12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

daisiegg

wangdoodle wrote: »

We also BD with me on my back quite a lot (sorry if TMI!) and it's not uncomfortable...yet!

WD x
24+5

I don't think it can be called BDing anymore, bit late for that we do too, it is my favourite so I want to make sure we do as much of it while we still can

I just had to go into town and everywhere I looked there seemed to be pregnant ladies. Beautiful, blooming pregnant ladies with gorgeous bumps. And when I caught sight of myself in the reflection in a shop window I just look fat, lumpy, spotty, and horrible I wish I had lost more weight before falling pregnant so I could look lovely with a lovely bump. As it is I know I am just going to look like a ball. A fat, lumpy, non-pregnant, ate-all-the-pies ball

Ok, pity party over...! Sorry!

time2deal

I sympathise Daisegg! I'm convinced I will never have a proper bump, but still early days. I have a hard line I can feel today about my pubic bone but it's also right in line with the big scar and staples, so not sure if it's swelling or uterus rising up.

Can I have a whinge about sleeping positions? I'm a tummy sleeper, and that is clearly not possible now. I can tilt to the right or left with one of those full length tummy support pillows but I've had a long (20 yr) problem with my left shoulder so I can't sleep on that side for more than 20 mins or so before I get bad nerve type pain. On the right there is some weird sharp stretching pain in my groin that gets more intense after a few minutes. So I search for a 'just right' position, and then wake up after a while and try to find another spot. And moving the pillow about is a massive undertaking so I keep waking DH up.

And sex! I miss sex. We have been told that in 6 weeks we can gently try again. I feel like for that last 18 months I need a note from the doctor everytime we get the urge.

purcy81

If it makes you feel any better T2D DH is absolutely refusing to go anywhere near me below the waist as he would find it "weird" lol he keeps saying he always told me he didn't think he'd want to while I had a bump and to be fair to the man he actually did make his feelings clear right from the beginning. I'm not going to force the issue as we are still loving and affectionate and touchy feely and I think after our losses he is a little scared still which I totally understand.

As for the back sleeping I've found it too uncomfortable for a while now and I was always a back sleeper before but I bought a dream genii to force me to lie on my side and it seems to do the trick.

jenand8285

Me and the hubby have only DTD once since our BFP. He also said it felt weird and was worried about the baby. He did give in last week though but I think as soon as I have a bigger bump he will stay clear!
It does not bother me either TBH, as I can not be bothered most of the time anymore

daisiegg

Ok I didn't mean to sound like we were at it all the time...lol...I think it has literally been about 6 times since getting BFP! Didn't help that I had horrible thrush and then just as it cleared up for me, we had sex and it must have not been completely gone cos hubby got it too and then that was another week and a half with no action

For the first 12 weeks I couldn't have cared less...but since hitting the second trimester I seem to have come over all, erm....:o a bit 'on heat'...lol! Hubby is very busy at work and tired and stressed at the moment so he is very much not 'on heat'. Also when we did it the other night he was a bit weird and afterwards said 'I am worried the baby can hear'!!! :rotfl: I have not heard that one before! Part of me misses TTC when we had to do it all the time. That was fun! I know we are very lucky with how TTC worked out for us and some of you ladies had a very different experience so probably do not feel the same about all that.

My husband just forwarded me an email from one of his work friends announcing the birth of a baby boy. The email was sent to the whole firm and it made me feel really excited about when husband gets to send out an email like that!

