Wedding dilemma

squ1rrel5

I think its entirely reasonable to invite single people without OH's if they are being invited as part of a group of colleagues/uni friends etc. However, if there is a group of friends and only one partner is not invited, then that's just rude.
Unless there's something that the OP isn't telling us about his wife?

If I was in this situation I would politely decline the invite and Im sure my husband would too.

If for example all my husbands work colleagues were invited to the wedding with partners, but I wasn't invited I dont think my husband would really enjoy sitting on his own with all those other couples knowing that I'd been snubbed. I can understand how your wife feels, so you might be pushing your luck if you actually decide to go!!

I can understand there being restrictions for guests because of budgets/space etc but I really dont think that the friend of the OP has gone about it the right way unfortunately.

Scotsbride

I have to say I didn't invite partner wives/husbands or children unless they were emediate family! Generally if it just your name on the invite then +1 aren't include that doesn't stop people asking though and it is awkward for the couple who are probably stressed out! personally I think it's a tad rude to ask. speak to your wife and ask if she ok with you going though.

emweaver

tea_lover wrote: »

I'd hate to think I was only going to be invited to things as a couple for the rest of my life, how depressing! You're inviting someone for a day out, a meal - not telling them their marriage is worthless. Am amazed at the lack of perspective of some posts on this thread.

I am amazed at your attitude, you seem to think everyone should agree with you. How depressing if everyone felt and thought the same.

emweaver

gbartlett1980 wrote: »

It turns out that the couple are not having an evening do and therefore can't invite everybody to the wedding.

Is it still rude for the invite not to include my wife?
The wife doesn't want me to go on my own, is that fair?
All my friends wife's are invited apart from mine, what's that about?
If I pull out of the stag do will this now offend my friend?

I would feel the same as your wide especially as all your other friends partners are invited. If I was in your position I would explain why I wasn't going and ask why it was only my partner being excluded.

Pulling out of the stag do may offend your friend but he doesn't care he has caused offence to you and your wife.

sulphate

I didn't invite my single friends with a +1 if they were part of a group of friends who would all be sitting together etc. One of my friends was single and didn't know anyone else, and I told her she was welcome to bring a +1 which she declined. But she obviously felt really awkward and got inappropriately drunk and yelled at me and followed me around the whole night. Oh dear bless her.

Talk of "fussy eaters" at weddings reminds me, haha, this didn't happen at my wedding but at my hen do, one of my then-friends is vegetarian and a lot of the veggie stuff served for the lunch involved goats cheese (apparently) which she didn't like. I didn't organise it (one of my bridesmaids did) and had no idea about her passionate hatred for goats cheese, so stood there like an idiot while she yelled at me. Omg. She no longer speaks to me... :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

PS. I'm coeliac/gluten free and more than understand the importance of dietary requirements, but... you can't please everyone!