MSE Pregnancy Club 28

sweetbabu

We've decided that we're not going to any antenatal classes. I gave my OH the choice if he felt he would benefit from them, and he's said he doesn't think so. So that's that.

This pregnancy seems to have taken forever to get to this stage (30 +2) - however, it struck me on Monday that I was only just over 6 weeks away from when my daughter was born. Now, I know that every pregnancy and baby is different, but it was quite the shock I needed! We're going to go for an ikea cot and mattress for my parents' (I have to fly up every three weeks). We still need a mattress for here and we need to look at getting our hospital bags ready as well.

I have been struggling with tiredness, but have also been waking up very early. My blood work came back as having anaemia - which isn't a surprise, considering that I was on iron (and a higher dosage) before I was pregnant an the Dr told me to stop taking it!

I've also been waking up in the morning with really bad pains in my legs - like restless leg syndrome, but on speed! Still sleeping mostly on my front and fairly comfortable still.

penguingirl wrote: »

Sounds stressful arbrighton! But glad bean and you are both OK. Hopefully you've managed to relax after work.

Tour of the maternity unit was good. Really hoping we can get a room with a pool in, which only 2/7 do at my unit, but both were free this evening so that's a good sign one will be available. Also discussed private rooms with OH this evening which I'd not considered. They like to keep you in overnight and he thinks I might be able to get more rest if I have one, so we've agreed to think about it at the time depending on how I feel and how busy the unit is. They are £75-100 per night. Anyone else thought about it?

To be perfectly honest, I was on a ward after I had my daughter and it was utter hell - I think there were 7 or 9 other women on the ward with their babies and it was SO noisy!

However, I was so hyped up on adrenaline that I wouldn't have been able to sleep anyway. I just remember lying, staring at this tiny, perfect little human.

Clara, I've got my fingers crossed for a little 5th April birthday :j

clarabell1984

Hi ladies, just popping on for a quick update - will try and catch up tomorrow!

Still no baby yet! Had midwife and sweep today. Wasn't as bad as I had heard it could be but was quite uncomfortable afterwards all the same. Have just been taking it easy today and swear I had a few irregular contractions after sweep along with backache but fizzled out towards dinner time.

Midwife gave me an appointment to be induced on 12th April but said she would be very surprised if I didn't go before that as head was very low in pelvis. There was a pelvic examination score in my notes which totalled an 8 and upon googling it, appears to refer to Bishops score and seems very favourable for a spontaneous labour.

Not going to get my hopes up but off for an early night night just incase! Xx

cats2012

Don't worry at all Clara it's still early days. Annoying I know but loads of time before the 12th. Mine was 100% spontaneous at 9 days over, it was just one of those things I guess.

Fingers crossed the sweep kicks something off though :-)

clarabell1984

Yeh I know, just good to hear that things are hopefully heading in the right direction! And if it doesn't happen, it'll only be another week until I'm induced.

Not been sleeping great the last few nights so taking sleep when I can get it xx

penguingirl

Fingers crossed Clara! This is an excellent weekend to have a birthday

Anyone else had difficulties with families and them trying to 'help'? My mum and dad are lovely, but they are in the middle of moving house and are super busy at the moment. They also are hoarders so have lots of old stuff lying around which they sometimes try to palm off, I'm not entirely sure whether it's for sentimental reasons or just because they find it hard to throw 'good' stuff away. I have already had to turn down an old 1980s pram, that was beautiful, but just not practical and is huge. Mum thought it would be nice for in the garden. I don't know where she thought we would store it. She had also mentioned a crib when I first told her I was pregnant, but hasn't said anything since, and it was only when we got the moses basket from BIL that she has got a bit huffy saying 'well I thought you were having our crib?' but only said this last night. I explained that as she hadn't mentioned it since, I assumed she hadn't found it/ it wasn't right and we are getting everything ready and have got to the stage that if things haven't materialised we are buying them. It turns out she has found it, has plans to paint it and has bought a mattress that needs shortening (she's going to do it herself) as it is 78cm long (moses basket is 79cm, normal crib is 89cm) but hasn't done any of this yet. Am I weird to be a bit upset that 3 weeks away from being considered term she hadn't thought I might want a crib ready? Goodness knows where she thought this baby would sleep if it comes early. I'm also a bit concerned that baby will outgrow it at same time as the moses basket, and we don't have space for a cot in our bedroom so could end up just buying a normal crib, plus now I have to find non-standard bedding. She has commented that it is short but both my brothers were fine in it, but has also previously said we were all in our own rooms by about 3 months. I know she wants to help, and she has been very generous buying our pram, but I guess important things like beds I would have liked to have been consulted rather than feeling obligated. We also had a previous argument about me storing the pram in my house- apparently it is bad luck, but as they live 50 miles away, are moving house and are on holiday the week before due date I told her I wasn't risking not being able to get to the pram/ car seat and she really didn't get it. Am I being ridiculous? I sort of feel like I am, but just don't have much resilience in the tank at the moment and don't have the energy to pander to others.
/rant over

