12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

time2deal

MrsC - I meant to comment on the shoulder pain. I have a long running shoulder problem (like 20 years) but it has horribly flared up the last few weeks. I woke up to shooting nerve pains down to my hand today.

Really not sure what to do about it. Doctors have always seem to doubt me whenever I go and ask about it, as I have fine mobility and it mainly only hurts at night when I lie on my left. When it gets bad I tense up and so all my muscles get tight, and then I'm just told it's posture etc. But I know there is an underlying real problem/pain causing me to tense up, and the muscle problems are a symptom not the cause.

But it's a hard pain to replicate, and so I just live with it as it comes and goes. But I think all the hormones are relaxing the joints and making it worse. With my left hip pain the whole left side is becoming a major problem. At least the Osteo seems to believe me. Frustrating to have to just live with it.

And yet... I've no real idea how to approach fixing it. Maybe I'll book a GP appointment with my nice new GP and maybe a fresh set of eyes will look at it properly.

daisiegg

Interestingly I had horrid shoulder pain for the whole year last year and it seems to have miraculously disappeared (touch wood) since being pregnant. Only to be replaced by lower back and hip pain of course! I have no suggestions because I can't take anti-inflammatories even when not pregnant as I have a life threatening allergy to them.

Sorry so many of us seem to be having bad weeks....nearly over now! Good weather is due for the weekend and hopefully we can all relax and unwind a bit.

I didn't manage to go back to sleep after all. Have been back and forth phoning/emailing work as our year twelve coursework sample has finally been called and needs to be sent off today. That is the annoying thing about working part time. Feel really shattered and wondering when/if I can fit a nap in before going for the scan this afternoon.

Has anyone bought/thought about prams/travel systems yet?

We went shopping with my parents on Sunday after the gender scan as they are buying our pram. They had set a very generous budget of £1000. I had my heart set on the Bugaboo Cameleon 3. It just seems to be everything I want in a pram. Only problem is it doesn't fit in my boot without either removing a wheel, or leaving the parcel shelf off. However...we discovered that none of them really do so I think I will be removing wheels or parcel shelf whatever we get.

On the day my mum really liked it as well and we came close to ordering it until my dad urged me to go away and think about it because he really thinks I want something that fits in the boot easily with no faffing (nice idea dad but I actually don't think that exists!)

Anyway, yesterday I was talking to my mum and she seems to have completely changed her tune. She has apparently been talking to people at work who all say that I will only use the pram for a couple of months before buying a cheap umbrella style buggy so now she is thinking it is a waste of money. She said last night 'we can afford up to £1000, and we want you to have exactly what you want....but don't want to waste our money'! That seems like mixed messages to me lol.

Now I think I am a bit hormonal and crazy but I feel really frustrated. One thing they said when they offered to buy the pram was that it would be entirely our choice and they would not interfere. Now that is exactly what is happening! It's not like we can't afford the pram ourselves, it is them that want to buy it as apparently it is traditional. I guess I am just going to have to suck it up, put my sensible head on and go back and look for cheaper/smaller alternatives. I suppose logically they are probably right and I have never had a baby before so don't really know what I am talking about. But.....the non sensible part of me is pouting and stamping my foot and saying I want the pram I want!

That was my spoilt brat rant of the day. Sorry

daisiegg

Jen - sorry to hear about your work issues. That doesn't seem fair at all! I hope you are able to talk to your boss and make him see he has acted inappropriately and unreasonably.

Mrsc - does your stepson live with you? That must be really difficult. My husband's daughter is 17 and lives really far from us so I hardly ever see her (he travels to see her at weekends) but when she does come to stay I find it very hard. There is nothing wrong with her or anything but I find it tough to share my home with a teenager that is not related to me. I just grit my teeth and smile through it but I can imagine it must be tough having a stepchild live with you permanently

SewIt - how lucky you are able to get so much stuff for the baby hope the DIY is going ok. I bet it is tiring!

lilmiss - hope your hubby's exam goes/has gone well and you enjoy celebrating! My degree is in Eng lit, good choice Sorry to hear you are feeling so tired. I am the same. I think I had about five minutes of second trimester energy boost at around 15 weeks and that was it!

Laila - glad all was well at your consultant appointment though it must be annoying to feel it is a waste of time.

Lixi - hope you are doing ok. Keep us updated on the slapped cheek issue xx

Sorry if I have missed anyone! Sometimes I worry I just keep ranting myself on this board and don't reply to others so I am trying to be better!

teabag29

Yay i've reached 24 weeks today :j Bought everything we need, just need a baby now haha. What group is the next one after this, I cant see one that says 24+??

time2deal

congrats TeaBag! The 'big thread' is next.
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4893276

MrsC....tobe

Daisie, yes he does. The other two live with their mum and he is even worse when they are with us too as he is not the centre of attention.
We haven't discussed the baby buying presents for his/her brothers and sister but I certainly won't be bringing up that subject as they get so much as it is that it is not necessary. It is about the baby being born not about them. MIL still goes and buys extra presents for each of them when it is each others birthday and wraps them so they don't feel left out. Hello, they also have a birthday in the year! Ridiculous if you ask me.

