MSE Pregnancy Club 28

psychopathbabble

Good luck today Flutter xx

ThinkPink

We have spent a while this morning working out what furniture we need for baby's room and trying to pick stuff that won't be outgrown in a couple of years, but also trying to make most of what space we have available. We still haven't made a decision yet!! We have till Thursday to decide as that's when we will be going to buy it!!

Flutter- good luck for today although fingers crossed things will move by themselves.

crazy-cat-lady_2

We've just had the maternity ward tours. Feel a little more happy with the hospital now having seen them. We had previously thought of going to the main delivery ward, stick to the doctors over the midwives in case of any problems. Nothing against them, but I'd feel more confident with doctors around me than midwives. But in terms of privacy, how quickly they can get you out and home and comfort, the little birthing centre rooms look to be a lot better, even if I won't be using half of it like the water bath or sensory lights and all the stuff.
They've been through things and I'm suited to one as everything seems to now be quite straight forward. So think that's the way to go.

Beckyy

Good luck for today Flutter!

I think it's expected to put on around 2 stone, but it must vary massively for everybody. Some people have told me they've barely put on 2 others have said they put on 5 so I haven't bothered weighing myself really. I just seem the same as normal but with a bump though so I'm not too worried what the scales would say.

rubywhatashmoo

Fingers crossed today is the day to meet your little one Flutter!

tatabubbly

Ladies, weight gain varies wildly - don't try to follow any prescribed formula.. I put on a ton of weight - think +3 stone but that was cos of fluid retention.

But I'm now 3 weeks post partum and I'm 15 pounds from my pre pregnancy weight.. Hope it helps you ladies!

jtr2803

crazy-cat-lady wrote: »

We've just had the maternity ward tours. Feel a little more happy with the hospital now having seen them. We had previously thought of going to the main delivery ward, stick to the doctors over the midwives in case of any problems. Nothing against them, but I'd feel more confident with doctors around me than midwives. But in terms of privacy, how quickly they can get you out and home and comfort, the little birthing centre rooms look to be a lot better, even if I won't be using half of it like the water bath or sensory lights and all the stuff.
They've been through things and I'm suited to one as everything seems to now be quite straight forward. So think that's the way to go.

Wow, I'm really quite taken aback by this! Have you had a bad experience with a midwife to make you think this? If you look at any type of evidence it's quite clear that under midwife care you are less likely to have a cesarean or instrumental delivery during birth. Doctors know nothing but intervention, that's what they are there for. A midwife is not just there to get a baby out, she's there to assist with the journey and your emotional well being.

The US has been obstetrician led for decades and yet have one of the highest maternity mortality rates in the modern world. They are only just coming to realise that strapping women to beds, subjecting them to constant fetal monitoring and pumping them full of pitocin doesn't lead to positive outcomes for mum or baby.

I'm really not trying to be argumentative, I realise I'm quite an odd ball in the sense that I choose not to believe advice at face value. I have literally spent hours and hours researching intervention rates, induction and still birth statistics, the pros and cons of hospital birth over mlu or home and I suppose the downside is that I see an NHS full of individuals with no autonomy over the way they care for mums. They are hand-tied by policies set on data from the 1950s or evidence that has been superseded in the past fifteen years but not updated.

I found a really interesting thread on the student midwife forums about vaginal examinations which really supports the above. I've also learnt of three of four areas now deciding induction at 41 weeks as standard, there is ZERO evidence of the effectiveness of doing so, in fact quite the opposite.

Sorry, I've gone off on a tangent there :rotfl:

I can really recommend evidence based birth, sara Wickham and midwife thinking for some great reads about all of the above.

jtr2803

Hope all goes well flutter!

I've put on about 17lbs I think but I was a bigger lady to start with so was a good thing really. I haven't actively tried not to put loads on so I think I've just been lucky!

crazy-cat-lady_2

JTR, apart from my midwife being completely useless, no I haven't had a bad experience with them. It's just my personal preference. Yours is clearly different. But seeing as I had placenta Previa and have a bicornuate uterus (both of which aren't causing a problem at the moment thankfully), if any chance of complications are likely to arise I'd like to have doctors around than a midwife. I'd feel more confident.
In the same way I'd never consider an MLU or home birth ..and not knocking either for anyone else, as a lot on people on here really want Those because it's their preference. It is just purely what I want. Everyone has different opinions, I don't see why that should be surprising! In the same way that a lot of people want to try hypnobirthing, but I don't and wouldn't. Everyone is different. It's what I want and feel confident with.

jtr2803

I'm not surprised that people have different opinions at all, that's what makes the world go round and for an interesting debate of course. I've just not come across an opinion so specifically against midwife care. It's actually more than likely that the midwife will be the one noticing any complications that may arise, I think their knowledge for the most part far exceeds that of doctors when it comes to birthing. They just can't do the surgery part of course.

I do appreciate those with more specific medical needs might want to have better access to high tech equipment should the need arise, makes absolute sense.