I don't know if anyone who was on the less than 12 weeks thread remembers me talking about my grandad's 'interesting' name suggestions. His favourites are still Gussy, Wanda and Xena, but today I was in the phone to my nan and he called in the background that he has thought of another name....Dana. Now that is marginally better than the others, but it is still not going on the list! :rotfl:

wangdoodle

Aw daisie sorry you feel that way about your bump. Don't be too hard on yourself as I'm sure it's not due to your weight. Everybody just carries it differently. I feel just the same and I was a healthy weight before I became pg. I don't have a lovely neat bump at all, I just look kind of thick and lumpy and feel a bit unattractive. I think it's just par for the course, very few women feel nice and slinky when pg. I might try to take a pic when I get home for some lumpy bump solidarity

I'm the same re sex as well. I also suffered with thrush at the start and wasn't too bothered about bedroom action. But now I seem to findy OH totally irresistible. He's not complaining!

purcy do you think the great genii was worth the money? I'm hoping to get by with my trusty old v shaped pillow rather than shelling out, but I can't see sleeping getting more comfy as we go on!

purcy81

I got my dream genii off amazon for about £33 ish as when I looked in mother care it was £50 :eek: still a little pricy but I've definitely noticed I'm getting more sleep and waking up with less achiness than I was before I started using it so I think it was worth the price. It takes a little getting used to but its make a difference in how comfortable I am.

Daisiegg I love the crazy names but I must admit I actually quite like Dana, I think I may have to steal it for the list of possible girls names Hope you have a wonderful time in America as well x

lilmissreading

daisiegg - don't think I'll forget Gussy! :rotfl:

For the first 11 weeks I think we DTD once (maybe twice) as I was [STRIKE]tired[/STRIKE] exhausted, feeling unattractive and uninterested. Adding in boobs that could sense movement in the next room let alone anyone near them and it was not a good time. I too had a nostalgic moment for TTC days as we did not spend long enough to get disheartened.

I then woke up on Friday, full of the joys shall we say and made a highly uncharacteristic pounce on DH before work. He's then had a cold since Saturday and now I've had it, so we've tailed off again.

With regards to sleeping positions, at my booking in appointment, my mw advised getting used to sleeping on my left - something to do with feeling faint on your back and some big vein on the right which rang a bell from my first aid training. However she said the left versus right wasn't life versus death. The night of the booking in appointment (7 weeks) I was woken in the middle of the night by DH saying 'wake up, wake up, you're lying on your right!' My response was less than polite. I try to fall asleep on my left to get used to it but often end up on my back (preference). I'm hoping it sorts itself out naturally when moving becomes a performance.

Bluebell - exciting about the heartbeat!

Daisiegg - re alcohol, the Emily Oster book states that a unit of alcohol consumed over a hour (i.e. metabolised at the rate you drink it) should be safe as your body will have broken it down and there shouldn't be any excess getting to mini me. DH thinks she says 1 unit twice a week but I don't remember. I am tending to measure 100mls of wine (often white so I can top up with soda water) and then have it with my meal and finish it afterwards. It was not on my agenda at all until the 8th March when we went for an afternoon tea. I had maybe 25 mls of prosecco with tea and quarter of a pint of beer later. The real dilemma I have when out is knowing how much I can have depending on the percentage. This site has a really helpful table if you want to work it out and you think you'd like a drink.

http://www.nhsggc.org.uk/content/default.asp?page=s1737_2
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Lemon_Tree

lilmissreading wrote: »

Glad to hear I'm not the only person thinking I have a phantom pg! Exciting to hear the heartbeat. Was it a phlebotomist? Think you're brave - I am such a wimp with blood tests

yes that's the name, I can say it just couldn't spell it lol

daisiegg

Is anyone else still ridiculously hormonal?!

I am sitting here weeping after my sister just sent me a text...she is a medical student (only just - will be the real thing in a couple of months!) and texted saying she had a really hard day. She was talking to an old lady in hospital who said she would rather sleep on someone's floor than be in hospital, she was so unhappy she wanted to die, felt like a burden and my sister was the first person to talk to her or pay any attention to her or explain anything to her since being in hospital. Something about that has just broken my heart, thinking of all the scared lonely old people who are being completely abandoned and let down by the system. And it makes me selfishly scared because my husband is 15 years older than me so there is a very good chance he will 'go' first and I will be an old lady alone. So all of those thoughts have me just sitting here bubbling away!

Stupid hormones...