MSE Pregnancy Club 28

Peonie

Lilmissr I think 15 mins at theirs in the morning is too long, surely 5 mins is enough. Are there some things you could buy and leave there like wipes and milk so you don't have to pack them every day?

AquamarineMonkey

welcome to all the ladies who have recently joined the thread.

robots my midwife also told me this week that I wouldn't get a stretch and sweep if my body wasn't showing signs of being ready, and although my consultants have been great so far they had neglected to mention this, I was under the impression it would be done the week before my due date to try to avoid induction, so I'm not feeling best pleased that might not be the case. I believe I'm having an internal next week at 38+4 to see if my cervix is favourable, so I'll be asking lots of questions now if it's not, and also making it clear that I don't intend on consenting to a c-section unless it's in an emergency with proven evidence from the traces and blood tests infront of me as it was with DS.
I don't want to put my baby's life at risk but at the same time I want to do everything within my power to avoid another c-section.

teabag sounds like you had a lot to take in at your appointment, at least they've given you plenty of notice about what date to expect your c-section, although you would have thought they would have given you more time to think about sterilisation.

T2D I've found the further on I've got the harder it is to both get to sleep and to stay asleep, so in my experience it hasn't got any better, but maybe it's not the same for everyone.
As your c-section will be pre-planned will the hospital not be using a specific surgeon to do it who is aware of your history? I don't know the procedure for planned c-sections as mine was an emergency c-section.

firey hope your sweep was OK and that things get moving for you soon!

teaandcake sorry to hear you've also had bad experiences with your consultants too.
I can also confirm that worrying about how you'd get the kids out in the event of a car crash/fire is perfectly normal, I think about these things all the time! My other favourite is what would I do with the kids if someone broke in (not completely irrational as I've had 2 burgalries and further incidents of theft from the garden over the years).
You spend all pregnancy worrying about your unborn baby, but the worry doesn't stop even when they're here, you just think of new things to worry about!

Laila I was really suffering with leg cramps a couple of weeks ago, but they do seem to have gone now, they were so painful and my legs would feel tender for days after. I haven't got any advice though as it just kind of went again of it's own accord but it sounds like some of the other ladies have good ideas.

Lemon Tree pleased to hear your hubby has made progress with the nursery. Employers are supposed to make allowances that pregnant employees may be more tired than usual and require extra rest, so if yours isn't supporting you then I'm another one that thinks you should get signed off.

good news about your jobs Lollypopswater, must be a great weight off your mind, congratulations on your promotion!

Anyone worrying that a c-section means you won't be able to bond with baby, please don't worry. I had a very difficult birth with DS and I was ill for quite a long time afterwards, but despite that we have a brilliant bond and are very close. For ages after he was born I could just sit staring, watching him sleep, and sometimes I still do that, even though he's 3 now! I did manage to breast feed, although I won't lie it did hurt as it made the area around the c-section contract, but it was a manageable pain and I think it helped me feel really close to DS. Although I'm sure I would have felt just as close if I'd bottle fed him and gave him lots of cuddles.

lilmissreading I went back to work fulltime after having DS, I was fussy about who I'd use for childcare, so my daily commute was 30 mins in the wrong direction to drop him off then between and hour and an hour and a half to get to work from there then the same in reverse at hometime (OH doesn't drive). So my daily commute was 3-4 hours a day on top of a 9-5 (sometimes 9-6/7) but I got used to it, and it was worth it to know DS was with somebody I trusted. I'd pack as much as I could the night before to speed up the mornings. Life is going to be easier after no.2 is born as OH will be a SAHD so my commute will only be an hour each way- heaven! I can understand if you wouldn't want to take the extra time though as it can be tiring at first, and I used to have to drink 2 cans of red bull to get me through the day, but eventually I got used to it without the Red bull. Also in time, you will literally just drop your child off and go, you might spend a few minutes there in the beginning, but we'd got to the stage where I'd drop DS off, give him a kiss say 'I love you and I'll see you tonight' and he'd just wave me off immediately.

No posts from sunshine - if you're in labour hope everything is going well

I'm 38 weeks today and I've still not packed the hospital bag! I think I've gone into some sort of denial that baby will be coming out at some point in the next 2 weeks and seem to think I have plenty of time to get it done!

time2deal

MrsC....tobe wrote: »

I'm still awake!!!!!

