My ex still thinks we're together

Yorkie1

Well done for telling him that you didn't want a relationship with him.

I agree that telling your coach is a good idea if you can manage to do so; it just means there's someone else looking out for and can 'innocently' rescue you from any situations where this chap starts talking to you / where you might not feel too comfortable but can't work out how to end the situation.

meritaten

I think Indie kid would have no trouble saying 'Go away! I don't want to talk to you'! right kid?

Yorkie1

I was more than capable of doing that with a similar situation, but knowing that I wasn't doing it alone, and that others were there to help me out, made it more bearable.

Indie_Kid

meritaten wrote: »

I think Indie kid would have no trouble saying 'Go away! I don't want to talk to you'! right kid?

You're right, yes.:o

His number is currently blocked and it seems as though he's made no attempt to contact me. If he does text me, I can see what he's said; but it goes into a different folder.

Person_one

Yorkie1 wrote: »

I was more than capable of doing that with a similar situation, but knowing that I wasn't doing it alone, and that others were there to help me out, made it more bearable.

Absolutely, its always a good idea to let other people know about situations like this.

Hermia

Yorkie1 wrote: »

I agree that telling your coach is a good idea if you can manage to do so; it just means there's someone else looking out for and can 'innocently' rescue you from any situations where this chap starts talking to you / where you might not feel too comfortable but can't work out how to end the situation.

I agree. It's always useful to have someone watching out for you whoever you are. My friends and I do this all the time. It's also good because it shows a pushy person that the individual is not alone.

Indie_Kid

Thanks. I've finally had a chance to speak to my mum. She wasn't too happy when he said regarding unprotected sex (not surprised, given her previous comments) and said that she thinks that he's got it into his head that because I'd agreed to meet up with him, he thinks we're together.

When I told him in December that I didn't want a relationship, he kept wanting to meet up and someone else said I should just do that. But as far as I was concerned, he was just going to try and talk me into going out with him.

Caroline_a

OP, is there another coach who you could go to? I coach and had a similar incident with two people I coach. They were both (I think) younger than you, and I spoke to the girl's father. We agreed for her to move on, and I would speak to the lad, as we both believed that although it was fairly traumatic for her, there was actually no harm meant, just that the lad has very poor communication skills and fails to understand anything unspoken. She may come back from time to time to me in the summer, but seems ok with her current coach. The lad has settled much better now and is learning (slowly!) what is appropriate and what isnt around the female group members.

Person_one

Caroline_a wrote: »

OP, is there another coach who you could go to? I coach and had a similar incident with two people I coach. They were both (I think) younger than you, and I spoke to the girl's father. We agreed for her to move on, and I would speak to the lad, as we both believed that although it was fairly traumatic for her, there was actually no harm meant, just that the lad has very poor communication skills and fails to understand anything unspoken. She may come back from time to time to me in the summer, but seems ok with her current coach. The lad has settled much better now and is learning (slowly!) what is appropriate and what isnt around the female group members.

Hang on, she was punished for his actions? That's not on at all, what a terrible message to send to a group of young people!

The OP should not change her running club, if his behaviour is enough of a problem that she feels she needs to do that, then he should be told to leave.

Indie_Kid

Leaving the club wouldn't that bad of an idea actually. There's another member who I had different problems with last year. He wouldn't leave me alone and got sectioned, which was my fault apparently.:mad:

He's now wondering why I'm ignoring him. Well, considering he harrassed me via text, wouldn't leave me alone, despite asking 3 times and then turning up to club and deciding the whole evening he was going to bother me. I couldn't really tell him to !!!! off in front of others.

Had no such issue at my previous club. Only left because my current club is around the corner and my previous club was two buses away.