edit: also realised her crib is 40cm wide and standard mattresses are 38cm wide so now I'm concerned about it being gappy down the sides and I think that's pretty dangerous as their hands can get stuck. I know she means well but I don't think she gets how important a bed is! I'm actually pretty laid back about most safety stuff, but this is the one item I don't want to compromise on. I've found made to measure mattresses online, but they only go up to 38cm wide.

april87

Penguin I feel your pain, my mum and sister are constantly texting me to tell me what they've picked up, and it stresses me out. I ended up snapping at my sister over text yesterday as she had bought a jacket. I'm already worried about not having time to do things, inc a stock check of everything we have/have bought since I last updated the list without them having things at their house/s that I can't take into account as I don't have it. TBF it wasn't my sister I was snapping at, she just text me at the wrong time but yeah I feel ungrateful as they are trying to help but right now its not really a help to me. I can't wait for the weekend to pass, and then I can finally start getting things a bit more together next weekend. So yeah they are trying to help but doesn't always feel like it.

Wow Penguin I can't believe how close you are to being term means I'm not far behind you :eek:

Clara hopefully the sweep has helped move things along.

firebird082

It sounds like she's the one being a bit ridiculous, Penguin, not you! I quite agree that at 35+ weeks you definitely want to have everything ready! I had a mad anxiety dream yesterday about not having anything ready and baby arriving early - we haven't finished wallpapering, or picked up any of the stuff friends are lending yet, and I'm only 30 weeks!

My parents have long since thrown away any baby stuff, so we're safe on that front, but the in-laws seem to have been doing a bit of clearing out, and are apparently going to send some stuff in our direction...can't quite see how it's all going to get here from Newcastle, and whether it's worth it, but oh well, if it keeps them happy...

Nearly down to 5 weeks left at work, and I'm finding I have zero interest in being here. The on-going good weather isn't exactly helping either! Getting a bit more backachy now, and bump is definitely growing at a faster rate - it'll be interesting to see what the measurements are at my 31 week appointment next week.

Clara - everything crossed for you that things are starting to move on now.

penguingirl

I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Thank you ladies, really thought I was going mad. I'm just coming up to 34 weeks, but term is counted as 37 isn't it? Nephew was born at 37 in January so I'm definitely aware that we are getting near the 'any time' stage and I only have 2 weeks left in work which is also stressful. Definitely suddenly crept up on us! Still no news on carpet delivery so the piles of baby stuff everywhere are still driving me mad as we're holding off on the furniture, I think I just want to nest and finding mobility harder each day so panicking that by the time we're sorted I won't be in a state to tidy up/clean. But we will get there...

sweetbabu

Penguin, It's definitely not you! I think babies and weddings have a way of making normally sane people a bit crazy!

I had my 30 week midwife appointment today and she detected what she said was an ectopic heartbeat and measured my fundus at 37cm - that's a 10cm growth in 3 weeks. At this rate, he will be able to play the entire back line for the national rugby team!

We've been sent straight to the hospital for monitoring and we now have a growth scan on Sunday morning. She told me all this and then said don't worry...

penguingirl

Oh gosh, sweetbabu that sounds worrying! I have no idea what impact an ectopic heartbeat has (or what it is) so no idea whether it is as scary as it sounds. Hope you're managing to not panic and Google isn't making it worse. But also sounds like they would have done a scan today if really concerned.