MSE Pregnancy Club 28

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skintchick wrote: »

And yes, I have a baby now!

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Congratulations! Not great you were in such pain, glad that you and the wee boy are safe and healthy x

I'm feeling similar to other poster here... the birth scares the heck out of me however you look back at others who were on here and the time has passed for them to give birth and they're ok so I'm focusing on that.

skintchick wrote: »

As for what to wear in labour, I wore a vest top and knee-length joggers, thens tripped the joggers off quite early so was in pants, then took pants off the actually birth and stripped the vest top off after birth so I could feed. Just wear something comfy that's easy to take off - you won't care what you look like!

... I know I won't care - I said this in my post but I think the hospital would raise an eyebrow if I turned up in the car in my birthday suit. Think I'll start off with a gown or nighty and see what happens...

MrsC....tobe

We'll ladies you were right about me and work. Went to the midwife this morning and she asked how I am and I completely cracked up and she wanted to get a gp to sign me off there and then.
Didn't stop crying for about 2 hours if not more. Had to compose myself to go into the closest site to pick things up, and the boss that organised my secondment was there and I just couldn't say anything. When I got to the other site I was asked how things went and I burst again. The short is that now I've got someone else working with me for the next couple of weeks so that we can share travelling, and the week after that I'm taking a weeks holidays and then work between two sites so I'm not having a two hour round trip every day.
I had planned to work until the end of September but think I'm going to bring it forward a week and take my last 8 days leave immediately before that. Although if I get worse and need signed off I checked the maternity policy today and they don't start maternity leave through pregnancy related illness until 36 weeks which is better than I thought it would be.
I had planned to go and visit family the first week in September but since midwife isn't happy about me driving I'll be cancelling that thought and just staying home and trying to get things sorted in my head and at work.

I finally admitted to myself and hubby today that I've hated every single minute of the last six and a half months to which he came out with the very helpful statement of 'it's only going to get worse'. I could have thumped him!

I didn't expect this to happen today but apparently he could see it coming. Nobody else did though as I'm really good at hiding things at work.....

Bluebell1000

I'm glad that your work are trying to make things a bit easier for you MrsC.

Saw the midwife today for my 34 week appointment. She's happy that the baby has turned and is head down, and has booked me in for a home birth risk assessment in just under 2 weeks time. We took DS with us this time - she delivered him and was very happy to see him - and he had a huge tantrum as we left because he wanted to go back to the doctors!

credit_crunch

Hugs mrs C!
I decided to work until 37+6 which will be next Tuesday! If I am ever fortunate enough to be pregnant again, I will not work as long! It's much harder than I thought!

Is anyone using clary sage oil? I bought some today (£7.75:eek:)
Should I add a few drops to the bath or mix it & use a massage oil for bump?

Off to google it now as well x

Lemon_Tree

sorry to hear what happened Mrs C, you have my complete sympathies.


I'm now planning on working till I'm 37 weeks, i'll be off sick until 34 weeks, so will only have to cope with 2 1/2 weeks back at work, but I'm still trying to figure out how I'm going to cope. Which is so different to how I am normally, I usually 'love' going to work.

teaandcakeordeath

MrsC if you need to be off then maybe cut yourself some slack? I know it's hard- I planned to work until 37 weeks but with baby being inducted/ possible section and my hip dying a death there was no way it was possible. Even though I was in hysterics when the doctor signed me off for 3 weeks I appreciate it now. I'll never get this time back for myself- i'm relaxing (didn't think it was possible), enjoying spending time with my OH, saying goodbye to this childfree part, having a bit of a pamper and resting (constantly napping...). I think had I gone to 37 weeks I'd have been a harrassed wreck. I really enjoy my work and get on really well with my colleagues (not so much senior managers... Lol) and whilst I missed it for the first week I can't imagine how i'd have coped. Perhaps you could take some sick leave and then return for the remainding time to prevent your mat leave kicking in before you want it to?

Btw- I don't think you're alone in not liking pregnancy! I have felt so out of control, powerless, like my body isn't my own, terrified, anxious etc. Maybe second pregnancies are easier as you know what to expect but I think this is hard and I think there's a taboo to say that you don't enjoy it. My mum was horrified when I said I didn't like being pregnant- i'm in it for the end product! hugs. xx

teaandcakeordeath

Clary sage oil... To google! Lol.

Bluebell1000

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

Maybe second pregnancies are easier as you know what to expect but I think this is hard and I think there's a taboo to say that you don't enjoy it.

Sorry to disappoint, but no, it's harder (for me at least!). In all fairness though, I did have a reasonably easy time first time around. This time it's more tiring because I have a toddler wanting me up and playing and dancing, there's not really much rest or relaxation time.

alioops78

Mrs C sorry that you're having a hard time with it and maybe you should get signed off until things calm down for you. Good thing that your work has at least done something to try and help.

I'm working until 34 weeks as I've got 4 weeks holidays that I'm taking and mat leave will start when I'm 39 weeks. I definitely wouldn't be able to work up until 37/38 weeks as I'm really struggling with fatigue on the weekends.

Just checked our calendar and there are no events on this weekend only a housewarming tonight which I've already warned DH that if I want to go home I'm going to go home whether he comes with me or not :rotfl:. He wasn't happy with this but I mentioned it in front of our friends and they agreed that I have final say

Hugs for anyone that needs them.

AquamarineMonkey

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter PommeVerte. I hope you recover quickly from the blood loss.

Congratulations on the birth of your little girl wangdoodle. Sorry to hear you needed an emergency c-section, hope you recover quickly and make sure you don't overdo things in the first few weeks!

Congratulations skintchick on the birth of your son - I think you're very brave giving birth at home!

Re second pregnancies - in my case the 2nd pregnancy was much easier, and also the birth went to plan 2nd time round too (well sort of). But it is very tiring being pregnant and already having a toddler, and especially afterwards with a newborn and a toddler, but so long as you have people around prepared to help you I have found it's a lot easier.
OH and I have even managed a trip out to the cinema whilst MIL babysat, I couldn't have contemplated that in the first 3 weeks after DS was born!