12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

Aunty-Pickle

I'm so glad everything was ok Princess Kate!

Any news on your scan georgie?

danielley

Princess_kate wrote: »

Scan was fine, saw the last 3 things on the list, did involve me lying on my side & getting prodded quite a bit but that doesn't matter, as long as they get to see everything they need to. Such a relief to know it's all looking good, baby kept moving & lying the wrong way, cheeky monkey!

I had to lie on my side during my 20 week scan to enable the blood flow to the babies heart to be checked, my little monkey wouldn't co-operate either It was quite tricky as I was bursting for the loo hee hee.

I'm glad your checks have now been done, I remember feeling such relief after all of our scans, it's another milestone after all.

I'm feeling fine today after my tumble. A colleague has pointed out that both times I fell just after stepping from the indoors to the outdoors , so I will mention the pattern to my midwife at my 24 (actually 23) week apt on Thursday. I have been reporting low blood pressure so it could be slight dizziness too. Look at me trying to justify my clumsiness

Hope you are all doing well.

x_missymoo_x

Glad you're ok after your fall danielley - definitely a sign to take things easy!

And also glad for you Princess kate that they managed to check the things that were missed at your last scan

I don't know about the rest of you who are now feeling baby kick, but I've not felt as worried about baby recently because I've been able to feel him/her moving around. Back when I couldn't feel it I was so worried (hence why we booked a private scan just 2 weeks before our NHS one!) but now, even though I know I have no more scans booked, I've not felt the need to see baby at the scan as I can feel instead which has been very reassuring. I've also started using a couple of apps on my phone to start to monitor and track patterns of movement, which has amused DH as I won't let him feel whilst I'm counting as baby normally stops when it feels his hand as if it's playing a little game with us

In other news, I met with my Head today and I've not been left feeling too optimistic The dates I requested for maternity leave were fine, but I don't think my request to go part-time will be granted. I'll be given a definite answer within 3 weeks, but the way she was speaking made it sound like it won't happen.

I'm really gutted as I now feel like I'm in limbo not having a clue of what my future entails. I know that for me personally I cannot work full time as a teacher in that school as 1. It's too far away (took an hour 10 mins today!) and 2. My workload is already huge and hard to cope with, I'm always bringing work home e.g. lesson planning, marking etc which I'm finding hard enough with just me to look after, let alone then juggling work and a baby. I cried on the way home today because I've now got this sudden overwhelming feeling of 'What on earth am I going to do?' If I don't get my part-time hours I would have to work full time until Christmas when I would then leave, as in schools we have to give a half-terms notice period, again leaving me with uncertainty as the likelihood is I'll be resigning without a job to go into!

I'm can't remember if I've asked this before so apologies if you are all repeating yourselves, but how are you all planning to manage your work lives after your maternity leave is over? Will you be going back to the same job and hours or are you planning to reduce your hours?

Aunty-Pickle

oh missymoo, I'm sorry things don't seem to be working out re your hours. It's just yet another thing to worry about isn't it? (sorry, not being very helpful am I?)

I'm very fortunate in that OH has a really good salary and I only work part-time - 18.5 hours a week and just mornings. So at the moment I do plan to go back (I would only have to give 1 month's notice so not that horrendous) and we think that my salary would easily cover nursery fees without being completely wiped out. I've done some online searches and there's a really nice looking nursery fairly local which I could easily make part of my work commute (i.e. not completely out of the way) and it's on a working farm which sounds lovely! If I did decide to give up work it wouldn't be the end of the world - things would be a bit tight but not impossible.

Re: movements, I am only just starting to feel little flutters which I think maybe, possibly might be the baby?!!!

jediquigley

Nice to see lots of newbies and the list is growing.

Now 17 weeks started to feel baby move and small kicks last weeks which was great, hopefully the kicks will be strong enough for dh to feel soon.

Saw midwife today routine stuff nothing.exciting, don't see her again till 25 weeks but have 20 week scan in 2 weeks time :0)

Re work I used to work full time, then after first child went back 3 days, while I am on mat leave this time a redesign of services is happening so I don't know what kind of job I will go back to, also my money is due to drop in oct 2016 due to a previous downgrading, so I will probably be looking for a new job.

Still feeling pretty tired, getting nausea now and again and a dragging feeling down below which I didn't get with my first preg, midwife says all normal. Feel a bit sorry for myself as at this point during my first pregnancy I felt pretty good.

RingToBe

Glad to hear everyone is doing ok, other than the tumble! I hope you're ok danielly.

