MSE Pregnancy Club 28

MrsC....tobe

We we're out at a BBQ tonight at hubby's work for a surprise for someone leaving. One guy thought I'd already had the baby and was asking who was babysitting etc. I must be hiding it well at 24+2 as I had on a loose chiffon top over a vest top and he couldn't actually see it until I lifted the top layer! He was rather embarrassed but it made me feel good!

Oh, and I found a jacket that still zips up round about me. I nearly had a wee party all to myself when I found that one!!!

Peonie

TCD, I did wonder why they were concerned so early that the baby was breach but now I understand. I thought surely there's enough time to turn? Going to the Trafford Centre on a weekend, are you crazy girl? It's good how you are taking control. Is it One to One midwives that you are with? I saw a presentation from them and thought I might sign up. She said they run free hypnobirthing sessions in Liverpool. You, me ans WTDN could go to the same one. Ha ha.

teaandcakeordeath

I'm hoping there's still enough time to and room to turn to be honest! But I think realistically I do need to start thinking that baby isn't going to and try and get over massive fear! Trafford centre was only because OH is doing a football course 10 mins from it. Avoided it like the plague last weekend but there's only so long you can spend sipping tea in mcdonalds scrounging their free wifi until the smell of the place makes you want to hurl! I may sit in costa in urmston all day tomorrow.... Not going back to hell! I walked around this morning seeing everyone spending a fortune and just thought "what a load of !!!!!' Even shoes couldn't hold my attention! Now I know i'm a hippy!:rotfl:

I am with one to one. My mw is lovely but think she'll be slightly disappointed that I probably will go into hospital now! (Not in a pressurey way, more because she knows that I wanted to be at home desperately). I haven't been able to fault the care. After my bump last weekend I rang my mw and she met me at home, montiored baby, took bloods then came back next day to give anti-d. It was her days off! I'm looking forward to the hypnobirthing classes. They also do a parenting one as well. Think they stay with you for 6 weeks post birth as well rather than the 2 you usually get and that's something else that appealed to me. She's also coming to my hospital appointments with me too which is nice as they can be a little overwhelming- especially seeing as both OH and myself default to 'rabbits in the headlights' mode! It is nice to have a named midwife though. I only had two community appointments before I moved to one-to-one but they were both with different midwives which really put me off.

How weird would it be all being on the same course! It's mad to think of the contrast between this time last year and where we all are now!

Whattodonow

One to one - best thing about them is the flexibility in appointments for me. Also I have about a million scan pictures now and they were free!

Have to say I've only seen my named midwife twice though, and only just got my notes. She has mentioned hypnobirthing but I'm only going to go if it's free because I'm not 100% sure about it - she's not mentioned parenting classes yet but I'll deffo go to those. Also Doin all the nhs classes soon and need to book my tour of the hospital.

lilmissreading

Whattodonow wrote: »

That would be amazing thank you!

Post 1969 on the the 12-24 week thread page 99.

Ta da! if you have any trouble let me know. i am reluctant to repost as it is so long and interrupts chat. Remember it's not a buy everything list but a prompt.

Again thanks for childcare thoughts. Had naively assumed there would be somewhere on the way. Plus hadn't even realised was doubting their commitment and/or ability. Need to get that sorted in my head.

Another first world problem (jeez guys you think you have pity parties, at least they are about important things) - at what point do children need a wardrobe rather than a chest of drawers? Currently we have DH's old wardrobe which is rickety and not for long lasting. When you put that in the baby's room, with a cot bed and changing table (ebay special) there is room for a chest of drawers OR the nursing chair. Now the great unknown is the changing table and whether he'll even let us put him on it. A greater certainty seems to me that children don't use wardrobes (and by that I mean me as I have no intention of hanging a child's clothing for a while.) Therefore the compromise is to get rid of the wardrobe and have a larger chest of drawers AND the nursing chair. I like the changing table for storage also and there is a fair amount already on it in wicker baskets etc. DH has some obscure attachment to the wardrobe (possibly effort entailed in moving it).

BTW when I say rickety DH is talking about buying brackets to permanently secure it to the wall, it is that bad. You have to fight to open the drawers in the bottom. I HATE the idea of permanently fixing something to the wall because it is too rubbish to what it's designed to do.

Daisiegg - sorry to hear about the dizziness. Hope they can find something to do about it.

My cousin came to my wedding in his jeans. He is a teenager and therefore I partly hold it against his parents. In the group photo he had the cheek to stand at the front. DH's brother went to change into jeans for the reception post photos. Mildly peeved DH but didn't bother me.

AFM, my mum and I had a big blow up when she asked me what I ws going to change into in the evening. I said I got to wear this dress once and once only, why would I change and why would I spend more money on yet another dress? Ended in tears that one.

