My ex still thinks we're together

PlymouthMaid

You both sound a bit loony and obviously aren't on the same page. Better clear it up or just stop seeing him altogether. Is an unusual age gap for a male/female friendship. Is he the type of man who has never had a real girlfriend?

Indie_Kid

Can't cut ties with him completely unless I want to change running clubs, which for various reasons, can't happen.

If it makes any difference, I am Autistic and he's Dyslexic. Although, I'm not overly sure on how and if being Dyslexic does impact on relationships.

Hermia

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Can't cut ties with him completely unless I want to change running clubs, which for various reasons, can't happen.

The thing is you can't be friends with someone when they are wanting more. You totally can be friends with exes when it's all completely died down between you and you've both moved on. But, being platonic friends with someone who is hoping you are going to fall for them? No way. If you cannot change running clubs you need to just be polite to him and not make any social arrangements unless your club is all going as a group.

eleanora_

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Can't cut ties with him completely unless I want to change running clubs, which for various reasons, can't happen.

If it makes any difference, I am Autistic and he's Dyslexic. Although, I'm not overly sure on how and if being Dyslexic does impact on relationships.

It doesn't impact on relationships at all.

itsanne

You being autistic is relevant to how you're acting. Him being dyslexic makes no difference. Although his responses don't seem "normal" - in fact they are a bit worrying - that is nothing to do with his dyslexia.

You need to stop "seeing" him. Don't have lunch with him, don't have conversations in person or on the phone, just be polite in passing if you have to. If possible, you'd be better to avoid him altogether for a while. If he insists on asking, tell him you are not interested in a relationship and don't be persuaded to meet.

Person_one

The age gap, the fact that you have a learning disability, plus his controlling tendencies are ringing some very loud alarm bells here.

Don't even talk to this man anymore OP, never be alone with him and make sure someone is always expecting to hear from you after running club.

stig

Not a surprise you're autistic, comes over clearly from the first post.

So, keeping it clear:-

Why do you describe him a an "Ex?"

Have you had a physical relationship?

And how was it different from the relationship you have now?

Stig

tiger_eyes

Person_one wrote: »

The age gap, the fact that you have a learning disability, plus his controlling tendencies are ringing some very loud alarm bells here.

The original post also says that he mentioned he had a criminal record. Some of my best friends have criminal records but it's a possible red flag.

Gingernutty

No dinner dates.

No going out to dinner.

Don't meet him alone.

Don't get in his car.

Block his number again. Don't reinstate it.

He thinks you're engaged to each other.

Your autism is affecting how your react and behave around people.

His way of thinking is not down to dyslexia.

This man is not your friend.

marisco_2

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Can't cut ties with him completely unless I want to change running clubs, which for various reasons, can't happen.

If it makes any difference, I am Autistic and he's Dyslexic. Although, I'm not overly sure on how and if being Dyslexic does impact on relationships.

That this guy is dyslexic would have no impact on how he conducts himself in friendships or relationships. His behaviour and attitude comes down solely to how he chooses to be. Many people are aware that those who have autism have their own way of viewing the world, and that their logic, sense of reasoning, thought processes and reactions to situations are different. I find it concerning that he appears to see you as vulnerable and is trying to control and manipulate you. As others have suggested cut ties with him. Far easier to change running clubs than end up with a guy who could end up stalking you and being a real problem.