MSE Pregnancy Club 28

teaandcakeordeath

Hope you're ok skint. xxx

When baby goes a bit quiet on me I can be quite firm with it. Lol. I'm not adverse to giving it a hard poke, jumping up and down, hanging upside down off our bed or pushing my belly from side to side. I figure it's only fair seeing as it's kicking my bladder and now hurting my ribs. Quid pro quo baby!

I hope I can avoid induction too Jen but at the same time I've decided I'm not going to stress about it. I truly believe I'm going to end up having a section- so anything 'better' than that is a massive bonus. Not at all what I want but it's been my fear and gut instinct all along. I just want to keep surprising the doctors and keep meeting the two week milestones they've given me so baby is as well as possible when it comes. Will have to get a crack on with the house though! :eek:

RobotsinDisguse

Hi ladies big hugs to skintchick I was exactly the same yesterday couldn't even face reading here by the afternoon.

Yesterday was very stressful I spent most of the day crying. Tea&cake, I wish I could change to your attitude about what will be will be but I just can't - I really don't want an induction.. Husband is worried about me he wants me and baby to be fine but he's not doing the things I have asked him to do to help...

It's like he still has his head in the sand. I asked him a week ago to buy oil of evening primrose and he still hasn't and I haven't been able to get anywhere big enough to buy some (he's been to a superstore and walked past a chemist on a couple of occasions).

After a couple of weeks pestering he's finally read over my birth preferences notes. Feels a bit pointless now but it does mean he understands a bit more where I'm coming from.

And as for the other help, (the one that fellas usually can't wait to help with), ahem, I find it difficult to request that at the best of times let alone when I'm feeling huge, achy and unattractive and I have even asked... & midwife has mentioned it too. We've dtd once, once, since getting the induction warning. That's not proactive.

Last night I asked him to do the acupressure points I can't reach, he did, but after 5 minutes stopped as his hands got sore. I had to bite my tongue about the bits of me that are already sore & the bits that are going to get exceedingly sore in the next few days - especially if I have to have an induction!

I'm sorry this is a pity post I'm just so very frustrated and kind of at the end of my tether. I can't take the stress and worry anymore.

Even the hospital isn't helping. In fact They are making it worse. I had been told by labour ward that my husband could stay during the induction process (even overnight ). I rang yesterday to check the arrangements & someone else told me "no we don't do that yet we thinking about starting in a couple of weeks" so I just feel messed around.

- For context : some of the drugs used in induction are contra-indicated for those with high blood pressure and risk of liver and kidney problems. As far as we know I have no signs of pre-eclampsia, but they don't want to do the blood test to find out if my liver and kidney function is fine or not, they just want to induce me. ( i'm okay with the hormonal pessary side of induction and do not want the drip because everything I have read means it could be bad for me, bad for baby - extra lethargic on top of my regular drugs causing that - and make labour harder. that is of course if it's not urgent, and so far it doesn't seem to be... ) I've had a community midwife and delivery unit Midwife both tell me that they can't understand the rationale behind the induction....

... But as I'm now 40+4 I know rationally speaking we will be looking at it soon enough anyway...

A Midwife is coming out after lunch to check BP. It's not my regular one, I've no idea if she'll check me out and perform a blood test. I called this morning but the unit couldn't say. Ho hum.

teaandcakeordeath

TBH robots I truly believe had the last week happened before I caved and spoke to mil I would've been climbing the walls or in a hysterical state somewhere. I think the fact that my 'high risk' pregnancy was going so well to the point I considered it was 'low risk' helped me to massively delude myself. When the mil's pet doctor told me that in their case reviews they hadn't expected me to carry baby past 15- 20 weeks it felt like the first time they'd been honest with me and it helped me mentally.

I also still go to counselling sessions from when I was referred to IVF. My counsellor helped me a lot last week by pointing out how passive I was being and that as much as I'd like to think I was in control that baby would do what it wanted and when it wanted to- regardless of my birth plan! Hearing that out loud really helped me.

Don't be harsh on yourself. It's horrible being so stressed out about the disconnect between what you want and what you fear. Maybe really speak to OH about your fears, stresses and worries and how he could be helping. I've been lucky with my OH so far but i'd nut him if he wasn't helping more towards the end! Take care of yourself and remember lazy daisy advice about cortisol/ adrenaline. The more stressed you are, the higher the hormone and the more it knocks out labour hormones. I hope it goes the way you want hun. xxx

Whattodonow

jenand8285 wrote: »

I am starting to wonder about me baby's position. I have always had a lop sided bump. Higher and harder on the right and felt all the kicks on the left. It has been like that for at least 14 weeks now. I though the baby would have moved at some point in that time.