Totally bad day today, first one this week and I hope it's the last. Just nipped home to let the dog out and took my temper out on the hoover and polish so at least something productive has come out of it!

monty-doggy

Hello all.

No I've not heard from work yet I'm going to call them on Monday.
I've been out with mum this morning and gad to come home back to bed I didn't sleep well last night and I'm exhausted. I just got to sleep this afternoon when these horrible chavvy kids on the next street started bawling obscenities in their garden and now I'm lay here with a headache!

Daisegg I'm the same pram wise my mum offered to buy my pram then my MIL did but my mum offered first and had her heart set in buying it so I asked MIL for the cot instead which she got from M&P.
my mum has been looking at travel systems brand new on eBay but the one she wants to get me is £159 and I don't like it I feel so ungrateful. I've seen a gorgeous one I want in M&P but ifs £500 plus £180 for the carrycot and my mum can't afford that. My MIL saw it when we were in there and said she would gave bought it and I wanted to scream! My mum keeps saying the same about the umbrella fold buggy and an expensive pram will be such a waste and I want to throw a little paddy and say but I want the nice pram!! Also when my older sister had a baby 14 years ago my mum bought her a proper silver cross pram that was about £700 so I want to say something but then I feel like a spoilt brat so I've kept it shut!

I have however told her I don't like the eBay one and can we keep looking!

Lemon_Tree

sounds like we're all going through it at the moment so hugs all around.


I broke down in tears yesterday at work because it was all getting too much for me, first tears of the pregnancy but I'm sure not the last. My manager was understanding but I feel a bit of a muppet.


then I nearly broke down again at the doctors this afternoon. as I mentioned the consultant at the hospital gave me baby aspirin to take to allegedly stop pre-eclampsia in the future, well I took them the first day but had real problems because they were dispersible or swallow whole ones, because of stomach surgery I'm not allowed to eat and drink together but have to take the tablets with food, so tried to swallow them whole. Had real problems because they started melting and then ended up with stomach pains all afternoon. Checked with the hospital I'm under for my stomach and they said though they're in a group of tablets I'm not supposed to take the dosage was low so would probably be ok, but if not take something like lanzoprazole or something. Well I went to the chemist to see if I can get the aspirin non dissolving which I apparently can if I pay, but it's unlikely that my doctor will prescribe it because it's costs more than the really cheap dispersible ones. Couldn't talk to a doctor because there were none there this afternoon so basically was on the brink of another crying fit.
Spoken to my mum since and she says even as a child aspirin made me sick, not an allergy per se but I've just never been able to take them (she's the same) so I know it's not just me being stupid. so now I'm left with not knowing what to do next, I don't want pre eclampsia if it could be prevented but I can't take the tablets that could prevent it. argh!

daisiegg

Oh dear Lemon Tree. I don't really know what to suggest why do they think you are at a higher risk for pre eclampsia?

Well I had my 20 week scan and saw baby girl again. Bizarrely, it was the same man who did our gender scan at Babybond on Sunday! Weird coincidence especially as this is not the nearest hospital to the town where we went for the babybond scan. I am slightly concerned I got him in trouble though by mentioning it....not sure if they are allowed to moonlight. But he said 'have I scanned you before?' so I just answered.

Anyway...scan was ok but he could not get a clear enough picture of the heart so I have to go back in three weeks when it has grown a bit more. He hadn't really said why so I asked does it mean there is something wrong, or is it because I have a fat tummy...luckily it is because I have a fat tummy lol. I don't mind, I would rather he had just said that rather than making me worry there was something wrong. I mean I suppose there still could be but he said there isn't, he could almost see it clearly enough but just not quite well enough to be satisfied. It's ok because it means I get another scan.

In other news it looks like the placenta has moved up already, which is great. I have not had any blood since the beginning of the week so I wonder if it has only recently moved.

He gave us four pictures for free when usually they are £4 each so saved us quite a bit of money - no idea why he did that, but my mum said maybe he doesn't want me to report him for moonlighting at babybond lol! As if I would. It was nice for her to be there and see baby in motion. She was waving and had her hands up by her head like she did on Sunday at the gender scan too. My mum said she will probably sleep with her hands up by her head when she is born.

I feel generally pleased it was ok but a tiny bit concerned about the heart thing. I'm sure it's all fine but I will just be glad when I know it is. Tbh I am surprised all my scans so far have been ok as I expected to have problems with my fat tummy so it is not really a shock.

lollypopswater

Daisiegg how small is your car/boot?

I have a polo sized car and we tried the icandy range in it the other day - the strawberry didn't fit but the peach 2 was fine so plan is to get peach 3 when it's available. Maybe worth a look?

We also found isofix bases a bit bulky in my car - gone for the familyfix even though we wanted the 2wayfix as it was just a bit tight in the passenger seat in front..