How do I live without him?

libra10

Thinking about you PLB. Be strong

Swattie

Was going to text you to say 'Welcome to your new number' as I do know your number - but thought that would be a bit familiar of me.
Happy phoning & texting.

Have a lovely weekend

ditzymuppet

Hows your day going PLB?

I've just burnt my mouth on some soup (oww!)

Hope you are well and happy

~ditzy~ :rolleyes:

ditzymuppet

Hey PLB

Please don't be cross at me for this... but it seems that your ex has got an awful lot of issues, be it with women...but from what i can see, its being in control. Suicide attempts were him crying out for attention, and still having control over you... Him telling you to jump, and you asking how high ---> I'm guilty of this...!

Please please please do not worry about this man... You HAVE made the right decision for you! We have to be selfish in this world occasionally, and I'm so proud of you for getting out of this abusive, (emotionally and psychologically) relationship, you are better off without him, don't look back. :rolleyes:

Hugs,

~ditzy~x

Savvy_Sue

The good news is that unless he has no other living relatives the police would not need YOU to see him. Even if he has no other living relatives I believe they would or at least could ask his ex-wife to perform any such service for him. I do not think they could require you to do so. So relax, and IF the call comes, say NO!

I had alarm bells ringing from early in your post about you spending 24 hours a day with him, and I've just read what you put on the health board about waxing! Even more scary !!!

boofy_2

PLB: Have only just read your thread from page 1. I then scrolled to page 31 and discover that you are on the way to recovery already! Your mind seems more focused on the reality of the whole situation and you are seeing things objectively. See - time does heal! You WILL ache for a while, of course. But your ability to throw the rose-tinted glasses away will help you to be stronger, you'll see. WHATEVER happens, this man made his own decisions in life and your life is not to be held to blackmail! Find some inspirational verses (there are many websites) . Print them off and stick them throughout various parts of your house and read them each day! Look forward to hearing from you. xxxx

boofy_2

PLB: Luv your little pictures at the end of your posts. Pse tell where they come from. Thanx

margaret_3

Like Boofy, I have only just read this thread---all 31 pages. OMG! I am SO pleased that I didn't read what you were going through without knowing the outcome. You have had a DREADFUL time, but you have shown great strength of character and I'm quite sure this episode in you life will have made you a stronger person.
Although you have come through it, I still feel so sorry for you.
Things can only get better.
Margaret

Spendless

PinkLipstickBabe wrote:

Well, there is the problem...he put me down as his next of kin after we got together and although he has living relatives, it's down to me as he is the only one can change his details with them as to who his next of kin is. Not me. Plus, I think he wanted to hide the 'attempts' from his mother so having me as next of kin hides it effectively from her. The whole situation is sensitive.

At which point you could say that you are not next of kin and give relatives details.

I know a lot of co-habiting do put each other down as next of kin but based on other things you've said this also seems to be about being in control of you.

BTW-I also read your waxing post and I'm with Savvy-Sue.

All the best PLB

jellyhead

hi PLB,
i'm just wondering, does he know your address?

if the police etc. do contact you you don't have to see him, you're NOT his next of kin. you're not married to him, you're not even in a relationship with him, if they are worried and want somebody to look after him then all you need to do is give them the details of his mother or another relative. if he's in such a bad way that they think he really will kill himself then they can section him. it's not your responsibility. i don't mean to sound harsh but if he's that bad then maybe he does need help, being sectioned could be a good thing for him.