I did ask the mw if she knew how the baby was laying at my 28w apt but she said it is too early to tell, even though she never tried.

I am 30 weeks today!!!! 9 weeks, 6 days to go!! Down to single figures :j

Congrats Jen!

That's strange because my midwife said that to hear babies heartbeat they have to get the doppler behind the left shoulder (...could have been right) so she was able to tell me how baby was lying. That was at 26 weeks.

Hmm having some funny symptoms. Got a very pale bruise around my belly button! (Dr Google says normal) And -TMI alert- having some peach/light pink (salmon coloured?) sticky discharge. Not sure whether to be worried about that.

Whattodonow

Sorry about my sporadic posts now I'm back in work I have to sneak on here in the day as the forums are rubbish on my iphone.

TCOD - deffo don't tell work about induction. Justify it to yourself by thinking its not 100% guaranteed what will actually happen in reality anyway

AquamarineMonkey

How are you getting on today daisie?

Glad everything seemed fine at the scan TCOD. DS was 2nd percentile when he was born and for months stayed 2nd percentile, some babies are just small, hope everything else remains fine and that it's just a case of small baby and nothing more serious.

MrsC can you get your doctor to certify you as fit to work but not fit to drive the extra hour so work have to keep you on the site you are on in order to comply with the fit note?

hugs skintchick hope you feel better soon and get any help you need from the midwife.

Robots hugs to you too, I really don't want an induction either. It was the right decision when I had DS to be induced as I had different risks that time, but I'm really against having one this time unless baby is getting distressed.
Sorry your OH isn't being more helpful.

WTDN not sure about the bruising and sticky discharge - might be best to ring your midwife for reassurance.

We've been into the nearest town today to get DS a haircut, then popped in a couple of shops, lots of walking and still nothing happening. 39 weeks today, so only 7 days to go until the threatened forced eviction (which I've made my mind up I'm refusing subject to baby's monitoring being fine).
I feel a bit silly wishing the baby out when I'm having a nice pregnancy and I feel really mobile but I'm desperate for her to come out naturally!

Whattodonow

Robots - massive hugs to you. Hope today you are feeling better than yesterday.

I am a massive control freak and find it very hard with this not being totally out of my control. It must be even worse with the hospital messing you about. I hope you can kick your OH's butt into gear and get him out buying and doing the things you need. Be aggressive!

Fingers crossed it gets easier for you xxx

daisiegg

Skintchick, hope you are ok and get the support you need.

Sorry I haven't commented much on the struggles re inductions etc - I don't really have anything constructive to add but want to send my support and hope you are all ok.

Thanks for asking how I am AquamarineMonkey. Pretty rough to be honest, I worked out that I have not kept anything proper down since Wednesday morning this morning I have kept half a piece of dry bread down so hoping it is a good sign. Still really dizzy, faint, nauseous, back aching like crazy, and getting braxton hicks which are uncomfortable (but not painful). No idea why the sickness has returned so badly - it feels almost like the first trimester again! I reckon it must be the heat. On the plus side I have lost 3lbs this week (it's ok, I had a high BMI to begin with and have been gaining weight all pregnancy!) On the minus side, the shadows under my eyes literally look like they have been drawn on with black crayons and the rest of me is the colour of chalk! So nice.

Can't believe I am only 27+1. Potentially 13 or 14 weeks left!!

Hope everyone is ok hugs to those that need them.

plantpot87

I tried to add jen last night to the facebook group but it said she was already invited.

daisie you can't always feel the movements as i found out yesterday when bean was trying to kick the doppler off the nasty midwife (go bean ). I couldn't feel a thing but she said oh look you can hear it kicking.

Though it did give me a scare when it was wriggling away so it took her ages to find the heartbeat, this one hates being prodded always has, and will only kick on cue for boyfriend much to everyone elses disappointment.

Was told baby was head down again three visits in a row bean has been like this :eek:

WTDN not sure about the discharge but the bruising is normal I've had it unfortunately it has now turned into angry stretch marks

hugs to everyone who needs it.

teaandcakeordeath

Daisie- have you been checked for anaemia? Maybe ask your doctor/ mw to test? I just got my bloods back from 28 week check and have to go and get px for iron liquid from GP this afternoon. I've been taking the spatone religiously as well but at least it explains the fact that I'm SO tired, my appetite has gone and I feel a bit ick. I hope the doctor can do something for you though- how you're feeling doesn't sound pleasant at all.

Just saw this- maybe it'll help? http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/morning-sickness-nausea.aspx#close