12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

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Gorgeous photo Mrs_T_M!!

Princess - how did you get on to the Mothercare parents evening and how did it go this evening? I've never heard of one of those before.

I had a midwife appt today, quickest appt ever! She took BP, felt for uterus position through my tummy and that's it! Not seeing her again now until 24 weeks, so that leaves me a 6 weeks wait in the mean time for my 20 week scan. Seems like the second trimester is all about waiting! Oh well, I've got my blood test for the Downs screening on Saturday and then flu jab the week after, so that's a few more things to keep me going until then. How exciting is my life right now, counting down until I get stabbed with a needle

Princess_kate

I was in mothercare a few weeks ago & they had a leaflet about the event on the counter, just needed to sign up. Think they are going on in all or most stores this week, could be worth phoning your local to find out.

The talks didn't really happen but there were a lot more staff around than usual so plenty of people to speak to & ask for advice. Was 10% off everything and 20% off nursery furniture we haven't looked at that properly yet but did buy a rocking crib as it worked out such a good price. Got a goody bag with lots of leaflets & info, a bottle of drink, a bar of chocolate! There was people from local baby related groups/cafe's and also the daisy birthing classes which I'm interested in doing.

Great picture Mrs TM. How lovely to see so much.

My husband kind of suggested us having another scan, I think he was disappointed with the pictures we got from our 12 weeks scan. They weren't great but after being obsessed with having scans to check everything was ok at the beginning I had got over it but now he's mentioned it I'm thinking about it again! Men! It is all a feeling of limbo, I get home & he asks how I and baby are, I can say I'm ok but I have no idea about baby. Obviously when you can feel movements you know but before you get to that point you just don't. I'm hoping that going by how quickly i threw up my toast this morning that everything is ok!

sulphate

Tilly hope your MW appointment goes well today and good luck for the consultant on Monday if you don't post beforehand.

Nicky glad you felt some movement and hope baby carries on moving! Perhaps baby has changed position so you don't feel it as much?

Paige Turner in the same boat as you!

Princess kate well done on losing half a stone! I have definitely gained more than that, although I haven't weighed myself since finding out. My DH feels the same about the scan photos.

Mrs TM lovely scan pic and pleased to hear all is good


I also went to a mothercare event last night - must be the week for them. Wasn't really what I expected, there were a few stalls etc but no talks, at least I got a goodie bag and voucher

I need your advice about something ladies. Ages ago my in laws offered to buy the cot for us. DH checked with them a couple of weeks ago if the offer was still on and they said they were still happy to pay for it. We then went round to their house last weekend and as soon as DH had nipped out the room MIL starts going on about how "crafty" he is for asking them to buy the cot, along with eye rolling and sighing about it etc. My DH is very proud and has never asked them for anything, and wouldn't dream of bluntly asking them for something like that. MIL has now made it out like it's a huge imposition on them even though they offered originally. I haven't mentioned it to DH but now I feel that if they do buy the cot it's going to become this massive issue if she's going to make us feel bad about it. I was so surprised at her reaction I didn't say anything, but I should have probably said "Sorry you feel like that, DH was only checking as he thought you had offered but perhaps he got the wrong impression" or something.

We've still got ages yet but we are going to Ikea this weekend to buy a wardrobe and so we'll probably look at other furniture too. I want to say to DH now something like "perhaps we should just get the cot ourselves" but not sure how to broach the subject or what to say.

Aunty-Pickle

aw sulphate that's tough. Perhaps if you looked at other stuff (at Ikea or wherever) you could suggest that it would nice to get all matching furniture and that then they could always make a contribution towards the cost if they wanted. (and then the cot wouldn't be "theirs" either!)

lilmissreading

*delurking*

Nicky - it is NEVER wrong/over cautious/paranoid to get checked for reduced movements. If it had been a brief period or you hadn't tried all the things you did first it might be different. The staff reaction doesn't suggest you were over worrying - best to be on the safe side for sure.

For others: my own particular bub was not felt by me until 19+4 and then he really only moved between 9pm- midnight. He did not start moving a lot until 30 weeks. I have had ups and downs in terms of movement but left side with a cold drink has always worked for me so all good.

Sulphate - is your mil normally manipulative? That's what it sounds like to me. What do you think she wants to get out saying this to you? Is she trying to cause problems between you and OH? If you can figure out her motivation will be a lot easier to work out what to do.

IKEA will still be there as you say. Quite easy to say let's look at other things. You can legitimately say it's all so exciting, then if you see something you like say it would be a shame not to get it while you're there. You can always take it back if need be. Potentially I would then leave it up to OH to discuss with his parents. Not sure it's a good idea to get dragged into this as I worry she is trying to make you look bad for some reason. Aunty pickle has a good suggestion.

*ahem* missymoo - I think from conception to birth it all seems to be waiting!

*relurking*

millysg1

that is a very hard one.

I think It may be best to just be honest with your OH and tell him your MIL gave the impression she wasn't too happy about buying the Cot. If your MIL was honest with your OH in the first place you wouldn't be stuck in this predicament. To be fair, she should not of said that too you in such a way. Puts you in the middle of your OH and his mother which isn't very nice.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

sulphate

Thank you ladies for your advice

MIL was fine before we got married and bought a house but ever since then... although she has always been possessive/clingy towards DH, gets annoyed when he doesn't reply to her texts straight away, practically had a heart attack when DH was thinking of applying to work away. She comes out with odd things often these days - always waits until he's out of the room - awhile back I told her we wouldn't be buying a bigger house at the moment due to us having a baby and my income dropping whilst on mat leave/if I go back part time and she said "well no one else worries about how they will pay the mortgage" and said that when she had DH she didn't want anyone else to touch him and that "I still feel that way" :eek: So it sounds irrational but sometimes I feel like she wants him all to herself!

So it's a bit awkward, I brought this up with DH before and he always gets defensive. "She didn't mean it like that" etc. I now dread going round there and him going to the loo (!) because of what she says to me when he's not there...

I think maybe I just won't say anything about them buying the cot until DH specifically brings it up again, and then it doesn't sound like I'm complaining about it. Like you said it's up to DH to discuss with his parents.

Ugh.

On a separate note - lilmissreading I'm reassured that you didn't feel much til 30 weeks!

lilmissreading

Oooh yes that is awkward. Good plan not to get caught in the middle. Horrible feeling you would end up the loser.

No one else worries about the mortgage?! Honestly.

Yes it's very important to know what is normal for your baby and that was his normal 19+4 until 29, then we hit a new normal. I even checked that the increased movements were ok! Not surprisingly it turned out he was probably just big enough for me to notice him more. Stupid anterior placenta :rotfl:

danielley

Hi all,

Lovely to hear/see all your updates. I'm especially pleased Aunty Pickle to hear that the mass isn't cancerous, what a relief!

Well, DH is having a wobble and wants to find out the gender at the 20 week scan! I'm currently 15+1. I've tried to stall him saying to think how special it will be waiting until after the birth and that the anticipation of the surprise might be the thing that will help me through the pain!

So we have agreed to wait until just before the 20 week scan and for us to make a final decision then, however if one of us (i.e. most probably me) doesn’t want to find out, then we shouldn't. I know you can do it where they only tell one parent, but I reckon I would be able to tell from his reaction as initially he really wanted a boy J

I would put money on it definitely being a girl… He thinks girl too now, so I think that is why he isn't wanting to find out, to help get his head around it not being a boy. Our 12wk scan picture looks like a girl if you apply the nub theory

We had IVF so I am off to google if IVF babies are more likely to be one gender than the other

We are off for a week long break to sunny Scotland tomorrow, we are going with my MiL as sadly my FiL passed away in the summer and they already had the break arranged so we offered to join her. A tiny part of me wishes it was just DH & I or shorter than a week but it hopefully will be lovely and not too much me being the designated driver or propping up the bar with a lime & soda (both DH & MIL like a drink!)

Aunty-Pickle

Oh my goodness!!! I have just tried on the two pairs of maternity (over the bump) trousers I bought off ebay! They are sooooo comfy!!!! They need hemming ('cos I'm only little!) but that's fine - so two pairs (one H&M!) for less than a tenner. Hoorah!!!!:j:j