Speaking of crazy suggestions, at the weekend MIL asked me when i was going to stop wearing a seatbelt :eek::eek::eek: We think she meant for comfort reasons. I replied that I was choosing discomfort over death/serious injury.

time2deal

Morning ladies. Littlemiss I'd get rid if the wardrobe but I'd also have to battle my husband. He hates throwing anything out. After four years I've convinced him just this week that the broken mouldy sodden (as it off stored in a non waterproof area) ancient set of golf clubs that I think he found on the side of the road some long time ago can be thrown away. Even then he reluctantly agreed!

Last night was fun, but I overdid things a bit. The roads were closed nearby due to a parade so we had to walk the last 1km or so, then sitting/standing all evening I ended up with a whole lot of stomach and back pain. It felt like the baby dropped as I was suddenly waddling like a pregnant woman - like you have a ball between your upper legs.

I'm doing proper bed rest today to hopefully calm everything down.

Good fun though! Very funny speech (possibly not intentionally) which I love. Weddings are all about the speeches!!

teaandcakeordeath

WTDN- my mil dragged me around the MLU on Friday after my visit. It was really quiet which surprised me! The birth pool rooms are lovely and all of the rooms are self-contained with en-suites and tbh don't look overly medical at all. The gas and air is hid behind picture frames and all sorts. I was quite surprised as my only 'labour' experience has been either obem or the 2 week mat placement I did when I was a student nurse. They all seem to look like hospital rooms where sick people go but the MLU ones don't. She wouldn't take me around delivery suite as she thought I'd bottle it but I thought it was a lot better than I was expecting. I think the hypnobirthing should be useful even if you go for all the pain relief and the rest of it in the world. My hippy friend told me it was a good coping tool- especially in early labour. I might not need it yet but if it can relax you when you're in pain maybe it can when baby is screaming at you and you've only had an hours kip! That's my rationale anyway! I need to book onto NHS ones too and the bambi workshop. Seems too real though once they're booked! :eek:

Lilmiss- I don't have a problem with OH having an attachment to a rickety wardrobe but I do have space constraints in baby's room. I bought this http://www.ikea.com/gb/en/catalog/products/30179435/ as there's no way I can fit a wardrobe in there as well as the cotbed, drawers and change unit. Thought it'd be fine as baby clothes are so cute and colourful anyway that it'd be nice to see them! It's going above the chest of drawers. Equally don't know if you've seen https://www.ikeahackers.net - there's loads of changing table modifications on there i.e. Drawers with change units on top/ over bath change tables etc. worth a look if the wardrobe doesn't *accidentally* fall to bits...

Weddings are weird things. I bought a pair of converse for under my dress (well they were blue and leopard print which I love and I live in converse...) and my mum cried. Actually cried! Ended up buying a cheap pair of the tiniest heels in the world (as apparently "everyone has to wear heels for the ceremony or you'll stand like a docker in the photos....") and then being blissfully comfy for the rest of the day! She also thought I was getting changed out of the dress into another one. Seeing as I'd blown our honeymoon budget on it (a complete whim which I kinda regret but it is so beautiful...) there was no way it was coming off! Had it on from 10am til 4 am!

Glad you enjoyed yourself t2d. Have a nice relax today as a reward!

time2deal

For my wedding I wore low heels from a wedding shop. I have no idea what they did with them but they were the most comfortable heels I have ever worn. I had them on for a solid 12 hours without even thinking about them. I don't think I could even say that about my sneakers!! Some kind of wedding magic.

It was an older crowd last night so everyone was properly formal, all the men with bowties and a variety of nice jackets. Except one young lad who showed up later in a suit jacket over shorts and sneakers! He had the casual confidence if the young rich so he got away with it. It was a rich group though. I didn't really release until I discovered all the people at my table grew up around Knightsbridge and went to uber posh London private schools!

I knew the couple from living in a block of flats beside each other (during their slumming it years ) so we were complete outsiders. Anyway, a view into how the other half lives.

AquamarineMonkey

Morning ladies,

I think I actually managed to get about 6 hours sleep last night

We're off to a BBQ this afternoon, although looking at the weather forecast I think it might turn into a house party instead. Should be fun either way.

lilmissreading - if your inlaws aren't sure about looking after the baby then it might be best to look for an alternative, as I find looking after my own DS hard work sometimes and as they get more mobile it does get more difficult, not sure how old your inlaws are but it's very tiring for me in my mid thirties (hence why I'm the one going back to work and OH will be staying at home). I know it's their grandchild but they might find it too much. My grandparents are in their 80s and whilst they love it when I bring DS round to see them, they say they find it very tiring after a couple of hours - and that's when I'm there looking after him, I don't leave him with them as I know they wouldn't cope. That said I have a friend of the family who is in her mid seventies babysit for me sometimes and she's fine, but she does have great grandchildren around the same age as DS who she looks after a lot, so I suppose a lot depends on how used to children your inlaws are.
Also, don't worry about it being a first world problem, that's what this thread is for, if it's important to you then it's a real problem!

Hope everybody is enjoying their weekends!

Aunty-Pickle

hello ladies!
apologies on "barging in" on everything....
just wondered if anyone was thinking of delivering placenta naturally or getting the injection?
I'm not even pregnant (yet) and am already reading lots of stuff!