Hen night: am I being tight?

Hermia

PenguinOfDeath wrote: »

We're supposed to give people engagement presents now?! :eek:

I know some people who expected to get engagement presents, bridal shower presents and wedding presents. Sorry, but you getting married is one event IMO and you are not getting three presents for one event!

duchy

F_Bear wrote: »

surley the hen/stag is the ebst part of getting married (espically for your pals), your only guna do it once, and when the wedding itself is prob costing 5k + then £100 for the hen do sounds reasonable.

booking without asking is abit daft tho but when a normal sat night can cost £100 then accom for 2 nites is ok. as for food and stuff take pack up, find cheap places to eat, etc. you can make it as dear or as cheap a week end as you like.

as other people have said, go enjoy urself..........

ps, im having my stag in Magaluf end of the year......................only reason im getting married :-)

The £5K (or a lot more) is paid by the bride and groom or their parents and they've chosen to...... a hen night for ten people at £300 a head ....and the same for a stag do is £6K -...more than the wedding !

BritAbroad

PenguinOfDeath wrote: »

We're supposed to give people engagement presents now?! :eek:

Engagement presents are nothing new. If a friend got engaged I would expect to give a gift, especially if there was an engagement party. When I got engaged almost 20 years ago we were given engagement gifts. In saying that, a short engagement amongst my friends and family would be 18 months, so the engagement and marriage would be two distinct and well-spaced events, so maybe that has something to do with it.

daisiegg

We didn't receive any engagement gifts (except from our parents) and didn't expect to! I didn't think it was a norm in the uk.

Georgiegirl256

I got bottles of wine and champagne (don't even drink it so they're still there!), glasses and lots of cards when we got engaged. Didn't have a party though as we didn't want one.

Our niece got engaged just under a year ago, and there was over 200 at their engagement party, I hate to think what the wedding will be like! :eek:

duchy

It'll probably be marvelous -Just like any other wedding !

I thought engagement parties had gone out of fashion. People always used to have one if the wedding was planned for a year ahead or more and a gift was expected. Often back then though even if there was no intention to set a date just yet that was the time couples moved in together - that engagement gave that some ...I think the word I'm looking for is legitimacy .

Georgiegirl256

duchy wrote: »

It'll probably be marvelous -Just like any other wedding !

I thought engagement parties had gone out of fashion. People always used to have one if the wedding was planned for a year ahead or more and a gift was expected. Often back then though even if there was no intention to set a date just yet that was the time couples moved in together - that engagement gave that some ...I think the word I'm looking for is legitimacy .

Most probably! I was more meaning the size of it!

So engagement parties aren't a new thing then? I didn't realise that. I just thought it was a more modern thing as back in the day, when people got engaged, they usually got married pretty soon afterwards.

paulineb_2

The friends I know who got engaged had a party and yes people brought along presents and that's why I made the comment I did before, if it's considered tight to spend a small amount on a wedding present, guests might already have given an engagement one.

paulineb_2

daisiegg wrote: »

We didn't receive any engagement gifts (except from our parents) and didn't expect to! I didn't think it was a norm in the uk.

I would hazard a guess that if someone gets engaged and has an engagement party that people might bring along a gift.

I dont actually know whats fashionable and what isnt, just that when most of my friends got married and that was between 15 and 20 years ago now, I attended a lot of engagement parties and everyone brought gifts along.

Most of the couples who got engaged got married within the year so another present was bought for the wedding.

Pollycat

1886 wrote: »

I've got two friends (they don't know each other) who are both getting married this year. One told me last wkend that his stag do will be somewhere in eastern europe and that he won't be doing anything in england for people who can't go. A few days ago the other friend basically said exactly the same!!

There's no way I'll be able to afford to go to both, I don't even know if I can afford to go to one. I think it's a bit selfish on both of their accounts. If it was me I'd do the abroad thing but have a night out back home too

The wife and I are hoping to go to Spain this year, we did'nt go on holiday last year. There's no chance of me going away three times this year. I can see me not going on either stag do

I'd be telling both of them that I won't be going as a holiday with my OH takes precedence over stag parties.