Dilemma

calleyw

and seeing it from another point of view the reunion will only happen on that one day. And you can go away any other weekend.

Personally I would rebook the weekend and let him go the reunion.

Yes disappointing but really worth getting upset about!!!!

relationships are about give and take and respecting each other even if you don't agree on something.

what ever you do enjoy

Yours

Calley

Georgiegirl256

Soleil_lune wrote: »

This ^^^ He is now trying to make YOU feel bad, and trying to make out YOU are in the wrong, because HE is 'meeting you halfway' by going to the reunion, and also still making YOU happy by coming back for the evening. (This is how it is in his head, and he cannot fathom why you're p1ssed off...)

He literally cannot see he is in the wrong. You have a battle on your hands here. Good luck hun. Like I said, if it were me, I would cancel our plans and say 'go to your f00king reunion then!' That (IMO) would place the blame for the ruined weekend, firmly at his feet. He will owe you one then.

Wow! :eek: Such bitterness and generalisation towards men here! It's not just men who can be selfish creatures, I actually know a lot of women who would act in such a way....if not worse. Why the big downer on men?

Georgiegirl256

calleyw wrote: »

and seeing it from another point of view the reunion will only happen on that one day. And you can go away any other weekend.

Personally I would rebook the weekend and let him go the reunion.

Yes disappointing but really worth getting upset about!!!!

relationships are about give and take and respecting each other even if you don't agree on something.

The OP mentions in her first post that the hotel booking can not be changed.

Gavin83

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Wow! :eek: Such bitterness and generalisation towards men here! It's not just men who can be selfish creatures, I actually know a lot of women who would act in such a way....if not worse. Why the big downer on men?

There's a lot of bitter man hating women in this area of the forum.

To the OP, what's plans did you have for the Saturday originally?

trollopscarletwoman

I'd also like to know how often these reunions occur. If its once in a blue moon then if it were me I would try and combine the two. Competitve sport was clearly important to him.

Which sport was it please?

trollopscarletwoman

Soleil_lune wrote: »

He will owe you one then.

He will owe her one.

But Won't get a chance to give her one I guess for quite a while.

calleyw

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

The OP mentions in her first post that the hotel booking can not be changed.

I must have missed that.

Would go on my own then,

And it also did strike me as a lot of man haters as well.

And yes I am female LOL!!!

Yours

Calley

Buick

Gavin83 wrote: »

There's a lot of bitter man hating women in this area of the forum.

To the OP, what's plans did you have for the Saturday originally?

It's renowned for it.

OP I was going to ask the same, - what would you and hubby have been doing on the Saturday had he not decided he wanted to go to the re-union? By the sounds of things he's not leaving you all on your own if you're able to go visiting relatives instead?

VJsmum

My OH has a habit of saying "you've upset me now" when I've called him out for something like this.

I think what I would do, as it can't be changed, is agree to go still - through gritted teeth - go along with it all, enable it all. If you don't, he will resent it the whole weekend. But remember that he will owe you one. Oh, and can't you go to the reunion too or is it purely a man thing?

Liz19

I think you are right. I am already resigned to the fact that he will go to the reunion and yes it is purely a man thing. I am just miffed because this sort of thing has come up before and the outcome is usually the same. I did suggest that he go and I take our daughter to the hotel for a girls break but he thought I was just being petty and trying to make a point. Thanks everyone for your comments if nothing else I did get to vent a bit.