Who is the Breadwinner?

Tiddlywinks

anotheruser wrote: »

Who is the breadwinner in your family, the Husband or the Wife?

I like to think of myself as pretty liberal and modern, but I am sure I would feel bad if the Wife was earning more than the Husband. But then I guess it would depend on how much more. A few thousand isn't a big difference but when it is getting on five or even twenty thousand, it's pretty hard going

Discuss.

Poll open for 30 days only.

EDIT: Just to add, I specifically didn't want a middle ground as many people would choose this. If you earn exactly the same, perhaps think about other income or don't vote :P

This is a flawed poll - full stop.

There are other options that you have chosen to ignore.

If you really wanted an accurate picture then you would have offered all the possibilities... you obviously have a chip on your shoulder and have something to prove.

As someone else has said, contribution is not just about money. Some partners would never be able to work the hours / shifts etc if the other half (male or female) wasn't there to support them.

I suddenly feel like I'm back in the 50s.

redpete

anotheruser wrote: »

EDIT: Just to add, I specifically didn't want a middle ground as many people would choose this. If you earn exactly the same, perhaps think about other income or don't vote :P

So you deliberately want a skewed result? How odd.

lilmissreading

carrielovesfanta wrote: »

I'm the breadwinner while hubby is in uni.

He's feels it VERY acutely and is really embarrassed by it.

Same for us, chances are I'll remain main wage earner being further ahead than him due to being lucky in finding the job I love early on. Sure sometimes it'd be nice if it weren't all on me, but neither would I like to be at the whim of someone else's earning.

I encouraged him to stop earning and go to uni as he hated the previous job. Better to have less money but a happier DH and lucikly that's how it's turned out so far, so been worth it.

neverdespairgirl

My godmother once sent my parents a wedding anniversary card that was addressed to "Head of the Household".

Inside, she wrote, "who opened it?"

Sadly, it didn't reveal much, as my mother opens absolutely all the post anyway (-:

ska_lover

Very limited options on this Poll. Many families dont only have one breadwinner..

Mrs_Ryan

When I was working we earned much the same. Now I'm off on long term sick I'm on half pay and benefits so he earns double what I do.

Elfbert

We're not married, but I (female) earn more than he does.

We've been together for ages, and met at a part time job when I was still at school - so he earned more then (he was actually my manager )

Since then he's helped me to pay my way through Uni, and I've helped him when he did a career change so wasn't working for a while. I reckon it all evens out, and once he's settled fully into his new career I think he'll be earning not far off what I do.

We're in it together, there for each other - that's all that matters.

**Patty**

No vote.


On account of:


He may well bring home PAYE earnings in excess of my PAYE earnings but....


We have similar *incomes*


Both his salary and my investments equally enables the lifestyle we have.

tiger_eyes

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

Well it could be argued that there is such thing as a 'commonlaw wife/husband' or that in same sex one is still the man and other a woman.

I'm going to be zen and ignore this comment.

neverdespairgirl

Very wise, tiger. No point in borrowing unnecessary aggravation.