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pigpen

Bamama wrote: »

Thank you. Due 29th June so I'm just about half way. Dewi is alright about it lol. I'm not sure how much he gets it tbh. He came to the 12 week scan and knows we got a picture of the baby. Though I'm not very big yet so he gets a bit confused. Sometimes thinks daddy is having a baby XD

8 weeks! Not long left at all. Started getting your bits ready? I'm so unorganised this time lol!

I'm due 30th June. I won't be going much past 37 weeks assuming I even get that far.

I've not even told the 3 little ones yet.. 1 won't understand (shes 2) and it is too long for the other 2 (4 and 5) to wait.. we will tell them after the anomaly scan which is at 21 weeks think.. I really should find that letter.

I sold everything about 6 months ago so have 8 sleepsuits and a couple of blankets.. we don't anything else surely haha!! My daughter still has all the newborn stuff her daughter didn't wear so we will manage I guess.

We don't even discuss names, it is rather like admitting it is happening.. it'll have one before it is 2 hopefully! OH wanted to call all 3 Gabrielle and I hate it so the youngest got it as a middle name so it is off the cards this time.. he also liked Nathalia or just Tahlia!!.. that's not happening either! I would like it to have a name before its born though.. and it won't be any of those 3!!

Lemon_Tree

Hi all, I'm 24 weeks today so it's time for the 'big girl thread' eek.
We have both girls and boys names this time which is better than last time when hubby flattly refused to discuss boys names because it wasn't going to be a boy. He was right that time. I can't bear to think of the baby being born without a name, just like I can't bear the thought of the baby not being christened as quickly as possible.

Lemon_Tree

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lulu_92

Welcome Lemon Tree! I thought you were finding out what you were having?

My mum has decided she wants to throw me a baby shower. I'm quite happy about this as although I didn't really want one I know my mum is the best person to do it because she'll listen to what I want and don't want. So I've said that I only want family and my close friends, which is about 20 people.

My question is, am I mean for not wanting my MIL or SILs there?

I didn't realise until I went online that it is considered rude not to invite them, but I really don't want them there, for many reasons. I was under the impression that a baby shower was for the mum's side.

I'm expecting a bad response when I tell OH, I just want to know whether I'm right or wrong.

LittleMoog

I didn't have one lulu, but if I did I would probably have invited MIL even though I'd prefer not to perhaps your mum could arrange it as a "surprise" and not invite them

pigpen

Lulu.. it is mean to not invite the inlaws.. whether you like them or not they are part of your life and your childrens and part of your family and they would be very hurt to be excluded.. it would put OH in a very awkward position which isn't fair on him, he loves you all and doesn't need unnecessary strife.. for the sake of a couple of hours surely you could put up with them.. and if they behave like a$$holes kick them out.. you at least then have the moral high ground.. if you don't invite them you are in the wrong and they will hold it against you forever.. I'd also say it would be better if your mum asked MIL to help organise something as part of it so she feels included and involved and important.. even if it is just a cake!

Lemon_Tree

Lulu yes we do want to know what we're having, but they're not completely sure at this stage, too much maternal padding to see 100% clearly, but hopefully they'll be able to categorically tell us at my 28 week scan.
I understand your opinions about your mil and sils. I try and get on with mine but they're determined to treat me like dirt on the bottom of their shoes, so if I was to have a baby shower I wouldn't want them there, but then they would never turn up. My parents in law refused to come to my daughters christening because I asked them very nicely to moderate their language around her, every other word is the f word with the other words generally beginning with b or c! I'm guessing that as they told me straight I wasn't related to my daughter because I wasn't part of their family that I had no right to be concerned about the language she would pick up. They also offered my hubby money, that they don't have, to move back home and leave us on the same day.

lulu_92

Fingers crossed they can at your next scan then! Both our NHS and private scans have said they're girls so I'm pretty confident, although I haven't plucked up the courage to buy any dresses yet!

OMG my in laws are tame compared to yours! They sound like truly horrible people. It's such a shame that sometimes the DILs are almost expected to be okay with the way we are treated by people, especially if children/grandchildren are involved.

For me I have tried so hard to stop OH's family from using the racial slur beginning with P. OH used to use it and I flat out told him it was unacceptable, so he stopped but his parents continued to use it. My grandpa is Pakistani so my daughters will have that in their blood and I want them to be proud of it, like I am.

LittleMoog

Morning ladies
Wow LemonTree, your in-laws sound dreadful :eek: yours sound difficult too Lulu, that must be really hard when it's your heritage. My MIL is just really annoying I think I've got off lightly in comparison

I had my 34 week MW appointment this morning, and I've booked in for a home birth after much discussion with DH. Have consultant in 2 weeks, so still need to discuss with him, but I know they can't actually forbid me to do it, it's more if he has a compelling reason why we shouldn't do it. Am going to get DH to come with me as last time I was outnumbered 6 to 1 by medical staff and got shouted down by midwives when I raised the subject. My community MW has been really lovely and positive about it though, and it's the CMW team that attend home births here so she's probably got more experience with home VBACs than the hospital ones. She's coming to do a home visit next Friday to finalise all the paperwork. We have our final hypnobirthing session on Monday and our teacher has offered us the loan of her pool, so need to organise that with her, and think about other supplies we might need.
Other than that nothing exciting going on here, just plodding on and starting to feel pretty big now, 4 weeks left at work today :j We've all had a rotten bug and I've still got no voice and a really sore throat. Popped into the pharmacy on my way to work after midwife, but they told me all I could take was unmedicated throat sweets, which aren't helping at all. Feels like I'm swallowing razor blades!

Lemon_Tree

lulu_92 wrote: »

Fingers crossed they can at your next scan then! Both our NHS and private scans have said they're girls so I'm pretty confident, although I haven't plucked up the courage to buy any dresses yet!

OMG my in laws are tame compared to yours! They sound like truly horrible people. It's such a shame that sometimes the DILs are almost expected to be okay with the way we are treated by people, especially if children/grandchildren are involved.

For me I have tried so hard to stop OH's family from using the racial slur beginning with P. OH used to use it and I flat out told him it was unacceptable, so he stopped but his parents continued to use it. My grandpa is Pakistani so my daughters will have that in their blood and I want them to be proud of it, like I am.

Mine are also very racist despite the fact they themselves are immigrants and came from Italy. They are racist about every culture except their own which therefore includes the English which I do point out their own children are. They have also have insisted that we must have a boy so I'm really worried that they will ignore my daughter even more if this baby is a boy.