12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

daisiegg

I just read that too! What a twerp he is.

LailaP_2

Daisiegg I have been thinking about you today if it's not too weird to think about people you've never met lol and I am so glad everything is OK! xx

monty-doggy

Haha I'm off work and too much time on my hands!

alioops78

Yay Daisiegg great news and to have a reason for it is even better xx

lollypopswater

Excellent news daisegg! So glad you got an explanation xx

daisiegg

Thanks everyone it is so nice that we are all here for each other

I feel over the moon, really relieved and like a weight has been lifted. So glad baby is ok and the placenta thing I can deal with as long as I know baby is ok!

Bluebell - good news about the house! Hopefully it be positive

purcy81

brilliant news daisiegg so pleased you had a good scan and were able to get some answers x

monty-doggy

I'm so angry! Sorry I need to vent.

My oh has three children. He pays over and above maintenance and has given his ex the family home with £60k equity so his children have somewhere to live. She has switched the mortgage to interest only so her payments are only £280 a month. She rents a room to her dad at £50 a week, and she has moved her bf in last year. They have had a new baby.

We always pay half towards school trips, uniforms, coats, shoes you name it so they don't go without as she cannot manage her money to save her life. However we've had to tell her as I'm no longer working and we are £1900 in salary a month down, we can't do this any longer. Well today she hit the roof as she was demanding £8 towards a 'leavers sweatshirt' for eldest leaving primary school this year. My oh explained we can't and that's what her maintenance is for so she retaliated saying we must have had ivf to have this baby so why do it if we can't afford it? He told her we've not and we were as shocked as everyone else I fell pregnant so she turned round and suggested if we can't pay her as normal we should have a termination.

I'm fuming.

She even had the nerve to say she only has £560 a week to live on. !!!!!!??? That's a lot more than we have now!

Lemon_Tree

heavens Monty-dog that's terrible but unfortunately there seem to be a lot of ex's out there who seems to be the same.


daisyegg I'm so happy you have an explanation and that things wre fine.


on a financial note, I get 6 weeks 90%, 12 weeks 50% +smp and then basic smp. I will have to go back at the end of the 50% time period. i'll tag a couple of weeks annual leave on as well before I go back. Like someone else mentioned I'm the main breadwinner, and my OH works very hard for minimum wage. What we have decided (and may also apply to someone else here) is that instead of OH giving up his job/going part time straight away, we will swap my smp over to him from the time baby is 20 weeks old for the next 19 weeks to the end of my entitlement. This way he gets time to practice being a full time SAHD without juggling part time work for about the same income. Afterwards he will need to go back part time and I will need to ask for compressed hours or to work from home. My manager seems amenable to the idea but in all fairness within 6 months of going back to work I will more than likely be at risk of redundancy which is very scary. (don't you just love working for the public sector!).
I have been on a temporary salary upgrade in the last couple of year so I made sure that the extra money either paid of debts early, and now goes in savings so that we're not relying on it. We do still need to save extra between now and the birth but it's a good start and also means I can get a few heavy/ expensive essentials in stock before I go on leave.

time2deal

Great news daisy. All this talk of late bleeds is freaking me out! Glad baby is OK and you have a reason.

And welcome sewit! I know you are lurking...