How do I live without him?

davidcampbell

PinkLipstickBabe wrote:

Thank You to the 'person' who came to talk to me by MSN Messenger, you know who you are, I feel a little better now, thanks for helping me when I needed it xx

Sorry I let you all down, I've listened to so much good advice, been so good sticking to it then I let you all down again tonight. I feel a total failure and ashamed by my weekness. Sorry

stop apologising rebecca, you are only human. you havent let anyone down.

hope rest of your day goes ok.

big hugs
david
xx


oh and for the record folks, it is gloriously hot in scotland today ... think im melting :rotfl:

jaybee

I'm in the South too, and it really is a horrible day - cold and wet. So cold that we've just put the heating on again!!!!

PLB - I do understand how you feel. Personally I'm not a believer in 'going back' in relationships. Generally 'they' have you where they want you and it will always be your fault - every time anything goes wrong it will be 'but you choose to come back'. Just hang in there - it doesn't happen quickly but there is a better person for you out there somewhere. Look again at Margaret Clare's writings!

Just a little smile. . . .please:hello:

margaretclare

I agree with jaybee. Going back isn't a good idea. Mostly in life, we never have the option of going back, and it's just as well we don't. There were good reasons why you ended this relationship in the first place. Those good reasons still exist.

FWIW, in south-east Essex in this corner north of the Thames, the sun has just struggled out, it's dry but with a very, very cold wind. And I've just spotted 2 baby robins under the pyracantha going 'feed me, feed me'. And young starlings trying to splash in the pond like their parents do, but getting it wrong, getting into the deeper parts instead of using the paving-slabs at the bathing end, then trying to stand on one of the water-plants which promptly gave way and tipped them back into the water. There's always something going on, always something to see out there. Life is good!

Aunty Margaret

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Edit~ The thread is now open


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mini

Swattie

Hi PLB,

I read that it's your birthday.

I don't know what the weathers like where you are, but here in the E.Midlands it is beautiful - crisp, cool, clear & sunny.

Use your birthday as the beginning of the rest of your life.

Spoil yourself today.

Start a list of all the things you've ever wanted to do and haven't yet (similar to the Things you should do before you're thirty list) and start planning how to achieve them.

They don't have to be BIG and EXPENSIVE such as walk the Sydney harbour bridge, they can be normal & do-able such as seeing a Shakespeare play in the New Globe in London or Learning to Ice Skate or an Indian Head massage (I've never had one)..........

a bit like a list of your own red-letter days.

Anyway have a lovely day. There's friends out here thinking of you.


xxxxx

purplepatch

Glad this is open again.

Happy Birthday PLB :j

needmoney

Me too was worried about you, you OK?

headchef

Well done you. Can't quite find the words, but I'm so relieved to hear from you - as I'm sure so many are. And overjoyed that you've turned the corner. :-))))))

margaretclare

Hi Babe

Delighted to hear from you. Joyce PM'd me over the weekend - she was concerned about you, and so was I. I can't tell you how happy I am at this outcome - as you say, the new, positive YOU! Obviously it was the right thing for you to do to contact him, if you hadn't, you might have gone on for several more weeks, months, years even, always wondering 'what if?' The fact that he responded with nasty bitter aggressive accusations when all you asked was 'how are you doing?' really says it all. No matter what you did you could never please him, and I wouldn't have been happy if you'd gone back to him, even though you were missing him so much, because as Joyce and I said over the weekend, he would have 'got' you then, he'd have been able to think 'aha, I can do/say what I want now'.

A very Happy Birthday to you (am I allowed to ask which one?) And very many of them. Life is out there waiting for you, it's a beautiful spring, the young starlings are busy learning about getting a drink from the pond without falling in and half-drowning themselves! 'Life is what happens when we didn't notice' (misquotation from John Lennon, I think!)

Very best wishes

Aunty Margaret

purplepatch

Lovely to hear from you PLB, and sounding so positive. Well done you.

Hope you have a great day today
:beer: