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Help me understand....
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Seems like the OP only posted this thread to elicit responses that backed her up and since there is no clear consensus on whether the friend is a 'cheeky mare' or not, she keeps paraphrasing and repeating herself ad nauseam in an attempt to get broad agreement. Hence its up to 5+ pages and counting.
As everyone has already said, if the friend will enjoy the activity and would do it herself regardless of the kids, then I think she is being a little cheeky asking for half. That said, she is still making it possible for YOUR kid to go and enjoy himself and will be responsible for him whilst he is there, so maybe it's not all that cheeky. If on the other hand she is doing it out of obligation (you already said it's not your sort of thing, so maybe she felt she had to offer or the kids wouldn't be able to go), then I feel it's you being the rude one. If you know she offered just to make it possible, then you the are taking advantage by trying to wriggle out of paying what is fair by saying 'but she offered'.
I have a niggling feeling that we aren't getting the full facts here....
Or she's just quoting and responding to the many replies with the same answer because they are asking the same questions.People don't know what they want until you show them.0 -
Yeah, or that!
Remember Occam's Razor - the simplest explanation is usually the right one.
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Immediate observations maybe she wanted you to go as well as didnt really want to go but had to otherwise sons would miss out. If you went then she would have had company whilst they had fun. You not going so she compensates by requiring you to pay half her entrance. No I wouldnt agree either but sometimes its best to just go allong with it maybe take it up another time or be clearer next time as to all scenarios. Perhaps you or they should have realised there would need to be an adult present a while ago if looked into it?? Not saying you hadnt just thinking allowed so dont want to upset with me lol. If all else fails and its possible then hand her some vouchers from paper or something rather than the cash. She would have already paid the entrance fee before she / they go so the day can still go ahead wont spoil anything (unless she a sourhead) just say you give her an IOU Failure is only someone elses judgement.
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Seems like the OP only posted this thread to elicit responses that backed her up and since there is no clear consensus on whether the friend is a 'cheeky mare' or not, she keeps paraphrasing and repeating herself ad nauseam in an attempt to get broad agreement. Hence its up to 5+ pages and counting.
Yes, my thoughts exactly. This is usually how the OP's threads go....my way or the highway! If I posted a thread asking for opinions, it would be for that very reason, that I wanted various opinions, not just ones that agreed with me.
As everyone has already said, if the friend will enjoy the activity and would do it herself regardless of the kids, then I think she is being a little cheeky asking for half. That said, she is still making it possible for YOUR kid to go and enjoy himself and will be responsible for him whilst he is there, so maybe it's not all that cheeky. If on the other hand she is doing it out of obligation (you already said it's not your sort of thing, so maybe she felt she had to offer or the kids wouldn't be able to go), then I feel it's you being the rude one. If you know she offered just to make it possible, then you the are taking advantage by trying to wriggle out of paying what is fair by saying 'but she offered'.
I think this is the crux really, and despite numourous people asking, I don't think we've ever really got a clear answer, and probably won't either. I think if the other parent is going along to something she'll enjoy, and that is a day out for her too, then she should pay. If she is going along under duress, then the ticket price should be split.
I have a niggling feeling that we aren't getting the full facts here....
Me too. 0 -
Seems like the OP only posted this thread to elicit responses that backed her up and since there is no clear consensus on whether the friend is a 'cheeky mare' or not, she keeps paraphrasing and repeating herself ad nauseam in an attempt to get broad agreement. Hence its up to 5+ pages and counting.
As everyone has already said, if the friend will enjoy the activity and would do it herself regardless of the kids, then I think she is being a little cheeky asking for half. That said, she is still making it possible for YOUR kid to go and enjoy himself and will be responsible for him whilst he is there, so maybe it's not all that cheeky. If on the other hand she is doing it out of obligation (you already said it's not your sort of thing, so maybe she felt she had to offer or the kids wouldn't be able to go), then I feel it's you being the rude one. If you know she offered just to make it possible, then you the are taking advantage by trying to wriggle out of paying what is fair by saying 'but she offered'.
I have a niggling feeling that we aren't getting the full facts here....
Uhm why all that? People ask I answer, that is the way of a thread no?? There are no facts to add, as you say 5 pages in I have answered all the questions, how can I possibly elicit responses that back me up whether she is a 'cheeky mare' or not if I said clearly I have no idea at all about this one as it has never happened that I as a non going parent been asked for half of the going parents ticket price??, It was very clearly said I have no clue, I answered all the questions, posts, if I don't answer them that is rude and ignorant of me if I do it is 'ad nauseum' wow:D0 -
Kayalana99 wrote: »Or she's just quoting and responding to the many replies with the same answer because they are asking the same questions.
well exactly:D................0 -
Georgiegirl256 wrote: »Me too.
It's about having everyone's opinions georgiegirl the thread opener says 'help me understand...' because it was made super clear, without a shadow of a doubt clear I had never come across a scenario with the many times I have taken other friends kids along with me and vice versa had never been asked for half the adults ticket price, ever, so the opening posts asks have you?
I have done 241 or BOGOF or groupon, or taken them there and the parents bring them back, I have paid one time for their kids and the other time they have, I have offered lunch and they bring the bags of haribos, I have bought the refillable cups for the kids and the kids buy the candy floss or the ice creams, I have made fairy cakes for them to take along with them or they have brought the crisps and I have supplied the sandwiches.....but I have never been asked before to pay half for an adult that is accompanying them, so the question is have you?
People post with their views, their ideas, their helpfulness, their experiences, that is the point to a thread which on post 1 I clearly said that I had never had any experience in and have you?
I said many posts back that I am thinking that OH does not like the idea of having to pay half price for something he is not attenting and therefore he is thinking of looking at going himself with them, so far that has not happened because the parent has not been around to pay.
The update is no update at present it is half term and the parent said they would 'pop by and pay what I owe you' and have not popped by so far, so there is nothing to add, so did not post which stops it from being 'ad nauseum' and going into page 5 with the same ideas bandied about no??? 0 -
No tickets left for the already booked day, sold out, OH is looking at going, maybe he will, he says if he has to pay someone else and never knew then it's for nothing and he might as well pay full price and get some fun for it:D
My answer back a few pages, it is looking like this is the answer to it, other people asked in between hence it goes on some more pages, that is the way any thread goes;)
I was swaying to pay half and just use it as a learning curve, OH thinks more if I am paying anyway, I might as well get the full value out of the day out.... so it is not writen in stone but most likely OH will go.....0
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