MSE Pregnancy Club 28

arbrighton

Well our travel system is in our house. I hadn't heard it was bad luck before I read it here after it was delivered and while I wouldn't walk under a ladder, this one doesn't seem to bother me. Parents kindly paid for that.

His mum wants to buy 'something' so we've said she can come with us and buy the cot. But when I don't know. It's not a simple affair as she's in a wheelchair and 90 min away so one of us will have to do two round trips for her (she wouldn't pay for an airport taxi type thing to make it easier....). But she's nagging us about going over there on easter weekend. Having just spent the whole of last week with us (and OH went 2 hours out of his way on each leg to pick her and her gubbins up). But my sister might be staying to do the murals on the walls for bean's room, depending on how work goes for a deadline straight after that weekend. And well, I don't blinking want to go.
I know it isn't needed til 6 months as we have the bednest but I want to get the nursery ready now and put the clothes away etc and there's no point buying other furniture but not that.

I also need to start buying more of the bits and bobs we are going to need.

Family friend has made a patchwork bag and blanket for us. With some essentials tucked in the bottom. That was lovely but has reminded me how unprepared we are really

Lifestartsat40

Hello Ladies! Penguingirl - I understand your concerns regarding the crib, especially about it having gaps at the sides, My mum came over last week with a load of baby clothes that belonged to my niece, (now coming to 10 years old) she had washed them all bless her, but on closer inspection, a lot of them had food stains on them which I don't hold out much hope of them coming out if they've been there 10 years! - A lot were also, I think too small - 5-7lb etc - My other babies have all been 8-9lb+ so I had to politely decline them.
Im 30 weeks this weekend and still the nursery hasn't even been started although we have our tour of the hospital next week along with my 31 week midwife appointment. OH is off work Easter week, so that is when we plan to get organised although we still need to buy a chest of drawers for the nursery and a car seat - everything else is pretty much taken care of.
My little one seems to have slowed down her movements a lot and its panicking me, then just as I think I will ring the hospital, she starts wriggling about. I think this last trimester is the most worrying to be honest, as you know they could survive if born and although I know the best place for her is to stay put at the minute, a part of me is willing away the next few weeks as I just want her here safe and sound. Anyone else feel the same?

april87

Lifestarts I think thats something we can all identify with. I can't wait to get the next 8 weeks or so over with so baby is here, but like you I know he will make an appearance in his own time no matter how much I want him here sooner.

I only heard about having the travel system in the house being bad luck on here I think, and maybe from the OH gran, it wasn't something I had come across before. Ours is not being delivered until the start of May which is handy as we don't really have anywhere to store it before hand.

Sweet hopefully everything shows ok for your growth scan on Sunday, measuring the bump isn't 100% accurate so they could be wrong and bump is a fine size all along. I just took it as another chance to see bump when I had my growth scan the other day, but it is far too easy to worry.

penguingirl

Lifestarts- I definitely know what you mean. I actually got quite upset in the hospital when they demo-ed switching on the resuss trolley for baby as it just made them seem so fragile to me. I'm also quite obsessive about movements at the moment, I think it feels like a lot of pressure to notice everything.

OH and I had a chat before lunch (both 'working' from home), which mainly involved me crying, and I am going to talk to my mum tonight to try to be more assertive about the crib, but also explain that I've been upset by it all. We don't need stuff from family, but we do need some support- so things like someone to come and stay when OH has to go away in a couple of weeks; he hadn't realised how anxious I am about it, and at 3.5 weeks before due date he can't not go, as he wants to minimise going once we're into May and after he's born (he goes away every couple of weeks for 1-2 nights, but it would only be 1 at the moment). But of course the day he is away next is my parents' moving day. My mum also wants an Easter meal with all the family, as it will be last family meal in their house (that we all grew up in). But it means we're doing the 100 mile round trip 3 weekends in a row and it's not fun anymore.

Arbrighton- could you do the shopping near MIL at Easter to combine the 2 things? But I wouldn't want to go either. I think people really want to 'do something' to be helpful, but actually the most helpful thing right now would be to allow us to have a pyjama day and not leave the house. I feel like I work 7 days a week at the moment as we've not had a day 'off' for weeks.

arbrighton

Actually, by the time we get to her and get to the nearest town/ ikea, we may as well just fetch her here, but good thinking Penguin.

I'm lucky that i'm not at work every day but still struggling sometimes. I don't have the nesting instinct yet and so things aren't getting done and I get frustrated with what I should have done. But when I do try to do things, it takes so long and is so tiring anyway. Part of the reason I do want these three weekends just us and dogs at home is just that. And we need to try and get new (to us) dog to follow commands as we give them rather than how FIL used to. Which needs both of us as if one of us tries 'training', then one or both dogs plays up.

penguingirl

I think maybe we're all just quite harsh on ourselves? I know I am still trying to adjust to the change in pace and energy- this time last year I ran a half marathon, and now I'm too tired to run a bath

I've also realised that my pregnancy is so different to my mum's generation- my mum wasn't in work whilst pregnant, and my colleagues who did work have told me that they were forced to take maternity leave at 29 weeks! So maybe our families don't realise how busy life is these days? OH tells me off as well as he says he's noticed I just find it easier to say 'I'm fine' than tell people I'm not always, and then they don't make any allowances for me being tired etc. With that in mind I have texted my friend who is getting married on Saturday and told her we will likely go after the meal due to my back- thankfully she was really understanding and she has a little boy so remembers how hard pregnancy can be.

Panic over with my mum- she has looked at the mattress and crib again, listened to my concerns and concluded that it's just not going to work, but has offered to buy us one instead. I've said to her we're not in a rush to get one because of the moses basket, so we'll see where we are once bump is here and I don't think she'd realised how cheap they can be anyway! I think the timing of them emptying the house they have been in for nearly 30 years and me being pregnant doesn't help matters as there is so much stuff surfacing that she has kept 'just in case'.

arbrighton

I am harsh on myself yes, a problem anyway but I'm so used to being physically able that it's a shock to not just be able to do x, y or z

firebird082

I was really struggling until we went on holiday, at which point I gave up everything but the aquanatal. Since then I've been much less stressed, and feeling a million times better. In fact, everyone keeps saying how calm I am, and it's true - a bit unnatural really, as I'm a total worrywart normally, as was for the first 12 weeks! I've even been really relaxed about bubba's movements, though now I've worried myself, as it's been suprisingly quiet while I've been at work today. That probably means we're due for a karate session as I try to go to sleep later :rotfl:

sweetbabu

Thank you all x

I had my monitoring and the hospital midwife couldn't have been nicer. She said that the Doppler the community midwives use is about 6 times smaller and a lot less advanced than what they use in hospital. I was hooked up for 1 hour and she was more than happy to sign off and say there was nothing that she could hear (And she had a second and third opinion too). It was quite funny to hear his kicks as well!

I still have my growth scan on Sunday (I did to OH about I being an excuse to see littlie again). I think it was more the midwifes manner earlier that got me. Thinking about it, one of the midwives when I was pregnant with my daughter said that she felt a bit bigger than she should have been and she was early (although only 5lbs 10oz!), So I'm not ruling that out this time.

Penguin, I'm glad it's been sorted with the crib now. I'm bad for keeping things in case and I hate waste, so can almost see where your mum is coming from but definitely agree with you!

Arbrighton, thats a shame that she won't get a taxi - that's a LOT of travelling for either of you to do :undecided

sweetbabu

Firebird, actually laughing out loud at the karate session comment! :rotfl:

I was lying in bed this morning and was getting kicks at both sides. God knows WHAT he was doing! :rotfl: