Who is the Breadwinner?

duchy

I think what people are saying is that your poll is useless because in this day and age it isn't a two horse race -some couples earn the same ....and at certain points any of those three data points can apply as the earnings of both of the couples can "change position".

A survey doesn't need to cover every situation but is worse than useless if one of the three major demographics is ignored deliberately to manipulate the results.

Daisy -I do think your situation is one discussed before it happens.
My parents were always equal earners but when I was born my Mum stayed home so effectively had no income (apart from £1 or something like that) child support. My parents went the joint account route -which worked for them as either of them could "treat" themselves without asking or any comment made but they always discussed the big purchases first.......suited them- wouldn;t suit everyone. Would a transfer from the main family account to your account equal to what you earn now work better as an effective SAHM "wage" or would a joint account work for you?
Maybe just a rework of the finances and an agreement that you both have a "me " account for treats, cosmetics, clothes -presents etc and all daily need stuff comes out of a household account that covers bills, kids clothes petrol , food etc.
No right answer as we're all different but I do think its something to be discussed ahead of time rather than when baby hormones and sleepless nights have arrived and logic isn't always abounding

LandyAndy

anotheruser wrote: »

Who is the breadwinner in your family, the Husband or the Wife?

I like to think of myself as pretty liberal and modern, but I am sure I would feel bad if the Wife was earning more than the Husband. But then I guess it would depend on how much more. A few thousand isn't a big difference but when it is getting on five or even twenty thousand, it's pretty hard going
I guess it's because I would not be used to it, especially growing up in a "traditional" family.

Discuss.

:P

We have a six figure income and my wife earns over 80% of it. Neither of us find it awkward.

DannyBo

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

Well it could be argued that there is such thing as a 'commonlaw wife/husband' or that in same sex one is still the man and other a woman.

This has to clearly be the winner of the most ridiculous, ill-informed post ever :T:T

Also, the poll is ridiculous :eek:

starrystarry

anotheruser wrote: »

No, I just haven't had any experience of the woman in my partnership earning more than me. If you read more, you will see that it will happen. I excel in being liberal and modern in other areas, yet in some, a more traditional approach is better.

Are you actually saying that it's better if the "husband" earns more than the "wife"?

giantmutantbroccoli

Lol this thread.
"I excel in being liberal and modern in other areas" Do you reeaaally?

onlyroz

When we first got married my husband earned considerably more because I was a PhD student earning peanuts. I now earn about £10k a year more, but after student loan and pension deductions, childcare vouchers and contributions to the company share incentive plan our take-home pay is about the same.

However, hubby's pay won't increase much more than it is now, whereas I hope mine will go up considerably over the years to come.

TopQuark

LandyAndy wrote: »

We have a six figure income and my wife earns over 80% of it. Neither of us find it awkward.

Absolutely. I have a 6-figure income myself and my fiance earns around 2/3 of my salary. I'm female btw. At the moment I earn more and if we have a baby, it will be him at home looking after him/her as that's what makes financial sense.

Neither of us has a problem with it - why would we?

Most stupid poll I've seen in a long time.

Buzzybee90

Boyfriend earns about 7k more than more, I've never even thought about it. He's not the breadwinner, I thought the breadwinner was more a term when one worked an the other didn't.

This thread is ridiculously dated.

tea_lover

I have a breadmaker, does that count?? Although OH bought it for me, so maybe that still makes him the breadwinner?

Still laughing at this being 'liberal and modern' :eek::rotfl:.

neverdespairgirl

anotheruser wrote: »

No, I just haven't had any experience of the woman in my partnership earning more than me. If you read more, you will see that it will happen. I excel in being liberal and modern in other areas, yet in some, a more traditional approach is better.

But why on earth is it "better" is the man earns more than the woman?

Couple 1 - Husband earns £30k. Wife earns £80k.

Couple 2 - Husband earns £30k. Wife earns £10k.

Beats me why you assume that couple 2 is in some way "better" just because the pesky wife isn't making hubby feel bad.

OH and I are both the "breadwinners", although OH won't bring home the bacon because it's not kosher.