the plan, the timings, the health and safety they have to go through at the beginning of the day, she would never have gone alone, no, she chose to go, she knew all a out it, what the day entailed, they do various days of endurance, military style, water based,basic, etc and there was a date of release for the ones the kids wanted for months time

iammumtoone

How much money are we talking about for half? And how much is her adult train fair.

May be she has realised that it is going to cost her more than she thought. She has to pay her train fare (I assume she hasn't asked for half of this as well!) and her ticket to get in, this could amount to quite a lot of money.

If you were to go, you would have to pay your own train fare as well as your ticket. Is the cost of half the ticket less than the cost of the train fare iysyim?

victory

poet123 wrote: »

So is it something you as an adult would choose to go to? Or is it teen centred?

Personally it's not my kind of day out, the parent knew, chose to go, wanted to go I would say yes for the kids sake ,she chose to go, offered, if I had been asked to go as the parent I would have gone , my ideal place, something on my wish list? Well honestly no

victory

iammumtoone wrote: »

How much money are we talking about for half? And how much is her adult train fair.

May be she has realised that it is going to cost her more than she thought. She has to pay her train fare (I assume she hasn't asked for half of this as well!) and her ticket to get in, this could amount to quite a lot of money.

If you were to go, you would have to pay your own train fare as well as your ticket. Is the cost of half the ticket less than the cost of the train fare iysyim?

Googling train fare.,,, £ 9/10 return looks like... No not asked for half train fare, I can't imagine I would be too keen on paying for that,, this was her choice, it's not my choice to subsidize her half,