I had a consultant appointment today (now 14+3) and she didn't know a bloody thing. I literally had to relay my previous birth to her bit by bit, with her stopping me and asking questions. It's so frustrating considering I have appointments with several different consultants to have to keep repeating myself. Don't they read hospital notes?

She even asked me what kind of birth I wanted this time even though I've categorically been told by no less than 3 other consultants that I must have a c-section, or suffer the consequences of doing it naturally again. She's now writing to those consultants for confirmation. It's like they don't believe you! Very frustrating.

On the upside, my blood tests have come back clear - so no thyroid or iron issues showing up just yet. I could do without having to see an Endocrinologist as well!

Can I sit down and have a cup of tea yet....?

Aunty-Pickle

RingToBe - how frustrating! I'm surprised the consultant hadn't read your notes. Are they "your consultant" now? Glad your blood results came back clear.

gayleygoo - all the best for your scan tomorrow - and phoenix, not sure which day yours is this week but hope it goes/has gone ok.

sulphate

x_missymoo_x wrote: »

I'm can't remember if I've asked this before so apologies if you are all repeating yourselves, but how are you all planning to manage your work lives after your maternity leave is over? Will you be going back to the same job and hours or are you planning to reduce your hours?

I'm delurking again, so many people on the 3rd thread are, you know, off having babies and things!

I'm sorry about your difficulties with part time working and what a shame that it seems like they may not be able to accommodate you

I plan on going back but doing only 2-3 days a week. Not sure exactly what yet due to childcare. My mum has categorically stated she will help whatever I need, and she was hoping to cut down with her work anyway so it will come at a good time. Also, have to put in a formal flexible working request and hope that it will be approved. I expect to go back to the same job role and grade etc but will be likely to have different responsibilities and projects to work on which is due to a reshuffle in the department as well as me taking maternity leave.

Princess_kate

Sorry to read your post about part time working Missey. It's so hard to have to think about, and worry about, these thing at this point but it's all so important! I work shifts in labs in a large hospital, I haven't done nights since last christmas due to starting clomid treatment to get pregnant and then I got pregnant & didn't want to start doing them again at that point! I do long days (12.5 hours) now, which are hard but better than having to do nights! I have no idea what I'll be albe to go back working, initially I'll have to be re-trained after having nearly a year off, I'd like to do 2 fixed long days & 1 "normal" 7.5 hour day a week. Then we'll only need to pay for 3 days in nursery and I wouldn't be dropping too many hours from full time. However, they may insist on me working nights, or not allow me to fix which days I do work. I have no idea how that would work with childcare & it is a real worry. I earn a fair bit more than my husband so really I need to work as many hours as possible but I don't want to be in work 5 days a week with someone else looking after my baby more than me! I don't think I'll know what I'll be able to do until I meet with work prior to going back after maternity leave. I know it's something that is going to play on my mind until it is sorted out.

I also know exactly what you mean bout feeling reassured being able to feel the baby moving. I had 3 private scan by the time I was 15 weeks! Since I've been able to feel the baby moving and especially since having my anomaly scan I feel so much less worried about everything. Guess thats means it's time to really get used to the idea of having a baby in 4 months and time to start buying the big things!

We bought wallpaper for the nursery on the weekend but need to touch up the woodwork 1st, then wallpaper & then get the new carpet laid. I can see this time absolutely flying by with all the appointments, all the things we have to sort out and working!

Really looking forward to christmas this year, my 1st one I'm not working for 10 years! 5 whole days off over christmas is unheard of in my job!

Sorry for rambling on, hope everyone is feeling ok! x

millysg1

RE: Going back to work

Its a tough one as ive worked so hard to get where I am, I want to keep progressing but also I want to spend time at home with the baby. I also earn more than Child care costs so everyday at work will still mean I bring home a decent enough income (and MIL will do childcare 1 day a week).

I cant quite decide on how many days I want to go back on and I don't know what my company will say to going back part time. They should be pretty good about it. Im thinking of either doing 3 x 8.5 days or see if they will let me work 1 day from home. We have so many options and until I speak with work, im not sure what I will end up doing. I have no plans to discuss with work until a few months before I go back.

RE: baby kicking and reassurance
Im an optimist, so unless faced with signs of the contrary I just always assume everything is good. I haven't had any private scans and hardly any movement (22 weeks). I think ive skipped the fluttering feeling as the last couple days I think I can feel kicking. ITs my first so sensations are all new to me. Im not worried. Scan showed healthy baby and if it takes longer than average to feel anything, I wouldn't even know!