Just saying!

Well done! So am I - but off to bed now. Importantly I didn't nap today! Looking forward to a good night sleep and a lie in. We have a wedding tomorrow evening to look forward too.

Black tie no less! 'Carriages' at midnight, lets see if I make it that far...

fireyfirenze

thanks aquamarine monkey I had the sweep it was totally fine and not painful in the slightest, I wish I hadn't spent so long worrying about it. unfortunately it didn't really work she said my cervix was still really thick. she said that's really normal for a young first time mum (young! ha!). good thing is baby's head is right down, can't get much further apart from in labour!

I'll be going back next Friday for another sweep and to be booked in for induction if I haven't had her by then. really want to avoid induction so today I will be trying to go for a long (ish) walk amongst other things. only trouble is with walking my feet are so swollen none of my shoes fit me and it's not really flip flops weather plus they aren't comfortable! will have to see what I can do.

I'm only 3 days overdue but if another person tells me to have a curry I might explode, ha, I know they only mean well but I'm not keeping her in on purpose! 6 people yesterday said the curry thing. hope everyone's well!

ooh I can't remember who said about the grobags but you can use them
from 10lbs x

teaandcakeordeath

Lilmiss I agree with Peonie. 15 mins to drop off seems quite long but then I'd probably be chucking little one out of the car while it's still moving as I permanently run late no matter what I do! Also agree that there's probably a lot less 'packing' than you'd need to do- would your in-laws mind you leaving a baby kit at their house? Then you'd only have to hand over baby and maybe pram? Aqua's idea of packing as much as possible the night before is a good one too. Only thing I'd be worried about (and forgive me if I've got the wrong end of the stick!) is that the in-laws don't seem all that keen so I would be wondering how long the arrangement would last anyway iyswim.

I can barely think past tomorrow at the moment never mind childcare! Only slept 2.5 hours last night and am goosed- stuck in Manchester all day waiting for OH while he's on a course (and same again tomorrow, thankfully it's the last day tomorrow!). Daren't drive home as weather is poo, I'm super tired and I don't trust myself!

My shoulder is killing after yesterday- thought i'd got off lightly with it just feeling a bit stiff!

Thanks Aqua for the section reassurances. It's a little while off making a decision yet I suppose but i'm going to do more reading upon it, maybe watch some obem sections and then research breech births. Have a feeling that baby will be like Maggie Thatcher (not for turning) so would like to go into next doctors appointment with questions and plans rather than as passively as I have so far.

T2D have a fab time at the wedding! Is carriages at midnight what it implies or is it code for something else?

Thank you all again. Xxx

lilmissreading

time2deal wrote: »

Once you get going it gets easier. Boots do a starter kit for a new baby for £12 which I thought was a good start. And you are 50% towards somewhere to sleep. Nappies are sorted, and the 24 hour tesco sells milk and bottles if the boobs don't work!!

There is plenty of time. Maybe try to get one thing a week - in person or online. I suspect I will have FAR too much by the time this baby arrives.

WTDN - someone sent me a very comprehensive list that I posted a while back on the 12-24 thread. Might make you freak out but can have a look for the post number and page number if you like? Will be later as just checking out of the cottages we are staying in.

So v quick going to reply with big thanks later for thoughts on childcare and yes tcod I think you are right. I dont think they are keen and that is what worries me! This thread is so helpful for knowledge and seeing my own situation more clearly :T

time2deal

Just a posh way of saying chucking out time at midnight! It's at a fancy London private club - black tie gay wedding. Im getting a taxi there and back and lots of sitting (I hope). We will be the most boring people there! But I just can't wait to get out of the house.

MrsC....tobe

time2deal wrote: »

Well done! So am I - but off to bed now. Importantly I didn't nap today! Looking forward to a good night sleep and a lie in. We have a wedding tomorrow evening to look forward too.

Black tie no less! 'Carriages' at midnight, lets see if I make it that far...

Ooh check you! Sounds like a posh affair....hubby always wears his kilt to weddings and wedding receptions and it's an excuse for me to dress up.

