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Dilemma
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As I understood it, the weekend away had been booked and then this reunion came up in the same area. Why would you not look to combine the two? See it as convenient? A few hours (3-7pm) out of a weekend would not be a deal breaker for me.
No I think the OP says the reunion is in their home town and the hotel is about an hour's drive away from that. As I understand it the husband proposes to drive to the hotel, spend some time there, then have the OP drive him back to their home town and then collect him after the reunion and go back to the hotel. Which doesn't sound a lot of fun to me.
I'd be inclined OP if it was a one off reunion to stay in the hotel and use the facilities and let him have the car to drive himself there and back, which should mean he doesn't get back steaming drunk and hopefully in time for a nice meal at a sensible time. He probably will be less inclined to extend the time he stays at the reunion if he is on the soft drinks all afternoon because he is driving.0 -
No I think the OP says the reunion is in their home town and the hotel is about an hour's drive away from that. As I understand it the husband proposes to drive to the hotel, spend some time there, then have the OP drive him back to their home town and then collect him after the reunion and go back to the hotel. Which doesn't sound a lot of fun to me.
I'd be inclined OP if it was a one off reunion to stay in the hotel and use the facilities and let him have the car to drive himself there and back, which should mean he doesn't get back steaming drunk and hopefully in time for a nice meal at a sensible time. He probably will be less inclined to extend the time he stays at the reunion if he is on the soft drinks all afternoon because he is driving.
I don't disagree. I would have him get a taxi back to the hotel.0 -
I don't disagree. I would have him get a taxi back to the hotel.
An hour taxi is not realistic.The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.0 -
No I think the OP says the reunion is in their home town and the hotel is about an hour's drive away from that. As I understand it the husband proposes to drive to the hotel, spend some time there, then have the OP drive him back to their home town and then collect him after the reunion and go back to the hotel. Which doesn't sound a lot of fun to me.
I'd be inclined OP if it was a one off reunion to stay in the hotel and use the facilities and let him have the car to drive himself there and back, which should mean he doesn't get back steaming drunk and hopefully in time for a nice meal at a sensible time. He probably will be less inclined to extend the time he stays at the reunion if he is on the soft drinks all afternoon because he is driving.
Sounds like a good compromise.
For me, having to drive to the hotel, then drive him back, then pick him up again would defeat the object of having a break away. I wouldn't feel relaxed at all.0 -
Sure , but he does not want her to cancel. He wants her to go , to taxi him around and pretend that she is happy so as not to upset him.Enabling your husband to go to an event that is important to him and wont happen on another date, without ill feeling. It wont be much of a weekend away if you are both upset, annoyed and resentful of one another.The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.0 -
Why? If he want to go that much it needs to be factored into the cost of the weekend.
Because let's be realistic , it will likely be more than cost of the whole weekend. He did not offer it , it was set that she would be driving him judging by her post.The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.0 -
Well we don't know that the plan wasn't to spend time visiting the relatives in home town anyway? so its just now he gets dropped on the way there and collected on the way back.
I'd let him get there and back and spend the time in the hotel (spa) or into local town if there is something to do there.0 -
Presuming the OP's husband can drive/isn't banned from driving then driving himself seems the best plan and if he doesn't enjoy his reunion because he wanted to drink then tough.
I'd be interested to know if the reunion is in the town they currently live in or a town they have previously lived in. I get the impression (from the relative visiting) that it's not the town they currently live in.Make £25 a day in April £0/£750 (March £584, February £602, January £883.66)
December £361.54, November £322.28, October £288.52, September £374.30, August £223.95, July £71.45, June £251.22, May£119.33, April £236.24, March £106.74, Feb £40.99, Jan £98.54) Total for 2017 - £2,495.100 -
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