How do I live without him?

honey28

Thanks PLB. Thing is they dont deserve our tears - bet they arent crying! (doesnt stop us though!) :mad:

needmoney

Awwwww girls I wish I had words of comfort for you. The thing is if you keep up the facade for long enough it becomes reality. This will pass Hugs to both of you and shiny sunshine and all happy things xx

astudent

Hi Honey28

Same thing happened to me, husband of 20 years wanted 3 months to 'think things over', 9 months later had a child with someone else. Don't waste your tears.

jazzyjustlaw

honey28 wrote:

Ive posted previously on this thread - to cut a long story short i found out my husband had been having an affair. It ended,but he left me, to think things through - to work out if he wanted to be with me or not! He told me he needed a break from me to work out how he felt about me and I have (like a fool) waited for the past 3 months for him. Anyhow, today i found out that he had been on a date last night with another girl!! So much for thinking things through! I feel like such an idiot, for letting him walk over me for the past 3 months and basically have his cake and eat it. My friends told me that I was being too soft, letting him come and go and deep down i knew I was but I just wanted him back. Its hard to let go of something that you love so much

Don't be too hard on yourself. You love him and you wanted him back. You are not a fool he is.

jazzyjustlaw

PinkLipstickBabe wrote:

Thank You to the 'person' who came to talk to me by MSN Messenger, you know who you are, I feel a little better now, thanks for helping me when I needed it xx

Sorry I let you all down, I've listened to so much good advice, been so good sticking to it then I let you all down again tonight. I feel a total failure and ashamed by my weekness. Sorry

What are you apologising for? You have not let anyone down. You have to do what you have to do. You should not feel ashamed at being human. x

pandas66

Hey, hows things Pink? Gorgeous day!

purplepatch

Hi PLB

It's natural that there will be times like this when you feel really down. Just hang in there. Remember that the weekends are the hardest, so don't be despondent and don't talk of failing. You're doing brilliantly, and how you're feeling positive some days and totally deflated on others, is absolutely normal. There's no denying it's a rough ride, but you'll get through it. Trust all of us that have been there.

It could be worse, you could be down South today where it is blustery, rain in the air and generally miserable :rolleyes:

Hugs
x

ps Not very mse I know, but I always found a spot of Saturday retail therapy a helpful way of getting me through a sad weekend!

jazzyjustlaw

purplepatch wrote:

Hi PLB

It's natural that there will be times like this when you feel really down. Just hang in there. Remember that the weekends are the hardest, so don't be despondent and don't talk of failing. You're doing brilliantly, and how you're feeling positive some days and totally deflated on others, is absolutely normal. There's no denying it's a rough ride, but you'll get through it. Trust all of us that have been there.

It could be worse, you could be down South today where it is blustery, rain in the air and generally miserable :rolleyes:

Hugs
x

ps Not very mse I know, but I always found a spot of Saturday retail therapy a helpful way of getting me through a sad weekend!

Yes I can second that I am on the South Coast and its miserable - rain and windy.

ditzymuppet

I can third that! I'm on the South Coast too..it's tipping it down with rain and blowing a gail!!

PLB:
You are being so strong and brave and just a general superstar! You wouldn't be human if you didn't have 'i want him back' type feelings :rolleyes:

You could do what I did once... comprise a list of good things and bad things about the relationship.. you have to be completely honest.. maybe take into account some of the things that you have posted on here? When you are feeling down in the dumps next time, refer to it It may help put things across objectively. Please don't think I'm getting at you, I'm only trying to help (albeit badly!) :rolleyes:

~ditzy~ x :rolleyes:

SnowyOwl_2

Hi PLB

Maybe it is time to start getting new people into your life. It strikes me that you are just plain lonely. Have you looked into anything that would bring you into contact with others? A part-time job (doesn't really matter if you're over qualified, don't need the money etc etc), some voluntary work, or some evening classes - there may be 8 week cookery/sewing/language or whatever courses starting around now. If nothing else these will give some focus and structure to your week, and it can only be a good thing to mix with people who know can only relate to who you are now.

I suffer from the lonely blues too having moved from England where I lived for 15 years back to N.Ireland where I am from, but find that I don't especially belong here any more. It did me lots of good to get involved in a camera club...hey that's an idea, you like photography!!...and to find local work. OK so my social life isn't exactly sparkling, but I don't spend each and every minute despairing over what I left behind (and like you I am plotting my escape). So I would recommend that you involve yourself with others, even if it is only for an hour a week.

I hope that helps somehow...loneliness is horrible and there are loads of people who would be overjoyed to have you in their lives if you just give it a chance...