I was disgusted a few years back when some people turned up to my brothers wedding reception in jeans, just shows that things are done differently in places. Us Scots love an excuse to dress up but when he lives people seems to have different ideas!

daisiegg

Hello everyone - gosh, I feel like I have missed loads having been offline-ish for a couple of days! Just been really tired and sort of reading but not doing much posting.

time2deal - have a wonderful time at your wedding! What are you wearing? We are going out for a curry tonight (the extent of our adventures at the moment!) and I am also very excited to be getting out of the house, albeit in rather less glamorous circumstances than you!

tcod - hope you can get some rest soon and shoulder gets better. I missed your upset posts as you had already edited by the time I read, but hope you are ok and remember nothing is tmi or too ranty or too self-absorbed for us - we are all in the same boat!!

fireyfirenze - I have a horror of going overdue for various reasons, but one of them is definitely the amount of 'helpful' suggestions I bet I will receive on how to get things moving! I think as a grumpy hormonal overdue pregnant lady you would be well within your rights to be very snappy in your replies. Hope baby makes an appearance soon!

AquamarineMonkey - packed that hospital bag yet?! I am on another forum all with ladies due in October and loads of them are talking about packing theirs now :eek: That does seem excessive to me but I will probably be doing mine at around 30 ish weeks as we are going on holiday just after that so I ought to have it with me really!

MrsC - can't believe you were still awake at gone 11pm! That is hardcore I literally can't manage much beyond 9.30pm these days Actually, to be fair, it is not really just 'these days'...5am alarms every morning do take their toll! Hubby is just the same and he is not pregnant!

lilmiss - I would also be wanting to make sure that in laws definitely are willing to commit...it sounds bad but you'd be in a bit of a pickle if they did it for a while and then decided they didn't want to anymore. Childcare sounds like such a dilemma! I know I am very lucky to probably not be going straight back to work and not having to worry about it for a while at least.

WTDN - I agree with the others that what you actually need for a newborn baby is nowhere near as much as what all the shops seem to want you to think! Something to wear, sleep in, be transported in, nappies, and a way of being fed if you are not intending to bf, sound like the absolute basics to me. Remember the shops are still there after baby is born and even if you can't get to them, OH/parents/friends can pick things up for you, and online shopping is brilliant.

Grobags - we have got a couple and I like the look of them. Will probably see how big baby is to help decide when to use them.

Vests - yes, vests go under onesies. I asked my husband this as he already has a daughter and he had no idea, so I asked my friend with baby twins last time I saw her!

Lemon Tree - I agree with everyone else that you need to rest and not take on too much. I am averaging about one day off sick a week at the moment! (that is because of the bleeding, but the bleeding is a sign I am doing too much, so it is all linked) You and baby are more important than work.

Ok I haven't read any further back than that....so, sorry for anything I have missed!!

Getting REALLY bad dizzy spells at the moment. I fell over on my way into work yesterday after the scan - suddenly went really dizzy and met the floor I was ok but did hurt foot/ankle a bit. Weirdly I am getting very dizzy when laying down too which is annoying because usually you lay down to get over dizziness. I mentioned it at the hospital and they just said it is a common symptom of pregnancy.

My naughty little miss has been kicking up a storm this morning after worrying us all week. Wondering if being jabbed during my scan yesterday made her move and now I can feel her.

I am having a lazy day today as I am out all day tomorrow for my sister's graduation in Cambridge - including lunch and dinner out. I am going to be shattered! Then I have a busy week at work so really need to try and pace myself.

Hope everyone is doing ok and has a lovely weekend

daisiegg

MrsC....tobe wrote: »

Ooh check you! Sounds like a posh affair....hubby always wears his kilt to weddings and wedding receptions and it's an excuse for me to dress up.

I was disgusted a few years back when some people turned up to my brothers wedding reception in jeans, just shows that things are done differently in places. Us Scots love an excuse to dress up but when he lives people seems to have different ideas!

I'm half Scottish so we had loads of kilts at our wedding too which was brilliant It fitted anyway as we had a ceilidh! I do find that women whose partners are in kilts tend to dress up more than women whose partners are in suits, somehow. It looks great!